What rights does a unmarried father who is NOT on birth certificate have?AdvicePlease

Bossyboots

Karen1980 wrote:

I would feel so much better if we could use one if it comes to that, Do i go in the room with the kids and him.. or is it just him and the kids?

Its expected to be just him and the children but obviously if they don't know him that would be inappropriate straight off. If it gets as far as court then I would expect the court reporting officer to introduce them as part of her assessment and to report back on how they react to each other.

Scarlett1

Anarchist wrote:

Best of luck Karen, I don't think you'll have any problems though. If the guys up on assault charges already then I sincerely doubt they will even allow visiting rights to him.

Scarlett1, without trying to put a downer on Karens thread, you're the one who sounds like you have a problem, not the entire male population that are obviously of lesser morality than a sexist egotistical generalistic pig such as yourself. Get over yourself, we all know some bloody horrible women as well as men.

shame you felt the need to insult me, I made a statement about some guys and for some it hit a raw nerve, there are good fathers and there are bad fathers, the same as there are good mothers and bad mothers, you carry on your little rant sweetheart and trip trap trip trap over that bridge

Scarlett1

Anarchist wrote:

Scarlett1, without trying to put a downer on Karens thread, you're the one who sounds like you have a problem, not the entire male population that are obviously of lesser morality than a sexist egotistical generalistic pig such as yourself. Get over yourself, we all know some bloody horrible women as well as men.

wont lower myself to your level sweetheart

Scarlett1

Karen1980 wrote:

I would feel so much better if we could use one if it comes to that, Do i go in the room with the kids and him.. or is it just him and the kids?

karen chin up, hope it works out ok for you, all the best x

Karen1980

Scarlett1 wrote:

karen chin up, hope it works out ok for you, all the best x

Thank you xx

welshcakes

karen. When it went to court for me, a Cafcass Officer was assigned as there was no agreement between the parties. The Cafcass Officer has the powers to request information from the police with regards to any criminal activity that is brought to his/her attention that he/she feels may have a direct bearing on the question of access.

I am pleases that you have done as I did and NEVER slagged or talked about the other parent in earshot of the kids. When we told my Cafcass Officer this he basically sneered at us and said it couldn't be true but then when he had his one and only short chat with the kids he changed his tune and openly commended us at the hearing saying the children were 'unaligned' ie they had remained unaware of any disputes, ill feelings etc. This goes a long way in court to showing that a PWC is motivated to act in the child's best interests.

A post earlier used the phrase 'wisdom of the court' which I have to say from my experience brought a smile to my face. After all the dust has settled, my ex has abandoned any interest in his children for the second time after having persued a short lived period of contact that caused one of them psychological trauma (which we have thankfully now healed). I realise this is not normally the case but it does happen. We were left to pick up the pieces of a child who was nearly destroyed because we resigned ourselves to following the 'wisdom of the court'.

If you can honestly say that your concerns for introducing a parent into the lives of your children (the littlest has never known him) are purely and solely based on reasoning that it will harm your children emotionally, de-stabilise the family unit or possibly endanger them physically, I would fight it. For me, that's what a loving parent does, protect their child.