Would you be angry?

moodydonkey

Absinthe_Fairy wrote: »

I don't have one! I presume that if I did, he wouldn't be invited either. My parents, brother and I got one invitation together (which I thought was odd as brother and I are both adults, we're not children!) and GF got a separate one.

I attended a wedding reception last year where my parents and my sister were invited. My mum replied saying they were all happy to attend and I was coming too! They then sent me an invite! I wasn't bothered about going but I guess my parents were narked that I hadn't been asked.

Person_one

According to etiquette:

1. Partners only need to be invited if they are a 'social unit', this means living together, engaged or married.

However

2. Its rude to invite one partner to everything and one partner to half the event, they should have invited her to everything or nothing.

As an aside

3. Its always rude to kick up a stink about who is or isn't invited or to invite yourself to anything. You either accept it and go or politely decline.

Person_one

KiKi wrote: »

Please don't blame them for being selfish on their wedding day. Etiquette doesn't always allow for the financial side of things, unfortunately...!

It does actually, etiquette tells couples to have the wedding they can afford. If you have to be rude to pay for your wedding, scale it back.

skintchick

Absinthe_Fairy wrote: »

I don't have one! I presume that if I did, he wouldn't be invited either. My parents, brother and I got one invitation together (which I thought was odd as brother and I are both adults, we're not children!) and GF got a separate one.

My cousin did this too! I thought it was very odd. I hadn;t lived at home for years and neither had my brother.

The separate ones for brother and his gf is extremely odd and rude IMO.

Although I will say this - I didn;t go to my cousin's wedding (rest of family did) and it's not like it mattered either way. He didn;t care and nor did I. It didn;t cause any bad feeling either.

Brighton_belle

As I understood it, the girlfriend hasn't been invited to the ceremony, just the evening do, but was told she would be welcome to attend the ceremony,should she wish to.
She could therefore just come to the evening do.

skintchick

Brighton_belle wrote: »

As I understood it, the girlfriend hasn't been invited to the ceremony, just the evening do, but was told she would be welcome to attend the ceremony,should she wish to.
She could therefore just come to the evening do.

But the whole point of a wedding is surely the actual marriage? I've never seen the point of just going to evening dos. At my wedding everyone we knew was invited to the ceremony (we have a big church) and then a more select group were also invited to the meal and evening do.

Person_one

skintchick wrote: »

But the whole point of a wedding is surely the actual marriage? I've never seen the point of just going to evening dos. At my wedding everyone we knew was invited to the ceremony (we have a big church) and then a more select group were also invited to the meal and evening do.

That's the wrong way round! The point of a reception is to thank people for coming to the church to see you be married!

Brighton_belle

skintchick wrote: »

But the whole point of a wedding is surely the actual marriage? I've never seen the point of just going to evening dos. At my wedding everyone we knew was invited to the ceremony (we have a big church) and then a more select group were also invited to the meal and evening do.

Oh, I do agree with you - the ceremony was the important bit for us and we weren't interested in an evening do. So everyone came to the ceremony. But the fashion does seem to be for a big evening do for everyone ou couldn't invite to the reception, so I assumed this was quite normal for the younger generation just to go to the evening do.

Mrs_P_Pincher

No ring, no bring. Simples!

Mrs P P

meritaten

your brother could always politely decline to attend the ceremony and reception. but accept with his girlfriend the invite to the evening do! That would certainly send the message that they are a couple!