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Well done Rose, sounds like you're making good progress :-) xDiary: Getting back on track for 2013 and beyondDEBT FREE 13-10-13 :dance::dance::dance::dance::dance:
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Fab post about time, and doing 'stuff' - really made me think as I very much saw myself in it! :ASometimes it's hard to walk in a single woman's shoes - that's why we need really special ones!Total debt @ Oct 2008: £29,226.42 Credit Card- £[STRIKE]7493.56[/STRIKE] - £7243.56Weightloss : 0/34lbs0
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Had carp day and evening, won't post now as not thought through it yet. Finally feeling a bit better (ie less sorry for myself
) partly thanks to a happy coincidence bringing this to my fb page...
http://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_don_t_regret_regret.html
which has reminded me to also to re-read the book relating to this
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
Might be of interest to other control freaks and perfectionists
Hope everybody else's Fridays have gone rather better and that the weekend will be too
Rosa xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc0 -
Feel the hum of my lightsabre...
Ooh, you mean it vibrates? :eek:Shock! Horror! They may actually want this job doing by someone who can do the job! Pass me the smelling salts!
Er, have you ever actually tried that stuff before? It's not as refined as you would expect from the association with fainting corseted Victorians...
How's you?
Rosa xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc0 -
Fab post about time, and doing 'stuff' - really made me think as I very much saw myself in it! :A
Thanks Shoe Gal... there is probably going to be more where that came from... so if it's useful to anyone else that's great!
Rosa xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc0 -
RosaBernicia wrote: »Had carp day and evening, won't post now as not thought through it yet.
:grouphug:RosaBernicia wrote: »Finally feeling a bit better (ie less sorry for myself)
That's good.RosaBernicia wrote: »partly thanks to a happy coincidence bringing this to my fb page...
http://www.ted.com/talks/kathryn_schulz_don_t_regret_regret.html
which has reminded me to also to re-read the book relating to this
http://www.ted.com/talks/lang/en/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html
Might be of interest to other control freaks and perfectionists
Yes, they were very good. I'm not a perfectionist, nor a control freak so not massively relevant to me, but I have passed them on...RosaBernicia wrote: »Hope everybody else's Fridays have gone rather better and that the weekend will be too
I hope your weekend is better... :grouphug:RosaBernicia wrote: »Ooh, you mean it vibrates? :eek:
Can you not hear it?RosaBernicia wrote: »Er, have you ever actually tried that stuff before? It's not as refined as you would expect from the association with fainting corseted Victorians...
It's supposed to stink like holy hell, such that it hits unconscious people hard enough to wake them. I never thought it would ever been "refined".
However a guy a knew had flatulence bad enough that even the dead got up to flee, so it probably isn't that bad...RosaBernicia wrote: »How's you?
I'm fine. How are you today?"Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
:grouphug: ... I hope your weekend is better... :grouphug:
thank you - much appreciated :kisses3:Can you not hear it?
From here? :eek: *checks kitchen for man holding lightsabre - finds none*
It's supposed to stink like holy hell, such that it hits unconscious people hard enough to wake them. I never thought it would ever been "refined".
It's mainly ammonia and works by irritating the mucous membranes so much that you snort and inhale by reflex. Feels oddly like someone reamed your sinuses with a stick. (I worked in a chemist at one point and there were a few bottles of it kicking about in the back - only ever used on unsuspecting new staff during dull days.)I'm fine. How are you today?
Better than I was, thanks. Cancelled various things I was going to do today but have realised can wait. Think am being reminded that I am not like I was, for want of a better expression - not entirely surprising having been diagnosed with exhaustion a few months ago, but it seems I'm still rubbish at knowing my limitations
Rosa xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc0 -
RosaBernicia wrote: »From here? :eek: *checks kitchen for man holding lightsabre - finds none
*
Aww... No need for a sad smiley. One day there will be a man in your kitchen holding his lightsabre, and you'll be all agog... :cool:RosaBernicia wrote: »It's mainly ammonia and works by irritating the mucous membranes so much that you snort and inhale by reflex.
