Quick questions on ANYTHING (see first post for Freezing, Reheating, Slow Cooker, +)

Skint_Catt

belfastgirl23 wrote: »

Skintcatt your problem is simple but alas not necessarily easy to fix. You need a bigger bed. You're not sleeping cos you aren't physically comfortable enough to sleep.

I think you should make it a priority once you get everything paid off. The only other suggestion would be to try to be in bed and asleep before your DH comes up??

Thanks and it has crossed my mind, however everything in our house is only 4 months old as thats when we moved in together. Out mattress is memory foam and worth over £700 - I couldnt' replace that.

I can't sleep until OH comes up as I know he's going to wake me anyway. 10 out of 10 times he's asleep before me. He's asleep as soon as his head hits the pillow but all my life its taken me pretty much an hour to drop off.

Catt xx

PS I think you aer right though as last saturday night he was away and I slept like a baby. He's away this one coming too thankfully - I guess we're just both used to our own double beds and adapting is harder for me as I want him to be comfortable. This applies to allaspects of our lives together and I'm worn out to be honest. I wait on him hand and foot and getting no thanks which doesn't help my sleep problem.

stilernin

Skint_Catt wrote: »

I don't have space to 'open freeze' things like fishcakes and chips that I make - what can I do to stop them all freezing in a lump? My last lot of fishcakes I have to cook piggyback until they thaw out! :rotfl:

Catt xx

Use the innards from cereal packet too. I pull them out flat to use and wipe clean after use in the freezer so it can be used again and again.

Skint_Catt

stilernin wrote: »

Use the innards from cereal packet too. I pull them out flat to use and wipe clean after use in the freezer so it can be used again and again.

Ooh thanks for this! We throw so many away! Doh!

stilernin

Skint_Catt wrote: »

Ooh thanks for this! We throw so many away! Doh!

You could cut them into different shapeed disks or squares according to what you are freezing. Fishcake shape, sliced bread shape etc..... have separate plastic bags to file them away in your kitchen drawer.

Savvy_Sue

Skint_Catt wrote: »

PS I think you aer right though as last saturday night he was away and I slept like a baby. He's away this one coming too thankfully - I guess we're just both used to our own double beds and adapting is harder for me as I want him to be comfortable. This applies to allaspects of our lives together and I'm worn out to be honest. I wait on him hand and foot and getting no thanks which doesn't help my sleep problem.

And would he not want YOU to be comfortable? Does he realise how worn out you are? Would he want that? Does adapting not work both ways?

BTW, I know how hard this is: DH rarely sleeps all night these days, but usually goes to sleep before me. He's then snoring gently (or not so gently), and I feel a right heel for prodding him because I know how tired he is. But needs must!

Not old style, but I have a pillow speaker from Maplin. When I wasn't sleeping well I bought a CD from Meditainment called Relax and Sleep. Rarely heard the end of it ...

trying-very-trying

Savvy_Sue wrote: »

Not old style, but I have a pillow speaker from Maplin. When I wasn't sleeping well I bought a CD from Meditainment called Relax and Sleep. Rarely heard the end of it ...

Snap!! I use the radio, I used to like it on all night, when I was having difficulty sleeping myself, But He complained. I saw one of the pillows in Textsyle World, before Christmas, and I did drop plenty of heavy hints, to no avail. I now put the radio alarm on sleep mode, it's 59mins, I very seldom hear the end. I can tell you the full schedule on Radio 2 throughout the night(it's the only station we get a good reception). Mind you he's a bit deaf, so he doesn't really hear it. Then if I am awake thought the night, I just hit the sleep button again, I never hear it switch off. Not only does he start snoring the minute his head hits the pillow, but he wakes early, and gets up for work upon wakening, whatever time that is. He nearly always puts the light on, to look for his clothes, no matter how often I ask him to look them out at night!!,,,,,But I love him!!!!! I suppose it helps that I no longer work due to disability, and I used to work nightshift, so it didn't cause a problem.
I no longer need contraception:rotfl:,except on the weekends when the kids are sleeping before we go to bed, and that's not very often with two teenagers.:rotfl:

sandy2_2

trying-very-trying wrote: »

Snap!! I use the radio, I used to like it on all night, when I was having difficulty sleeping myself, But He complained.... I now put the radio alarm on sleep mode, it's 59mins, I very seldom hear the end........

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I used to do the same ie put radio on sleep mode, now I've got earphones

belfastgirl23

Skint_Catt wrote: »

This applies to allaspects of our lives together and I'm worn out to be honest. I wait on him hand and foot and getting no thanks which doesn't help my sleep problem.

If you're not long together you need to take action on this in double quick time. Picture yourself aged 70 still waiting on him hand and foot...if you don't get it sorted now when you're in early days you're in big trouble. Take it from someone who knows.

Skint_Catt

But I don't knwo how to cut down otherwise nothing will get done.

Savvy_Sue

Skint_Catt wrote: »

But I don't knwo how to cut down otherwise nothing will get done.

I can think of a few options ...

• You sit down and talk together, and you tell him you are worn out waiting on him hand a foot. Think beforehand what you would like him to help with.
• You withdraw 'privileges' because you are too tired, and tell him WHY you are too tired ...
• You lower your standards slightly ...
• You go on strike completely and see how long it is before he notices ...

Surely he must have done SOMETHING for himself before you were living together? Surely he doesn't expect you to take over EVERYTHING? Maybe he thinks you're enjoying it!