Does Anyone Elses Partner 'Wet' the Bed?

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I think someone who excuses such appalling behaviour must have a very low level of self esteem.

Everyone I know would never put up with such antics, be they man or woman. They have more pride and would not let the other person drag them down to their level.

MentalMinnie

pukkamum wrote: »

Amongst our group of friends when were young 'damping down' as it was called was seen as a huge joke, mainly i think as humour is something a lot of people use to hide shame or embarassment, ie laugh at yourself before someone else does.

I think that's what it was. He told someone at work what he'd done, almost in shame, but then this person told the whole workshop and turned it in to a joke, which is when i walked in. In fairness OH did look mortified. Think that spurred him into taking action.

The think is, he's spent so long thinking getting completely wreaked every weekend is the norm, that it was difficult to get him to break the habit. He also had no incentive to change his lifestyle prior to meeting me. Without blowing my own trumpet, i've given him a reason to turn his life around.

Pee

My ex was an alcoholic, but never wet the bed. I have another friend who did, which was when he realised his problem with drinking and stopped for a while although he now drinks in a social manner. The reason he drank too much was connected to the break up of a relationship.

I think the concern I would have is if someone is a problem drinker, this would tend to cause problems again, when stress or other issues came into play.

Something to consider.

That said, I don't advocate the zero tolerance other people do as particularly if I have a cough I need some help from Tena lady and wouldn't like my partner to judge me for this.

newcook

I know a few blokes who have done it (and a couple of girls!). the girls are obviously ashamed of it but blokes do tend to make a joke out of it with their mates – ‘I got that sh!tfaced last night mate that I p!ssed the bed/in a wardrobe/on the tv etc. the missus weren’t happy!!! Hahahahahahaha!’

They also tend to be telling each other this story over a pint or 2.

pukkamum

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I think that's what it was. He told someone at work what he'd done, almost in shame, but then this person told the whole workshop and turned it in to a joke, which is when i walked in. In fairness OH did look mortified. Think that spurred him into taking action.

The think is, he's spent so long thinking getting completely wreaked every weekend is the norm, that it was difficult to get him to break the habit. He also had no incentive to change his lifestyle prior to meeting me. Without blowing my own trumpet, i've given him a reason to turn his life around.

This was exactly the same in my relationship minnie for my DH it was his shyness that caused the problem, sober he was very shy and found it hard to relax and join in with conversations etc, drunk he was the life and soul of the party, therefore he drank a lot quicker than others to get to the point where he could relax.

It took a while but i feel i gave him the confidence to realise he didn't need to be wasted to chat or have a good time.

Having said all that though i do still have the 'fear' when we are out drinking that he will revert to type and i have to really bite my tongue to stop the old 'haven't you had enough' or 'stop drinking so fast' lines coming out, as it just ruins the night for both of us.

tattycath

I used to know a couple-I worked with the woman. We invited them over for a meal and they stayed the night, we all had a few drinks. The next morning they left and it wasn't until I went to change the sheets later the same morning (on the bed they'd slept in), the bed was soaked and stank of pee. they hadn't said a word (possibly through embarrassment?). They haven't been since.

MentalMinnie

pukkamum wrote: »

This was exactly the same in my relationship minnie for my DH it was his shyness that caused the problem, sober he was very shy and found it hard to relax and join in with conversations etc, drunk he was the life and soul of the party, therefore he drank a lot quicker than others to get to the point where he could relax.

It took a while but i feel i gave him the confidence to realise he didn't need to be wasted to chat or have a good time.

Having said all that though i do still have the 'fear' when we are out drinking that he will revert to type and i have to really bite my tongue to stop the old 'haven't you had enough' or 'stop drinking so fast' lines coming out, as it just ruins the night for both of us.

You and i could be the same person!! x

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claire16c

Pee wrote: »

My ex was an alcoholic, but never wet the bed. I have another friend who did, which was when he realised his problem with drinking and stopped for a while although he now drinks in a social manner. The reason he drank too much was connected to the break up of a relationship.

I think the concern I would have is if someone is a problem drinker, this would tend to cause problems again, when stress or other issues came into play.

Something to consider.

That said, I don't advocate the zero tolerance other people do as particularly if I have a cough I need some help from Tena lady and wouldn't like my partner to judge me for this.

Thats completely different to someone doing it because theyre getting drunk. I dont have any sympathy for people who get blind drunk for a laugh and then p*** all over their house!

pukkamum

claire16c wrote: »

Thats completely different to someone doing it because theyre getting drunk. I dont have any sympathy for people who get blind drunk for a laugh and then p*** all over their house!

But it isn't like they are doing it on purpose my DH i'm quite sure never thought hmmmm tonight seems a good night for peeing the bed, i'll get leathered, it just happened sometimes and believe me he was always mortified after.