Thank You cards?

jtr2803

Please help settle an argument between myself and my OH...

Last September we went to an evening reception for someone he worked with (I had never met either of them) and their invite asked for money so we put £20 in a card for them.

Over 14 months later and we never even had a text to say thank you.

One of my closer friends got married the last week of August, we put £30 in a card I handmade for them, not even a text to say thank you.

I am really peeved about both to be honest, when I got married the first time round the first thing we did was write thank yous once we got home from honeymoon! OH says in all the weddings he has been to he has only ever received one thank you card and that no one does them any more but I beg to differ! I do appreciate people have busy lives but I just find it quite rude, I still make a point of contacting people to say thank you for birthday/xmas gifts and my daughter still has to write thank you letters to people

Torry_Quine

I'm with you, I think it incredibly rude not to send a thank-you.

johannalf88

I agree, it is terribly rude. I would contact them saying that you are unsure if they have received it as you havent received a thank you! But that would be me doing it as I'm peeved!
I sent a card through the post to my old best friend who got married a couple weeks ago, (we never fought, just grew apart & lost touch really), she got in touch via Facebook just to say thanks for the card! That is polite!

MrsDrink

I don't write thank you cards for birthday/christmas pressies because I generally open them in front of the giver and say thank you to them there and then, or thank them on the phone etc at a later day.

But our wedding will be different. I am planning on writing thank you cards for everyone for coming, regardless of whether they wish to give us anything or not (we're not asking for anything). I have created our own cards to match the rest of the stationery, and I can't wait to write them (lol cause it'll mean we're married!!).

johannalf88

I don't necessarily expect a written thank you, but definitely a personal thank you once it has been opened! (no I said it when you handed me the card...)

mumof3plusoh

We sent thank you letters to everyone after our wedding 17 yrs ago.
Always either ring or text people to thank them for kids presents. Some people just don't and I think it is rude not to.

I have noticed that some people are having postcards with their wedding picture on to thank people which I think is really nice.

ellay864

We got married 4 weeks ago and have only just got our thank you cards today - we ordered them just after we got back from honeymoon. I'm sending them to everybody, day and evening guests and am really surprised to hear some people don't send them

wanchai_2

Completely unacceptable not to thank guests IMHO!!!! So rude

jtr2803

Me too Ellay!

I know there are often delays due to people ordering, writing them etc - we went to a wedding on 10/10/10 and they sent us a lovely card and a christmas card mid Dec 2010 but had already been in touch on facebook to thank us for making the effort as it was a 90 minute drive each way.

I should also say, the bride & groom of the August wedding live on the same development of flats as us, it would literally take 30 seconds to walk to my post box from their front door so it's not gone missing in the post or anything!

MaggieBaking

I was having a big rant about thank you cards to my friend who got married a year before I did, when she said "oh we didn't do thank you cards". It threw me for a bit because I remember the wedding's I attended, gave a present for, and didn't get thank you cards for (grr), and yet hadn't realised she didn't send one.

I then remembered shortly after the wedding she got in touch to say a huge thank you for our help on the day, and for our present etc. She went on to say that she was having friends and family round for dinner on different nights, when would we like to come so they could cook us a meal and say thanks in person. No wonder I didn't notice not getting a card, she made her gratitude extremely clear so that not getting a written thank you was not a problem.

I feel bad about it now, as I made this rant without thinking, and didn't recall the dinner etc and embarrassed to have ranted, I just brushed past it and changed the topic.

I hope the conversation comes up once more (but I wont bring it up this time!) so I can get the opportunity to say that the circumstances are different as she went to far more effort than a card to say thank you.

(But aside from her, I'm still waiting for thank yous for probably £300's worth of presents from various people!)

Murtle

Plain rude. I was shocked not to receive a thank you card for my cousins wedding. I thought everyone sent thank yous. Apparently not. It has changed my opinion of her hugely though!!