Absolutely want to screeeam!!

olibrofiz

Money_maker wrote: »

How does she earn her allowance? Is this pocket money?

The allowance is £50 from CB - trying to make her a bit more responsible with money - out of that she has to pay for bus fares if she wants to go to town, cinema, chocolate, snax, make up and save for birthday & xmas presents, any holidays, kfc mcdonalds etc.

Money_maker

olibrofiz wrote: »

(& spent the rest of the money I gave her for xmas pressies on clothes for herself)

How old is this teenager? Why are you subsidising her Christmas presents?

geekgirl

My three were always allowed to have their room as messy as they wanted but it was not allowed to spill out onto the landing and the door had to be shut!

I didn't allow food up in their rooms and all washing had to be brought down and done by them.

That way I didn't have to go into their rooms at all and that suited me. Shared areas of the house had to be kept tidied, if they wanted to sit in a pigsty they could go to their rooms to do it.

I figured once they could work out how to use a computer they were old enough to work out how to use a washing machine.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

For heaven's sake woman - use that £50 a month to pay for a cleaner!


That way you get a clean house with taps that sparkle, she sees the consequences of HER (in)actions and she knows that you aren't playing silly beggars with her anymore.


And she learns more about money - you have to earn it rather than sit on your arz and expect it to fall into your lap.

lilac_lady

The answer to keeping your sanity is to get her bedroom door fixed and keep it shut.

My daughter was very messy as a teenager and I now have the pleasure of hearing her moan about her own children being messy. (they're not even teenagers yet!)

Oldernotwiser

You said earlier "she's been wearing the same dirty clothes for the last 3 weeks without a care in the world.".. which I find rather worrying and unusual in a girl of 16.

Apart from this, I agree with all the tough love suggestions that've been made.

junior_j

olibrofiz wrote: »

junior_j wrote: »

Cant you slyly mention it infront of her? Casually say I think you should cook for me on my birthday or , i wish i didnt have to work on my birthday or some thing?x[/

That's just it, I've already said that its' my birthday this month, and its on the calendar in the kitchen, don't really want to keep mentioning it. An evil part of me wants to be able to do a lot of wailing [STRIKE]if[/STRIKE] when she forgets.

This is the kiddie that bought her grandma a 99p perfume for xmas (& spent the rest of the money I gave her for xmas pressies on clothes for herself) when said grandma contributed £200 to a laptop the other xmas - I know its the thought that counts but grandma is still miffed about this.

And I'm still getting the flack for this from her

How often does she get the £50.00/.

I think she deffo needs money reduced. why should she get money for causes a huge mess and stress on you. She really needs to learn more about the value of money. I think (personally imo) you should do this kind of thing

If she doesnt make bed and open curtains each day deduct £2.00 ect
seperate her money for her if she can't cope. £10.00 for bus 10er for prezzies ect :money:

Bennifred

Time for new rules in your house, OP! :cool:

Sixteen is old enough for your daughter to get a part-time job and earn her own spends (No allowance for any of my three after the age of 16). She might take more care of stuff if she buys it with money she has earned.
I agree with the posters who have said don't sweat over mess in her room, but I wouldn't put up with it spilling out anywhere else. If you can't stop her messing up the bathroom, etc (Why isn't she helping out with housework, by the way? eg - she cleans the bathroom on a Saturday morning and no going out/having friends in until it's done to your satisfaction) then at least you could use the £50 (!!!) you used to give her on a cleaner.....

adamantine

stop the pocket money.

put everything in her room and shut the door (once its fixed. major priority!!)

say nothing more about it.

if she asks for money say "no. you are not old enough to keep your room clean you are not old enough to manage money."

write her instructions about how to use the washing machine and stick it on her wall above her laundry basket.

tw1nklestar

take a picture of her pig sty and threaten to post it on facebook ( i could do this as i am friends with a number of my daughters friends) - room tidy