Anyone else hate the school run?

Person_one

rachbc wrote: »

I'm not suprised from some of the judgemental twaddle I've read on here this morning - heck at least those in pj's, with 'croydon facelift's or whatever else posters feel the need to be snobby about are taking their kids to school - plenty don't bother sending the kids, or send them alone.

Seems you are damned for being 'too posh' or having an expensive car and damned if you are 'chavvy' or whatver - seems we can't win!

Do you think the dads snipe about each other like this?

rachbc

nope - bet they don't

SingleSue

School runs are the bane of my life....no matter if I feel like poo, I still have to be up and out and getting them to school (they are aged 13, 15 and 18!), oh the luxury of being able to lay in bed when ill, I can only dream of it.

I can't not do the school run, merely dropping them off is not possible as I have to do handover of youngest, same on pick up, handover has to be done with his TA. So flu or not, paralysing back pain or not, I have to do the school run and more importantly, do the school run and get them there on time!

As for chums at the school gate, most mums ran the other way or tut tutted me for having abnormal (their words) children. It got better when youngest was in a special needs unit attached to a mainstream school, all the other parents were in the same boat.

jojo_2012_2

I've just started maternity leave. I have a 9 year old son and have always worked full time until now. I absolutely hate standing at that school gate!

In the morning I boot him out the car before it's stopped moving. In the afternoon I stand as far away as possible and listen to my iPod or save those all important text messages. Supposed to finish school at 3.05, they probably get out about 3.15 :-/

I like about 20 mins drive from the school. Walking is not an option. Yet I get there and there's absolutely nowhere to park. I see people getting out of 4x4 cars, and it's like I KNOW where they live, and they still drive to school and use up all the spaces!

SingleSue

As for what I wear....well certainly not my night clothes (well we don't want to make the kiddies sick for their day at school :rotfl:), just jeans and a jumper/t shirt depending on weather plus outside footwear.

My hair is always brushed but I don't put make up on...too much faff and much too eek to try to do with 2 autistic kids having meltdown about me doing something in the wrong order (I like to be unpredictable, they can't bear unpredictable)

I did once think I was going to die of embarrassment once, got to the school to realise I still had my ultra comfy slippers on...thankfully no-one noticed they were actually slippers (they were the fluffy inside moccassins), they just thought I had bought a new pair of shoes! But I knew and it mortified me.

sassyblue

TBH l find all this odd.... It's got nothing to do with how you look or what you drive to school in - it's all about being judged.

I wear some foundation because l have pigmentation marks from pregnancy on my face (they've never gone) - does that mean it's fair to judge and look down on me as someone who can't go to anywhere without make-up on?

I like to look nice and wear nice clothes (always on a budget!) and because l go to work in an office after - so is it fair to say l think l'm better than someone else because l don't wear rags?

I don't always have time to talk to the other mums and l would be gutted if they thought l was stuck up, but l'm shy too! and don't always know what to say - you often end up talking about the kids as it's a shared experience but along comes another poster who judges that as boring.

I remember once when l worked in a factory cleaning (ye Gods some would perhaps think!) new workers would start and would be judged as 'nosey' by the regular workers - and all because they tried to strike up a conversation and get to know people. It used to rile me!

Christ, each to their own - what matters is what sort of person you are not what you wear, look like or drive. This is the sort of judgemental nonsense l'd expect to read on mumsnet. :A

saidan

i no longer do a school run and i do miss it.
my boys are R and Yr 2 but since we moved to a rural location are now taxied to schools (2 different ones) as we live 6 miles+ away.
I've never met the yr2 mums as he started there with a taxi service - but i really miss the R mums as we were all good pals in nursery last year.
our term night out is next week - from the 11 nursery mums there are now 29 R mums - and everyone was invited, but only 1 'new' mum is coming. Its a shame more of the new mums aren't coming - but they were invited, and it will be a fab night out.

for me the school run was a chance to make like minded friends - and as it is a lovely middle class school there is not a pajama bottom or fag in sight

meer53

Something else that i just remembered reading these posts which used to wind me up ! The "queen bee" mothers who thought that the zig-zag markings outside the school gates meant that THEY could park there, to protect their precious status symbols. I parked my Aygo 100 yards from school and walked, like most of the other mums. It got so bad at my daughters school that the Police were asked to monitor the parking situation and CCTV was installed. It didn't stop some of them though !

Bumpmakesfour

I'm in the minority here then because I've met some of my closest friends on the school run over the past 5 years.We go for coffees and tbh the kids aren't the main topic of conversation,we help each other out with pick ups/drop offs when one of us needs help and go out socially without the kids aswell as meeting up together with the kids at weekends etc.
As far as I can see there's no "queen bee" in the playground,I say hello to tons of parents each morning/afternoon and actually have a laugh with a lot of them!It's a nice part of the day having the kids burst out bubbling over wanting to tell you about their day.Then my guys have a 20min or so play with their friends and I get to catch up with the mums/dads.
As for the cars people drive..the clothes they wear..the make up they slap on.WHO CARES??Gawd how judgemental!!I try to teach my kids to accept everyone for who they are not what clothes they wear to mufti day or toys they got for christmas.sounds like a few parents could do with similar lessons!

gratefulforhelp_2

Ravenlady wrote: »

Well I can't so yes I guess a person can look muslim.

You can't look Muslim?

balletshoes wrote: »

I didn't pick up from her post that she thought she looked Muslim, she said she is Muslim and by wearing a headscarf over her hair on bad hair days, she thought she could get away with it as she thought it might make her look religious, because she is a Muslim. It made sense to me .

But someone who didn't know she was Muslim couldn't tell she was by looking at her...not in jeans.