What can my wife aply for?

AnxiousMum

Rachelhen.....there was no need for Gemstargirl's comments - this is not a SAHM vs working mum's thread - and to say that one is any better than the other is so wrong. There are plus and minuses to each one, and it comes down to individual choice, and what suits your family best.

Rikki

What ever happened to being a 'stay at home Mum' and sharing your husbands money?

Since lone parents were given income support to live independently they find it hard to give up being financially independent and live as a family.

I worked, I got married, my husband supported me financially while I was at home with the children till I went back to work. This seems so alien to many people they just expect an entitlement to benefits.

gemstargirl

Fiver29 wrote: »

Most working mums go to work, then do exactly the same at home as a SAHM.

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

gemstargirl

Rikki wrote: »

What ever happened to being a 'stay at home Mum' and sharing your husbands money?

Since lone parents were given income support to live independently they find it hard to give up being financially independent and live as a family.

I worked, I got married, my husband supported me financially while I was at home with the children till I went back to work. This seems so alien to many people they just expect an entitlement to benefits.

No, just some compensation like working mums get via Tax Credits for childcare.

Cherry_Bomb

gemstargirl wrote: »

No, just some compensation like working mums get via Tax Credits for childcare.

compensation :D:D:D:D

LMCD

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.
Working mums get help for childcare, so why not something for stay at home mums too?

I am a sahm mon - fri then I work saturday and sunday.

You are technically saying the goverment should fork out for people to have kids ... which would then lead to some people not working...which actually already happens.

AnxiousMum

gemstargirl wrote: »

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

Think about it a second.....you DO get 'compensated' for choosing to be a stay at home mum.

If you are with your husband, your child tax credit are paid based on his earnings alone right? However, if you were working, you would receive less in child tax credits, as it would be paid based on both of your earnings.

So, in effect, you are being 'paid' or 'compensated' by way of child tax credits - as you are getting 'extra' money by choosing to be a stay at home mum. So.....where's the gripe?

As for 'respite'......hmmm what's that? Is that the time that the kids are in school? Personally, I look at my 'respite' time as when I am working - it allows me to be a grown up for a while, to be me.....maintain relationships that don't revolve around baby talk and can be a little fancier than the local ball pit play centre!

onetomany

gemstargirl wrote: »

Yes no doubt they do, but at least they are given money by the state via childcare during the day to help out.

My day is just as long as any working mum - 15 hours a day, and I get no respite!!

Just seems one sided against mums that wish not to work.

!!!!!!? your having a laugh my husbond works 40 hrs a week , me up to 32 and i still have to be a mum ,cook,cleaner etc and i can still mange to go bed around 9pm at the latest each night oh and ive only had 1 night away from my son whos 9 am i moaning ? its called being a mum

rachelhen

I do feel that there are pros and cons to either staying at home or working and if push comes to shove feel that young children benefit from mum being at home but its just not possible for many people. I do think that people should always try to be self-sufficient though especially when they are living with choices they have made.

LL30

gemstargirl wrote: »

No, just some compensation like working mums get via Tax Credits for childcare.

Trolltastic! Good job I've been doing my pelvic floor exercises!!!