Just lost my best pal

gettingready

Rising - I am not posting much here as sometimes I simply do not know what to say, dont want to make thnings worse... but I am checkign the thread and checking how you are and hoping you are able to cope .. somehow. Taking one day at a time... thinking of you *HUGS*

vicx

Rising - Are you managing to eat and motivate yourself through this awful time? I went months without eating properly - lost weight I couldn't afford to lose, couldn't sleep or motivate myself. The pain of losing one dog is bad enough but 2 in the space of 12 weeks when I was still grieving for my Yorkie was unbearable. It's awful to say but I just wanted to end it all because I couldn't take anymore, my dogs were my life and I didn't know how I was going to get through life without them. They were the only ones that I could rely on to make me happy and smile everyday and never let me down, they were and still are irreplaceable as Ben is too.

My two new pups have been like medicine for me even if they are hard work at times. If it wasn't for them I dread to think where I'd be now - I was on rock bottom. I still cry every night for the two special dogs I lost but if I did not have these two pups I think I'd still be crying all day and night so the pain is getting easier to cope with, as it will for you in time. I have cried more for my dogs than I have when I have lost family members. Nothing could help me get through it and I really didn't want another dog but I couldn't be without these two now, they have lightened the house back up and brought love and happiness back in to my home.

It really killed me to wake up on the morning without my two lying down beside my bed and coming home to an empty house. Maybe in time you too will offer a loving home to another cuddly friend or two that will fill that empty space in your heart and bring love and happiness back in to your home. We all say never again. I definitely wasn't getting another though but because they were family I accepted it after a few weeks of saying 'No', 'definitely not'. It was when I seen the photo's that I couldn't say no. Mine meant so much to me and I really didn't think I'd be able to accept another dog. Although I did cry when I first brought them home and was upset for a few days I soon began to love the little monkeys

virgin_moneysaver

hope yesterday went as well as could be expected ((((( )))))

aliasojo

gettingready wrote: »

Rising - I am not posting much here as sometimes I simply do not know what to say, dont want to make thnings worse... but I am checkign the thread and checking how you are and hoping you are able to cope .. somehow. Taking one day at a time... thinking of you *HUGS*

Ditto this. :grouphug:

rising_from_the_ashes

Thank you all again ..... I think "functioning" would be the best way to describe how I'm getting along at the moment. Managing to hold it together while I'm at work but still really struggling at home. (Don't want to keep depressing everyone so not posting much).

Today was hard ..... I finish at lunchtimes on Weds and it's always been Ben and my "special walk" of the week to the beach / woods a bit further away (and a godsend in the winter when it's dark every morning / evening).

This may turn into a volunteer dog walk afternoon but all the rescues are quite far away (around 30 miles) so not ideal, especially with the rural roads in winter ....... any ideas welcomed!

Vicx trying to eat, last week I pretty much got by on a diet of ... diet coke but am managing a little more this week but, like you, I've really no appetite.


Phoned the vet today as haven't heard anything and really need him home .... going to be Friday or Monday before he's back.

aliasojo

rising_from_the_ashes wrote: »

Thank you all again ..... I think "functioning" would be the best way to describe how I'm getting along at the moment. Managing to hold it together while I'm at work but still really struggling at home. (Don't want to keep depressing everyone so not posting much).

I think I speak for all of us when I tell you this place isn't just about factual info, money and good deals. It's a place for support from like minded people, too.

You post as much as you want, even if it's just to say 'I miss him'. We're all here for you. x

vicx

aliasojo wrote: »

I think I speak for all of us when I tell you this place isn't just about factual info, money and good deals. It's a place for support from like minded people, too.

You post as much as you want, even if it's just to say 'I miss him'. We're all here for you. x

Agree with this post and just wanted to add that I'm sure most of us here know how painful it to lose our best friend/s. They aren't just a 'dog' or 'pet' but our loyal companions that nothing could replace.

Keep posting to let it all out if it makes you feel better.

I created an online memorial for my three dogs on Gonetoosoon, have you thought about creating a memorial for Ben? It might help with your grieving - I know it helped me a little as it was somewhere I could write messages and light candles.

sazzybum

aliasojo wrote: »

I think I speak for all of us when I tell you this place isn't just about factual info, money and good deals. It's a place for support from like minded people, too.

You post as much as you want, even if it's just to say 'I miss him'. We're all here for you. x

Wholeheartedly agree with this!!

Don't have anyhting much else to say except I'm thinking of you, and you've got my number if you ever want to use it

Aileen xxx

murphydog999

Just catching up after a week away so sorry it's a bit late to say sorry to hear your news. With my husband working away my murphy was my best friend and companion and the empty house syndrome is the hardest thing when you have got a dog with such a big personality. I'm with you on all those every day things that now no longer happen and that you somehow need to fill.

It's soooo not easy, and if you can take on any more sympathy and keep-your-chin-up thoughts - as we all know how much it hurts - then please take on mine. x

rising_from_the_ashes

vicx wrote: »

I created an online memorial for my three dogs on Gonetoosoon, have you thought about creating a memorial for Ben? It might help with your grieving - I know it helped me a little as it was somewhere I could write messages and light candles.

Thanks Vicx, I will look into that ......

Sazzy again, thank you - you've got more than enough on your plate just now and the thought is much appreciated.

aliasojo, vicx & sazzy thank you for saying that it's OK for me to keep depressing everyone! It does help posting on here as I know you understand unfortunately all too well.

Having a bad day today ..... don't know if it's finally dawning he's really not coming back or what but not a great day. Murphy you are so right about the wee things - I don't know what's the hardest, waking up without him beside me, settling in bed and waiting to hear the pad of his paws up the stairs (he always waited until I went to bed and then pinched the cats' bowls before coming up), coming in to / leaving an empty house, sitting here by myself in an empty house (cats boogered off outside within 30 seconds of me coming in!) or many, many other things I miss so much.

Another weekend looming and just don't know what to do to fill it.:(


Ben came into my life totally unexpectedly (I wasn't looking for a dog and had always felt it wasn't fair to have one when I work) but he'd been left all day since a pup and my then neighbours agreed to have him during the day - we just "clicked" straight away and he was just so perfect.

Oh bo-bo, I miss you so much - hope you're having fun with your new pals sweetheart xx