Does Anyone Elses Partner 'Wet' the Bed?

claire16c

pukkamum wrote: »

But it isn't like they are doing it on purpose my DH i'm quite sure never thought hmmmm tonight seems a good night for peeing the bed, i'll get leathered, it just happened sometimes and believe me he was always mortified after.

What do you mean when you say 'sometimes' though? Once or twice, or every week?

If someone gets drunk on purpose and theyve done it in the past, then they obviously know it could happen again.

rachelhen

In hindsight.........i would never marry a man who wet the bed through drink at least it would take 12 months of successfully kicking alcohol completely before committing to marriage and children.
The trail of destruction is very ugly. nuff said

pukkamum

claire16c wrote: »

What do you mean when you say 'sometimes' though? Once or twice, or every week?

If someone gets drunk on purpose and theyve done it in the past, then they obviously know it could happen again.

I would say if he got drunk ten times it would happen once, in our youth we were pretty much drunk every weekend and it certainly wasn't every weekend.
I would say most people get drunk on purpose, it's not like you go on a night out and don't expect to be drunk after a load of alchohol.

pukkamum

rachelhen wrote: »

In hindsight.........i would never marry a man who wet the bed through drink at least it would take 12 months of successfully kicking alcohol completely before committing to marriage and children.
The trail of destruction is very ugly. nuff said

But every relationship is different are you seriously saying that if you met a kind wonderful, generous person who you loved completely and utterly you would not commit to them because they sometimes wet the bed when drunk?
I used to vomit prolifically when drunk why is that different?
I'm so glad i didn't have your attitude

claire16c

pukkamum wrote: »

I would say if he got drunk ten times it would happen once, in our youth we were pretty much drunk every weekend and it certainly wasn't every weekend.
I would say most people get drunk on purpose, it's not like you go on a night out and don't expect to be drunk after a load of alchohol.

So when you say sometimes, you mean every couple of months then i.e ten weeks? There is no way I would put up with that.

My 2 year old niece doesnt even wet the bed, I wouldnt live with a grown man who did. ( out of something he had done to cause it. If it was some kind of medical thing that would be different of course.)

Someone doing it once or twice - I could see as a mistake. But anytime after that is just a joke because why would you keep doing the thing that made you do it? Youre just bringing it on yourself.

rachelhen

Hi Pukkamum. I understand that you think my attitude is wrong unfortunately I cannot explain fully my comments on such a public forum and should not have tried to comment on something like this from my own experience as everyones experience is unique. I can only say that the consequences of someone in my life drinking to excess has affected a lot of lives in a very detrimental way. and one last point he was kind generous handsome clever and loved me..but if I could have seen into the future no I wouldnt have married him.

foreign_correspondent

MentalMinnie wrote: »

He also had no incentive to change his lifestyle prior to meeting me. Without blowing my own trumpet, i've given him a reason to turn his life around.

think about this - is it your responsibility?

When things go wrong (as they do at times in any relationship) or he is having a hard time, and he uses drink to cope, will that be down to you too?

Just be wary about taking responsibility for his behaviour on your own shoulders - it can be a heavy burden to carry, and it is likely you will take the blame for his behaviour, as well as the credit, in his eyes and your own.

CH27

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I think that's what it was. He told someone at work what he'd done, almost in shame, but then this person told the whole workshop and turned it in to a joke, which is when i walked in. In fairness OH did look mortified. Think that spurred him into taking action.

The think is, he's spent so long thinking getting completely wreaked every weekend is the norm, that it was difficult to get him to break the habit. He also had no incentive to change his lifestyle prior to meeting me. Without blowing my own trumpet, i've given him a reason to turn his life around.

He has to turn his life around because HE wants to do it for himself.
Doing it for you will end in tears.

Lotus-eater

CH27 wrote: »

He has to turn his life around because HE wants to do it for himself.
Doing it for you will end in tears.

That's not what she said, she said that he now had a reason to turn his life around, not that he was doing it for her.

Lotus-eater

I don't think I've ever wet the bed, but when I was younger and got bladdered I used to pee in odd corners and not remember a thing about it in the morning.
It often used to be when I was stressed or staying somewhere unknown.

Once I remember waking up as I was staying in a V good friends house and for some reason I thought I was about to pee into the toilet, but when I woke up I saw it was his brothers wardrobe....... I made it to the bathroom.

Sleep peeing I suppose it is. You have to learn to know your limits.