Anyone else hate the school run?

Bumpmakesfour

adamantine wrote: »

continuation of the convo

"takeaway for tea tonight?"
"yeah saves cooking"
"got anything planned for the strike on wednesday"
"naa"
riiiiiiiing (thats the school bell btw:rotfl:)

Wowsers no wonder you guys all HATE the school runs!!If those are the kind of convos you have you've picked the wrong people to talk to!We have some right giggles at home time

Nicki

adamantine wrote: »

im just back from the school run and i was ignored again as were the fathers who collected their kids and the couple grandmas who came for grandkids.

the rest said how cold it was and the weather was forecast snow today lol

So half a dozen mums were having a chat outside school and because they didn't include all 30 parents and carers in the same conversation, the rest of you felt ignored? I think I now understand why I enjoyed the school run and some of you hate it! If I turned up early at the school gate, then I talked to whoever was there, whether popular mum or not. If I turned up later, I talked to the first parent or carer I recognised in the queue. I didn't always try and muscle in on a conversation which was already established or feel I always needed to talk to the same group.

Had I been at your school gate today, I'd have been happily chatting with one of the dads or the grandmas and neither I nor they would be feeling snubbed by anyone! I knew all the dads and grandmas who did the school run just as well as I knew the regular mums. The ones I didn't know at all, or as well, were the parents who only did the school run once or twice a year due to other commitments, but they didn't know me either so I don't beat myself up about that.

claire16c

Bumpmakesfour wrote: »

Wowsers no wonder you guys all HATE the school runs!!If those are the kind of convos you have you've picked the wrong people to talk to!We have some right giggles at home time

I agree. The conversations I have are not like that at all.

I think some people seem to have a huge chip on their shoulder and are assuming a lot about people that they have never even spoken to!

It makes me wonder when people say they are ignored or invisible, have they ever actually started a conversation themselves?

onlyroz

claire16c wrote: »

It makes me wonder when people say they are ignored or invisible, have they ever actually started a conversation themselves?

I've never felt ignored or invisible, but I've never felt the urge to strike up a conversation with another mum.

We are also all judgemental to a certain extent. Here's a few judgements:

- Those mums who turn up to school dressed like they're going to a party obviously have plenty of free time on their hands because they're jobless and supported entirely by their considerably more intelligent husbands

- Those mums who turn up dressed in joggers looking like they only dragged themselves out of bed 10 mins ago probably did drag themselves out of bed 10 mins ago, and will be back in bed just as soon as they've collected their dole cheque

- Those mums who turn up in their "power suit" and who never attend PTA meetings, school plays or the summer fair are obviously on their way to some high-powered job and are only doing the school run at all to assuage their guilt over not being a stay-at-home-mum

- Those few dads who turn up are obviously inferior in some way because their wives have better paid jobs than them (otherwise why wouldn't it be mum who does the school run)

- Those grannies who turn up are looked down on with pity because they've obviously raised neglectful children who would rather pawn their kids off on the grandparents and go out to work than raise the kids for themselves

- Any child-minders are given a wide berth because they're obviously going to be descended on by a rabble of delinquent kids whose parents couldn't give a flying fig about them

adamantine

claire16c wrote: »

It makes me wonder when people say they are ignored or invisible, have they ever actually started a conversation themselves?

ive tried to speak to them. even just a "hello" in passing whether at the school or in the street or supermarket and they look at me like im a green and purple alien with 3 heads or something. they know who they know and dont like "outsiders" so to speak. why would they want to talk to someone new when they already have somone to speak to? is the general feeling i get.

the other topic of conversation is how wasted they were at the weekend or who is going to so-and-so's wedding/birthday/fancy dress party.

Caroline73_2

Wow! Conversations we've had this week include the rise of asking prices for houses in our area and if these asking prices are being achieved, whether Thomas Cook will go under, would you holiday in Egypt at the moment and a debate on the forthcoming public sector strikes.

adamantine

Caroline73 wrote: »

Wow! Conversations we've had this week include the rise of asking prices for houses in our area and if these asking prices are being achieved, whether Thomas Cook will go under, would you holiday in Egypt at the moment and a debate on the forthcoming public sector strikes.

i wouldnt mind those kinda convos but i dont think half the mums there would have any idea about any of that stuff.

gratefulforhelp_2

onlyroz wrote: »

I've never felt ignored or invisible, but I've never felt the urge to strike up a conversation with another mum.

We are also all judgemental to a certain extent. Here's a few judgements:

- Those mums who turn up to school dressed like they're going to a party obviously have plenty of free time on their hands because they're jobless and supported entirely by their considerably more intelligent husbands

- Those mums who turn up dressed in joggers looking like they only dragged themselves out of bed 10 mins ago probably did drag themselves out of bed 10 mins ago, and will be back in bed just as soon as they've collected their dole cheque

- Those mums who turn up in their "power suit" and who never attend PTA meetings, school plays or the summer fair are obviously on their way to some high-powered job and are only doing the school run at all to assuage their guilt over not being a stay-at-home-mum

- Those few dads who turn up are obviously inferior in some way because their wives have better paid jobs than them (otherwise why wouldn't it be mum who does the school run)

- Those grannies who turn up are looked down on with pity because they've obviously raised neglectful children who would rather pawn their kids off on the grandparents and go out to work than raise the kids for themselves

- Any child-minders are given a wide berth because they're obviously going to be descended on by a rabble of delinquent kids whose parents couldn't give a flying fig about them

This is funny.

skylight

I too hate school runs. Very few mums will talk to me and I suspect its down to a) I pronounce all my letters and b) I don't watch soaps so we have nothing to talk about. Apparently, I am known as the snobby one, which does make me laugh especially on those running late days so I haven't showered and am wearing tacksuit bottoms and my car is the oldest clapped out embarassing thing others tend to park away from!

My excuse though for not striking up conversation though is that I am not brain dead enough. One of the last conversations was when DD2 and I were looking at a Red Kite flying above the school grounds - not a usual sight as we live in a large town - and we were chatting about it. A mum asked what we were looking at and DD2 pointed and told her that it was a Red Kite. The mum replied (yes.. you can guess where this is going, can't you??) "That's not a kite, its a bird". I gave up after that. Happy in the knowledge I am the snobby one.

claire16c

adamantine wrote: »

i wouldnt mind those kinda convos but i dont think half the mums there would have any idea about any of that stuff.

Do you think maybe they are intimidated by you? I dont mean that in a bad way.