Absolutely want to screeeam!!

System

Agree to give her allowance the same day each month providing she blitz cleans the room the day before? but for everytime you have to collect her clothes from her room for washing because she hasn't brought them to you, you will knock off a £ ( or whatever)

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Gut the room.

She therefore gets;

a bed with three sets of linen.

somewhere to do her homework.

a pair of knickers, a bra and a pair of socks for everyday.

school uniform.

three T shirts and three pairs of cheap cheap cheap jogging bottoms and a pair of trainers.


There will be nowhere to hide things, as she will no longer have any property to keep messy.


That way, she will soon notice if she hasn't taken the washing down, as she will be wearing dirty knickers within 7 days.




My DDs - well, the eldest (the type who hoards dirty tissues) moved out and had the right hump when I disposed of roughly 15 bin bags full of **** from the room, 8 of which were under her bed. When I subsequently moved, I deposited the remaining 2 huge boxes of scrap paper, stinking clothes and general nonsense on her father's driveway. Having seen a photo of the inside of her father's new house, it looks like the whole house is a midden.

DD2 did something similar when she got to a similar age. She lost her TV, anything not put away carefully, all her clothes (seeing as I pay for them, it's my right to do as I please with them), the books went to the charity shop, the lotions, potions and shampoos all went in the bin and she started at our new house with an empty chest of drawers, wardrobe and waiting for a bed to be delivered. She now has a desk and chair, too. Now she'll still let it get a bit messy, and still needs a verbal clip round the ear sometimes, but it is far, far better than it was.



If it comes down to food, well, if you don't buy it, she can't eat it, can she?

So no chocolate, crisps, sweets, yoghurts or drinks in the fridge or cupboards whatsoever. If she needs a drink, there's water in the tap. A meal is provided morning and evening and she does not get a single thing that could be left somewhere other than the table.



She won't be happy about it - I'd suggest sending a cheque for school dinners as well, so she hasn't a single opportunity to obtain food elsewhere - and she may not pick her bowl up, but I'll be willing to bet that there is less mess around.

And NO ALLOWANCE!!!

Not one penny.

j.e.j.

olibrofiz wrote: »

Ahhhh, you've given me a thought re her allowance.

Yes you could take your 'wages' for being her cleaning lady out of her allowance, LOL!

Re. the bathroom, I got so fed up with cleaning the bath after someone, only for it to be covered in soap scum, dirt and 'rubble' again 2 hours later that I now clean it ONLY when I want to have a bath! Most days I'll have a shower instead. Not worth stressing about

olibrofiz

Blue_Elephant wrote: »

I shouldn't laugh but...
Thought you'd like to know, someone, somewhere, is getting their own back.

Having to reapply for your own job is pretty pants. Focus on the fact that you've done it well for 11 years, focus on all those things you do that are "above and beyond" that you've always done just because they needed doing. Stop being angry about the fact that you have to reapply, or this will cloud your mind in the interview. Pretend it's for a brand new job. Show your knowledge of the company and its values (it must have some). Make sure you know your competencies backwards, and show them how you meet them effortlessly (even if it requires effort). Most of all be yourself - they're screwed, that's why they're doing this, and they DON'T want to lose the staff who have bent over backwards for them.

Good luck!

Thank you, It's a 50-50 chance, something inevitable rolling towards me so not too fussed - what will be will be.

Mupette

What apricot said, collect everything up of her's that is a mess or a mess she has created, shove in her room and shut the door and windows... repeat, repeat, repeat dont give in.

I have a messy teen myself, i may not be a clean and tidy home due to my disabilities, but i do try, but i do not go and do DS's room....
he does not invite anyone back here, perhaps he is ashamed and too lazy to deal with it.

Dont give in, when she runs out of knickers and whinges like a baby, show her where the washing machine is.. and leave her to it.

olibrofiz

Thank you all first off I think I need to get my friends carpenter son out to get her bedroom door to actually shut. And I think I'll go for a weekly inspection with deductions from allowance.

she's pestering me to decorate her bedroom, I've said I will as long as she keeps it tidy (no dirty washing, bottles etc) for all of November - she has 10 strikes and it doesn't happen. It's 5th today right? She already has 5 strikes :cool:

While she's at her dads this weekend may sort her clothes out and throw the odd socks, chewed knickers etc away.

Another thing that's ??? me is it's my birthday this month. I've already said to her to be careful with her allowance as it's my birthday and i'm assuming she'd like to get me a present - I had planned to say no more as I guess she won't remember - would that be mean of me?

junior_j

I am 19 and known as half job Jess. It drives my mum and colleagues nuts. I think its actually a illness being untidy! I have started to improve. I file all important letters and bank statements. I actually put my clothes in the wash basket ect. When my mum gets really fed up with it she stops all cleaning and because I hate living in a mess (believe it or not) I will hoover/polish/dishwasher/washing/ironing/emptying bins/cleaning bathroom blah blah blah lol. So maybe do what my mum does leave a mess it may take a week and do your head in but like said you could always put every bit of rubbish in her room and I mean every bit of mess she makes , hair in the bathroom , stop her allowance, stop buying her branded toiletrees , smart price value everything and make her do own washing she will soon be fed up , treat her a child , sticker chart , every time she does some tidying she is rewarded allowance , or you will do one of her loads of laundry ect.

junior_j

olibrofiz wrote: »

Another thing that's ??? me is it's my birthday this month. I've already said to her to be careful with her allowance as it's my birthday and i'm assuming she'd like to get me a present - I had planned to say no more as I guess she won't remember - would that be mean of me?

Cant you slyly mention it infront of her? Casually say I think you should cook for me on my birthday or , i wish i didnt have to work on my birthday or some thing?x

Money_maker

How does she earn her allowance? Is this pocket money?

olibrofiz

junior_j wrote: »

Cant you slyly mention it infront of her? Casually say I think you should cook for me on my birthday or , i wish i didnt have to work on my birthday or some thing?x[/

That's just it, I've already said that its' my birthday this month, and its on the calendar in the kitchen, don't really want to keep mentioning it. An evil part of me wants to be able to do a lot of wailing [STRIKE]if[/STRIKE] when she forgets.

This is the kiddie that bought her grandma a 99p perfume for xmas (& spent the rest of the money I gave her for xmas pressies on clothes for herself) when said grandma contributed £200 to a laptop the other xmas - I know its the thought that counts but grandma is still miffed about this.

And I'm still getting the flack for this from her