What can my wife aply for?

shegirl

gemstargirl wrote: »

No, just some compensation like working mums get via Tax Credits for childcare.

That's not compensation,that's assistance for a tax payer to help with childcare so all their wages aren't taken up.

what exactly is it you do as a stay at home mum that means the government should support you?

You can't just give people an allowance because they have kids and choose to stay at home with them.What planet are you on?

LMCD

this has gone slightly off track - but OP your wife can probably apply for a job. Best go to the job centre, they will be able to point her in the right direction in all aspects.

cosmic-dust

gemstargirl wrote: »

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

Your child is 16! They are at school how many hours per day...respite catch a grip.

HAMMIEHOO

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.
Working mums get help for childcare, so why not something for stay at home mums too?

I am a working mum and get no help with my son's childcare costs, the only entitlement I ever received was 2.5 hrs a day care when he was 3-5 and that was a government entitlement to every child at nursery. (I live in Scotland, so not sure if this was down south also). My son is now nearly 11 and I am still paying for a childminder after school so please explain where the help if you are a working mum comes from, because I am aware of some help if you are on a lower wage (quite right, otherwise how do you afford to work).

I do not believe that once your children are at school you are putting in more hours than most working mums. Where possible my time at home is spent with my child doing homework together, cooking and being a glorified taxi driver 3 nights a week and at the weekend to go to Taekwondo. I love my child and do not think you should measure how much time you spend with them as being a case of Working mums vs stay at home mums, rather, you should measure how much of the time spent with your child is quality time.:)

AnxiousMum

cosmic-dust wrote: »

Your child is 16! They are at school how many hours per day...respite catch a grip.

roflmao......just priceless! Thought she had a six week old and was maybe having a hard time adjusting or something!

cosmic-dust

AnxiousMum wrote: »

roflmao......just priceless! Thought she had a six week old and was maybe having a hard time adjusting or something!

OT but her other post that I replied to she is asking if the daughter can claim CA and IS. Good hey

It would be good for her if she could have an income so that she is independent.

MamaMoo_2

gemstargirl wrote: »

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

If it's upsetting you so much then get off of your ar*e and get a job.
Put your kid in childcare, sounds like they'd be better off.
You sound like such an a*se. Bringing up kids should be your reward in itself!

embob74

AnxiousMum wrote: »

this is not a SAHM vs working mum's thread - and to say that one is any better than the other is so wrong. There are plus and minuses to each one, and it comes down to individual choice, and what suits your family best.

Hear hear :T
In an ideal world mums would have the option to go to work or stay at home as they choose.
I'm a SAHM as I can't afford to work due to childcare costs. But then having two babies close together was my choice and I'm lucky my partner supports me.
It would be nice to have the choice though.

Fiver29

gemstargirl wrote: »

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

I get no help for child care. I work a damned sight more than 15 hours a day as well.

You get no respite? What rot, you have husband to share the work with your children, unless you married a total chauvinist who thinks it's beneath him to lift a finger in the house (in which case, more fool you).

Fiver29

cosmic-dust wrote: »

Your child is 16! They are at school how many hours per day...respite catch a grip.

OMG really :eek: I thought the child must have been a baby, respite !!!!!!!!