Does Anyone Elses Partner 'Wet' the Bed?

Kira000

My ex had a problem with not knowing when to stop with drink- and increasingly with taking drugs. TBH, i was sooo horrified with him wetting the bed at a hotel when we were away for the weekend, when he passed out after a heavy night, that it was a bit of a wake up call for me.
I literally woke up in the night to hear an odd sound, and managed to work out that it was him just peeing where he lay passed out on his back, all over himself and the bed. Disgusting, and this is NOT a result of "normal" drinking.

Itried everything to get him to acknowledge that his drinking was a problem, but he wouldnt, and it was destroying my life as well as his, so eventually i kicked him out.

MentalMinnie

heretolearn wrote: »

I have heard of drunks doing this - and worse!

Honestly, if anyone ever peed in my bed they'd better not ever get drunk again or that would be it. Once I suppose I'd have to forgive. More than that - get out of my life (and bed) you disgusting scumbo.

You sound very tolerant. Is your OH actually an alcoholic? Have you been to Al-Anon for some support - this is for family members/partners of alcoholics. Anyone who's peed the bed because of drink has got to have a serious problem. If he just thinks it's funny, he's not accepting that he has that problem.

Look after yourself. I've seen alcoholics drag so many others down with them. Don't sacrifice your own life to help him.

I don't think i'd class him as an alcoholic. He'd quite happily go through spells of no drinking. He admited to drinking cos he was bored. He also was used to drinking vast amounts from late teens to when he met me. We had a huge argument a couple of months ago, where by I was telling him it was over, due to the drinking. Something almost pinged in his head, as he went to see the GP, and a councillor regarding the drinking. It's been about 6 weeks since that episode, he's only had about 4 bottles of wine, which has lasted him more than one evening. He's switched to beer, and less of it. He's not been out for a 'night out' yet, but i'm really wary of what might happen. I don't want him to get drunk. But I accept that that is unfair and that everyone deserves to go out and have a few. I'd be really !!!!!! off if he said I wasn't allowed to get drunk on a night out. I'm finding it a little hard to accept that he WILL get drunk at some point in the future, and to not nag him. I have so many thoughts in my head over the issue...

pukkamum

My DH used to do this and probably still would if he still drank to excess, many men do basically i think because they go into such a deep sleep after a skinful that their bladder being full doesn't wake them and men are proven not be able to hold themselves for as long as women can.
Yes it is very annoying, upsetting etc but it isn't like they do it on purpose.
I would always put towels under the sheet if i knew we were going on a bender not to mention if i woke in the night i would wake him too and get him to go to the loo.
He would also pee in weird places on the towel basket was a particularly nasty one but the one that certainly upset him the most was when he fell asleep downstairs and peed on his PS3!!!!

He hasn't done it for years but as i say that is probably because we don't go on benders anymore.
I'm sure your bf is mortified about it as was my DH so i would try not to make too big a deal about it.

pukkamum

P.s as regards to his excessive drinking, i realised that for a long time i was an 'enabler' making excuses for his behaviour, ruining my own nights out by worrying and nagging him about his drinking.
It came to a head when he got very very drunk and our son saw him that way, i told that that while i could cope with it there was no way my son was ever seeing it so he stopped.
Now if he is having a very rare night out with the lads i stay at my mums with the kids or he stays at a friends that way i don't see him in a state and we can't argue about it.

Gloomendoom

pukkamum wrote: »

My DH used to do this and probably still would if he still drank to excess, many men do basically i think because they go into such a deep sleep after a skinful that their bladder being full doesn't wake them and men are proven not be able to hold themselves for as long as women can.

:huh: I wish someone would tell my wife this. I can spend ten hours driving and only stop if I need fuel. Mrs G has to stop every two hours on a good day and more often on a bad one. Sometimes she needs to go twenty minutes after we have set off.

pukkamum

Gloomendoom wrote: »

:huh: I wish someone would tell my wife this. I can spend ten hours driving and only stop if I need fuel. Mrs G has to stop every two hours on a good day and more often on a bad one. Sometimes she needs to go twenty minutes after we have set off.

Ha ha ah i think you will find that women fel the urge to go much more often than men as their bladders are smaller but if they had to they could hold it a lot longer!!!!!

make_me_wise

I dont know how people can drink so much that they loose total control of bodily functions. To almost comotose yourself so that the brain doesn't send the right messages to wake you and get you on the loo in time, seems madness to me. I am certainly no tee-totaller, well only at the moment as pregnant. I would be sick and get alot of alcohol out my system before getting to the 'out of my mind' stage with drink.

elvis86

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I've been with my other half for about 5 years, and getting married soon. He was pretty wild before settling down, drink AND drugs. He gave up the drugs when we became serious, but the drinking has been less forthcoming...He'd regularly comsume a bottle of red EVERY night. After a serious agreument he agreed that his drinking was a major problem in our relationahip. He's so far doing incredibly well. However, after a skin full, he'd sometimes wet the bed. The first time it happened i was horrified. It's happened a few time since, but it's been about a year since it last happened. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I'm so embarressed about it i've never told anyone, although i know he's mentioned it at work, like it was some kind of hilarious joke...

He sounds like a right catch...

Angelic

Gloomendoom wrote: »

:huh: I wish someone would tell my wife this. I can spend ten hours driving and only stop if I need fuel. Mrs G has to stop every two hours on a good day and more often on a bad one. Sometimes she needs to go twenty minutes after we have set off.

Does she wear underwear? A bit of a draft can lead to needing the loo so maybe you should buy her some thermals for christmas:money:

tea_lover

I did this once. Obviously not something I'm proud of! In fact, I've never admitted this to anyone. I was at home on my own at the time thank goodness as I couldn't have coped if I'd done it as was when then my OH's place (we live together now).

It was a few years ago, I was going through a pretty rough time and started to develop alcohol problems. Not only did I wet the bed, I also hit my OH. All things I'm deeply ashamed of of course.

Those two things were enough to make me see that I couldn't carry on like that. I do still drink but it's very occasional, maybe a couple of beers every couple of months.

Hopefully this was also a wake-up call for your OH and he's now put this behind you both. best of luck to you both.