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alias*alibi

QuiteNice wrote: »

See, that just confirms to me that you are a unpleasant person.

I hope you continue to see a counsellor.

Thank you for being so kind. I hope the same carp lands down on you then let's see what a sweet kind thing you would turn out to be. Must be wonderful to sit on that moral high horse of yours! :-)

Person_one

alias*alibi wrote: »

Thank you for being so kind. I hope the same carp down land on you then let's see what a sweet kind thing you would turn out to be. :-)

Maybe time to take a deep breath and put the computer down? You've been through a lot but nobody here has hurt you enough to deserve that kind of comment, that was your husband.

peachyprice

alias*alibi wrote: »

After 20 pages of the same old !!!!!! will do that to a person.

If you were prepared to take on board that some posters may just have a point there wouldn't be 20 pages of it.

You can't expect to post on an open forum and only expect to hear what you want to. You wanted opinions, you got them, the fact that the majority are not what you want to hear speaks volumes about just how deep in denial you are.

alias*alibi

Person_one wrote: »

Maybe time to take a deep breath and put the computer down? You've been through a lot but nobody here has hurt you enough to deserve that kind of comment, that was your husband.

I didnt deserve most of the bashing I've got on here but some people felt justified to do it on a forum so I'm only retaliating. To be called an unpleasant person by someone who has made one pathetic comment I felt my reply was justified.

Maybe everyone now needs to out their computers down, climb down off their high horses and leave the thread?

alias*alibi

peachyprice wrote: »

If you were prepared to take on board that some posters may just have a point there wouldn't be 20 pages of it.

You can't expect to post on an open forum and only expect to hear what you want to. You wanted opinions, you got them, the fact that the majority are not what you want to hear speaks volumes about just how deep in denial you are.

Agreed; but it's the same old names bleating on and on about the same old stuff. !!!!!! I think they are using bash a*a thread as their daily entertainment or to let off their own frustrations about parts of their own lives.

I think the thread has well and truly run it's course now.

whatyadoinsucka

my word.. what a mess.
once a cheater always a cheater..

good luck whatever you decide

cloudy-day

alias*alibi wrote: »

Agreed; but it's the same old names bleating on and on about the same old stuff. !!!!!! I think they are using bash a*a thread as their daily entertainment or to let off their own frustrations about parts of their own lives.

I think the thread has well and truly run it's course now.

Please stop now.

If you read the posts you will see that most, if not all of them, are very supportive and sympathetic to your plight. You have now chosen to look only at the lines that you disagree with.

Please, walk away from this thread and try to dispel this enormous anger you seem to have in you.

I (like the majority of people that have taken the trouble to help you), wish you the best of luck on what I'm sure will be a long and difficult journey - whatever YOU decide.

My heart goes out to you.

alias*alibi

whatyadoinsucka wrote: »

my word.. what a mess.
once a cheater always a cheater..

good luck whatever you decide

Very helpful and constructive advise. Thanks for that.:cool:

essexgirly

Oh Alias..... you are so angry, but it appears for the wrong reasons.... Your angry with the people who are giving you very informative advice, nobody is telling you to walk away from your husband. There have been several posts from people who have walked in your shoes....We are only giving you an opinion, which is why you surely came onto this forum.

Please calm down, this must be having a huge effect on your daughter, who is probably traumatised enough anyway. You need serious support. Your aggression is overwhelming, the saying goes, attack is the best form of defence and I believe that is what your going through now. Nobody on here has attacked you. In fact you have been attacking people who have come across with variable, positive responses to statements that you have made. Stand back and take a breath. Take some time out for you and you only.

Surely if you work in Social Services, you have ongoing supervision to discuss any traumas and problems???? Just my perception

alias*alibi

cloudy-day wrote: »

Please stop now.

If you read the posts you will see that most, if not all of them, are very supportive and sympathetic to your plight. You have now chosen to look only at the lines that you disagree with.

Please, walk away from this thread and try to dispel this enormous anger you seem to have in you.

I (like the majority of people that have taken the trouble to help you), wish you the best of luck on what I'm sure will be a long and difficult journey - whatever YOU decide.

My heart goes out to you.

Honestly I'm not angry; I'm tired and disheartened that dispite me saying I'm not leaving my husband, given the reasons he left the OW in the lurch, why he can't face even seeing the OW let alone speak to her the same people keep harping on about how sad it is for the other child. For christs sake; yes it's a !!!!!! situation, it's not going to change anytime soon and as a woman and mother of course I feel a little bad about the way things have turned out for an innocent baby. But ultimately she is nothing to do with me and I refuse to pressurise my husband into doing something he is not comfortable with or can face at the moment. That's what people need to read and digest and accept. The baby has her mother and the rest of her mothers family around her so I doubt she will go short of love and affection. My priorities are my family; me, my daughter and my husband and that's what I choose to focus on.