The Buffy buys a House diary.......

Lemon_Tree

didn't realised that the bomb that hit my place was a bouncing one which landed at your place as well! lol

Buffythedebtslayer

I did post a few days ago re cc bill which was scary but it didn't stick...........so I have to confess again:o

My cc stands at 1216 (plus about 100 pounds since I broke up from school)

In my defence M'lud it is mostly the Dentist.

I am spending Money like it is going out of fashion. Christmas has turned in a big last minute panic. It hasn't been like this before I don't think. I normally have lists and if it is a chronic overspend then I know about it.

However this time its the great spendy unknown.

I shall sit down tomorrow and work out what else I need to get. and do the bank thing.

I have been pondering lots of what ifs, inspired by some of the stories on the boards (and shamed, I do wonder if I offend people, I mean some are so hard up they are boiling the kettle once a day and using a thermos.)

The economic situation is also worrying me. I am in a ridiculous well paid job. Ok so the management is an absolute shocker but realistically I won't be paid the same else where and I do want a house....plus my studies are connected to the job. I know that sounds shallow but part of me thinks why be chased out of a well paid job by bullies? I don't know. To be honest I think that is a question I will tackle when Christmas and New Year are out of the way and I feel a bit more straight with the idea of being a teacher. I did look last year for about 6 months but nothing came up that was local. Mind you now I can drive my options are more open.

Life wise........ well. I have been seeing my friends over the last few days. It has done me the world of good. Some were quite worried about me. In the end I don't think the time off did me much good. It was more about admitting I could not carry on as I was with the mess and the stress of so much work.

I cannot explain how much having a tidier room has helped. Really I recommend it!

Tomorrow I will sort some more out in the conservatory, which is sort of in its final phase of gutting. well I doubt it is final but it will look lovely by Friday. IT WILL.


I did the new Year's resolutions thing on the 101 things website, there are 7

1. Learn how to craft (sew knit, make stuff)
2. Start trying new things
3. Stop staying up late
4. Take a vacation to America
5. Find true love
6. Try scuba diving
7. Be more organised

I now I have a craving for some IceCream. So I am going to indulge in some since it is Christmas!

xxx

Buffythedebtslayer

I wondering if I am being unreasonable here.

My friend said we should met on Thursday. I said ok, we'd arrange times later. It took 7 text messages to to sort out cos she would not make ANY decisions (time, place, activity) and I kinda felt like she didn't want to meet up. Equallly tho she is the kinda of friend who goes into melt down if you let her down (ie cancel) and NEVER forgets it. so I didn't want to risk it. I am however bloody sick of the drama. Its the whole is it worth upsetting her thing? She Never Forgets.

Just sometimes I feel like I walk on egg shells around her and it is very tiring.

Buffythedebtslayer

The thing that is really bugging me is that I was feeling quite positive and like I was decompressing from work. I felt I was getting a perspective on things.

You see she is also a teacher and has essentially hated the job for a long time. I have alway maintained a basic love for the actual teaching, just the changes in management that I am finding difficult! She is very negative about the whole thing and so can bend things and I do come away feeling bad. Not like seeing my other friends, my best mate yesterday was lovely.

After all the too and froing with the texting I am left feeling like I have done something wrong or I am wasting my time...............Gah.

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Ok. If this was one of you lot posting I would say lose the friend.



I won't do that cos well it is Christmas and she has been my friend for YEARS and it would really hurt her. And she makes me look unstressed and relaxed so you know there are issues!

However what I will do is go see her Friday morning instead! cos then my other (best) mate is going and that would be better- soften the blow? or potiential blow AND give me more time to wrap and sort and shop...........

RosaBernicia

I'd say go this time, but cut down on the efforts you make for her after that and see how you feel about the friendship in a few months time.

Rosa xx

Buffythedebtslayer

Face book is a utter nightmare. I WISH it had never been invented.

and i can't sleep.

good night

xx

thevinternet

Buffythedebtslayer wrote: »

Face book is a utter nightmare. I WISH it had never been invented.

and i can't sleep.

good night

xx

Lots of my friends have started coming off FB - if it is causing you problems, maybe try the same thing? Or let your friends know you are taking a break from it and try a month without it?

Glad you have been seeing your friends Buffy - other than the one who sounds like hard work, spending time with friends tends to be a rejuvenating activity

chevalier

Yes you don't have to be so local now that you can drive that is true.

But you don't have to be local at all. If, for example you went up north maybe, you could buy a house far cheaper up there than down south? Also have you ever looked at this tied housing thing? I know they do houses for nurses and doctors, but do they do them for teachers too.

If you did a part buy part rent with a housing association, then this might be a cheaper option.
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Buffythedebtslayer

thevinternet wrote: »

Lots of my friends have started coming off FB - if it is causing you problems, maybe try the same thing? Or let your friends know you are taking a break from it and try a month without it?

Glad you have been seeing your friends Buffy - other than the one who sounds like hard work, spending time with friends tends to be a rejuvenating activity

I think I spend too much time on line all together. I am always on the laptop. It is hard cos FB is great in many ways - organising social life and "seeing" friends who live miles away. However as I did last night reading to much into something and being really upset by it is just silly. I lost one friend this year to that sort of thing and I am too old for all that crap. Really too old.

And I take it all to heart cos the written word is there forever kind of thing! even stuff written here.

Would much rather go and see my friend today and actually get out of the house.

However I need to Christmas up the house. put up tree, tidy up the house and try and shake the !!!!!! mood I am in.

tomorrow will be last minute shopping and visiting of Friends.

and friday I am going to a Christmas party which should be good.

xxx

Northern_Lassy

chevalier wrote: »

Yes you don't have to be so local now that you can drive that is true.

But you don't have to be local at all. If, for example you went up north maybe, you could buy a house far cheaper up there than down south?
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Yey to Northern Buffy