Does Anyone Elses Partner 'Wet' the Bed?

CH27

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I don't think i'd class him as an alcoholic. He'd quite happily go through spells of no drinking. He admited to drinking cos he was bored. He also was used to drinking vast amounts from late teens to when he met me. We had a huge argument a couple of months ago, where by I was telling him it was over, due to the drinking. Something almost pinged in his head, as he went to see the GP, and a councillor regarding the drinking. It's been about 6 weeks since that episode, he's only had about 4 bottles of wine, which has lasted him more than one evening. He's switched to beer, and less of it. He's not been out for a 'night out' yet, but i'm really wary of what might happen. I don't want him to get drunk. But I accept that that is unfair and that everyone deserves to go out and have a few. I'd be really !!!!!! off if he said I wasn't allowed to get drunk on a night out. I'm finding it a little hard to accept that he WILL get drunk at some point in the future, and to not nag him. I have so many thoughts in my head over the issue...

I think you need to decide if you want to live the rest of your life being scared of him drinking & the results.
Do you want to raise children with this man & his addictions?

pukkamum

elvis86 wrote: »

He sounds like a right catch...

Overindulging in drink doesn't make someone a bad person, unless they are abusive with it.

graemecarter

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I've been with my other half for about 5 years, and getting married soon. He was pretty wild before settling down, drink AND drugs. He gave up the drugs when we became serious, but the drinking has been less forthcoming...He'd regularly comsume a bottle of red EVERY night. After a serious agreument he agreed that his drinking was a major problem in our relationahip. He's so far doing incredibly well. However, after a skin full, he'd sometimes wet the bed. The first time it happened i was horrified. It's happened a few time since, but it's been about a year since it last happened. Has this ever happened to anyone else? I'm so embarressed about it i've never told anyone, although i know he's mentioned it at work, like it was some kind of hilarious joke...

I used to wet the bed quite regularly (in my 30s).
I only did it when very drunk, and never did it when sober.....

After doing it for well over a decade (and loads of other stuff) I had to get help for my drinking. I am an alcoholic and I hear many recovering alcoholics used to wet the bed.

It wasn't that I was tired or had too great a volume of liquid, it was that I had consumed a huge amount of booze, and was physically and mentally impaired.
With any other drug, you'd call it an 'overdose'

I am glad things seem to have got better for you and h.
I had to stop completely. While I didn't always get blotto when drinking, I occasionally did do it. Thus I was never in control of my drinking, even when I thought I was...

Sublime_2

Eeew, would hate it. You'll have to get waterproof bedding, and make him get up for a wee in the night like a child.

If someone acts like a child, treat them like one.

graemecarter

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I don't think i'd class him as an alcoholic. He'd quite happily go through spells of no drinking. He admited to drinking cos he was bored. He also was used to drinking vast amounts from late teens to when he met me. We had a huge argument a couple of months ago, where by I was telling him it was over, due to the drinking. Something almost pinged in his head, as he went to see the GP, and a councillor regarding the drinking. It's been about 6 weeks since that episode, he's only had about 4 bottles of wine, which has lasted him more than one evening. He's switched to beer, and less of it. He's not been out for a 'night out' yet, but i'm really wary of what might happen. I don't want him to get drunk. But I accept that that is unfair and that everyone deserves to go out and have a few. I'd be really !!!!!! off if he said I wasn't allowed to get drunk on a night out. I'm finding it a little hard to accept that he WILL get drunk at some point in the future, and to not nag him. I have so many thoughts in my head over the issue...

Alcoholic is a difficult one to define. Wikipedia uses :

"Alcoholism, also known as alcohol addiction, is a broad term for problems with alcohol, and is generally used to mean compulsive and uncontrolled consumption of alcoholic beverages, usually to the detriment of the drinker's health, personal relationships, and social standing"


I had uncontrolled consumption (i.e. when I started I rarely wanted to stop drinking) and my wetting the bed was certainly affecting my ex-wife, so my personal relationships were suffering.

graemecarter

pukkamum wrote: »

Overindulging in drink doesn't make someone a bad person, unless they are abusive with it.

I don't think that alcoholics are bad people, but they are certainly sick people.
You don't have to be abusive for it to have detrimental affects on others.
As an alcoholic, I used to take other people's peace of mind, I used to spend money I couldn't afford, I used to wet the bed, etc
That's not abusive, but it's certainly not without consequences

YORKSHIRELASS

I once had to deal with reprimanding a work colleague who had been on a training course, stayed in a hotel, got drunk - and wet the bed.

I was very discreet about it but word got out and he was a laughing stock. I could never understand why anyone would get drunk if it made them incontinent, especially if they werent sleeping in their own bed.

As my OH started getting older he started getting really bad hangovers after a big night out, they were so bad the next day would be a complete right off. It wasnt fair on the rest of the family and he knew this so he stopped drinking. If you are in a relationship you have to take the other persons feelings into account.

Good luck, hope it works out for you both.

MentalMinnie

CH27 wrote: »

I think you need to decide if you want to live the rest of your life being scared of him drinking & the results.
Do you want to raise children with this man & his addictions?

As i already said, he's seen there's a problem, and is addressing it. Whilst it's only been 6 weeks, I really believe that he's on the road to conquoring his drinking. I think that it would be unreasonable of me to ban him going out and having a few mad nights out before we have children. Providing he keeps up with his new attitude I am 100% confident that when the time comes and we become parents he will have curbed the excessive drinking entirely.

VestanPance

It baffles me that so many people are happy to get into relationships with people with that sort of attitude to alcohol never mind the side effects of their idiotic drinking habits.

Gloomendoom

Angelic wrote: »

Does she wear underwear? A bit of a draft can lead to needing the loo so maybe you should buy her some thermals for christmas:money:

Errrrrr... not if there is any chance of VPL or VBL. However, her lack of urinary range is not affected by her clothing. In any case she has her side of the car set to about 30°C summer or winter.