Old Style Daily Thread for Saturday 5th November 2011

monnagran

Just come on for a bit of a break - been ironing for what seems like hours but nowhere near finished. It's so stupid because I quite like ironing but like everything else I procrastinate.

Bramble: For the last 9 or 10 months of my Dad's life I thought every time I said Goodbye it could be the last time. I just used to give him a hug and say something like 'I'll always love you,' or 'Thank you for being such a super person.' I'm so glad I did because he was never in any doubt about how I felt about him and that was a huge comfort to me after he died. Hope it helps.
Taplady; Stop being strong and brave, there is a time for that but it is not now. Get whatever help you need or, as my Grandma used to say, you'll be neither use nor ornament. I know it's hard but take everyone's advice and GET HELP.
NPM: Thank goodness you have your DH. It is so hard for you. You are very often in my thoughts, which may not be very helpful to you but it's all I can do.

Right, back to the ironing. I can already hear the first fireworks!

taplady

evening!

thanks RR and NPM for being so nice - here and on FB. I still dont think I can ask for help from the doc - just doesn't seem right. I had an outburst at DH earlier over something silly but we've made up now. This is the time I miss my friend so much - she'd sort me out bless her.
Anyway on the plus side I've made time for me this afternoon - I put my feet up with my book then took the dogs for a nice walk, had a soak in the bath and am now waiting for a HM pizza to cook and its feet up and Strictly and X factor time.:)

Bramble - personally I'd probably not make it too heavy a visit as long as everything's been said its better to part with good memories x

NoahsPennilessMummy

Tappers...why not make an appt for the doctors and go and tell them how you are feeling and take it from there..glad you have had a bit of me time today xx

ivyleaf

Taplady - I agree with NPM and others, you really should speak to the doctor, much better to do it now. After all it is what he/she is there for, to help you when you're not well. You shouldn't feel guilty about being stressed and exhausted!
Bramble - Thinking of you, maybe just say something like "Byebye Grandad, I love you very much" and hug him gently if possible, or cup his cheek with your hand if not xx
NPM - Hugs to you xx

Lou - you too are in my thoughts xx

tiredmum - Hope DS got on okay!

Sorry i don't post much atm, thinking of you all though, with special thoughts and hugs for those in need of them.

candygirl

BRAMBLE when my Dad died I hel his hand and told him how much I loved him.They reckon their sense of hearing is the last thing to go.Thinking of you hun:A:A
TAPPERS pm me anytime hun, or chat on fb , as I know where you're at hun xx:A

forever_saving

Bramble, hugs to you. When my Auntie was in the hospice i was strong while i was there visiting and just fell to pieces every time i walked across that car park to go home. I just used to give her a hug and smile when i left and would blow her a kiss. She was never a kissy person so i never felt it was the right thing to do. Everytime i used to think it was the last time i would see her. Out of the blue one day when i got up to leave, i did my usual routine but she asked me for a kiss and told me that she loved me, to which i said the same. She knew. The next day she went completely downhill and passed away. I have amazing memories of her and i'm sure you will of your Grandad. Do what you think is best. Will be thinking of you x
FS x

cariad62

Evening to all,

Bramble - go with the flow, you'll find the right words when you're there. x

Hester - your weekend sounds lovely - enjoy!

FW - well done.

Well, the party last night was fun, and my pavlovas went down well.:D It wasn't a late night either which was good, can't do them any more!

Went to pick mum up today with DD1 and we went to Abakan for bits for DD1 to make Christmas pressies, got loads from the bargain dept and came away with bagsful for £16! got some felt for myself too as I feel like making some Christmas things as well.

Got home and made fish pie for tea with buttered carrots and cabbage - yummy.

The crash on the M5 was awful, am thankful we only really have one fast-ish dual carriageway round here - no motorways.

Hugs to all poorlies and those feeling down, I know it's more than feeling down for some but don't know how better to express it.

Love,

Jan x

sistercas

Tappers i have pm'd you x

redruby

taplady wrote: »

evening!

thanks RR and NPM for being so nice - here and on FB. I still dont think I can ask for help from the doc - just doesn't seem right. I had an outburst at DH earlier over something silly but we've made up now. This is the time I miss my friend so much - she'd sort me out bless her.

Tappers, what would your friend have advised you to do ??

taplady

redruby wrote: »

Tappers, what would your friend have advised you to do ??

we'd have spent hours talking - I helped her so I'm sure she'd do the same - she'd probably drag me to the docs:D

Thankyou to everyone for all you've said today - you are all lovely and its been so good talking about things. I'm a very shy insecure person and I find it easier to talk online than face to face which is another reason Im avoiding the doc.

I'll see how it goes but I promise if it gets any worse that I will seek help.