A bit like a politician then?
Except they irritate all membranes...RosaBernicia wrote: »Feels oddly like someone reamed your sinuses with a stick. (I worked in a chemist at one point and there were a few bottles of it kicking about in the back - only ever used on unsuspecting new staff during dull days.)
And let me guess, you were that unsuspecting new staff...RosaBernicia wrote: »Better than I was, thanks. Cancelled various things I was going to do today but have realised can wait. Think am being reminded that I am not like I was, for want of a better expression - not entirely surprising having been diagnosed with exhaustion a few months ago,
Oh dear! :grouphug:RosaBernicia wrote: »but it seems I'm still rubbish at knowing my limitations
It's not a case of knowing your limitations, but more of a case of knowing what is important, and what is not, and doing them in that order until you've had enough.
If you don't slow down when your body gives you a hint, then your body will insist. You *really* don't want that.
So lie back, relax, think of England, and enjoy the rest of the night...
What are you going to do?"Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0 -
Aww... No need for a sad smiley. One day there will be a man in your kitchen holding his lightsabre, and you'll be all agog... :cool:
:j
Oh dear! :grouphug:
thanks :grouphug:
Ah yes, seems I didn't actually put that in the background post, but it was a part of the meltdown process. A lot of the contributing factors couldn't be avoided and shouldn't coincide again, but I do need to make sure I don't end up heading in that direction ever again. Which was partly why I made the decision to have a break from the masters - it enforces time to do other things including thinking.It's not a case of knowing your limitations, but more of a case of knowing what is important, and what is not, and doing them in that order until you've had enough.
:rotfl: in my case, that is kinda part of my limitations - the 'what's important' needs to include ME a lot further up the list, and the 'had enough' signals aren't always heard. As Kathryn Schulz says, people are more prone to regret when they have a high level of personal control and imagination. I am a control freak - partly innate, partly acquired, one for another musing sometime - and have a wildly overactive imagination (well according to other people I do, I just think it must be dull inside their heads). So I always think I should be able to do something and can always think of other ways it might work. There are a lot of plus points to being as I am, just need to acknowledge the risk of the negatives and keep an eye on them.So lie back, relax, think of England, and enjoy the rest of the night... What are you going to do?
Answer appears to be plaster self in Lush goodies while watching Blackadder II :j ready for day out with friends tomorrow. And set up more social stuffand fiddle with recipes for stuff I want to bake next week
And have sorted pressies online so didn't need to go into town anyway :j
So feeling much better now. Hope your day's been good.
Rosa xxDebt free May 2016... DFW#2 in progress
Campervan paid off summer '21... MFW progress tbc0 -
RosaBernicia wrote: »Ah yes, seems I didn't actually put that in the background post, but it was a part of the meltdown process. A lot of the contributing factors couldn't be avoided and shouldn't coincide again, but I do need to make sure I don't end up heading in that direction ever again.
Yes, you do need to do that. It's not how "hard" you can make yourself, but how flexible. Like a sapling in the wind.RosaBernicia wrote: »:rotfl: in my case, that is kinda part of my limitations - the 'what's important' needs to include ME a lot further up the list, and the 'had enough' signals aren't always heard.RosaBernicia wrote: »As Kathryn Schulz says, people are more prone to regret when they have a high level of personal control and imagination. I am a control freak - partly innate, partly acquired, one for another musing sometime - and have a wildly overactive imagination (well according to other people I do, I just think it must be dull inside their heads).
:rotfl:
Well you know...every wit needs a foil.RosaBernicia wrote: »So I always think I should be able to do something and can always think of other ways it might work.
Do you ever think *if* you should do something?RosaBernicia wrote: »There are a lot of plus points to being as I am, just need to acknowledge the risk of the negatives and keep an eye on them.
Yes indeedy..."Follow the money!" - Deepthroat (AKA William Mark Felt Sr - Associate Director of the FBI)
"We were born and raised in a summer haze." Adele 'Someone like you.'
"Blowing your mind, 'cause you know what you'll find, when you're looking for things in the sky." OMD 'Julia's Song'0
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