What can my wife aply for?

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Fiver29 wrote: »

Most working mums go to work, then do exactly the same at home as a SAHM.

That's exactly what I thought when I was ironing till 1am this morning and when I went to Asda at 8pm last Friday :T

rachelhen

WORKING MUMS STILL DO WHAT THEY NEED TO DO AS WELL AS WORKING. oo sorry caps locked... they just fit it into a shorter time and have no time to meet mums for gossip when the kids are at school.
Also if a woman stays at home and can afford it that is wonderful and if she can't she will get benefits so then she is getting paid...

AnxiousMum

As a SAHM you do get additional benefits! Have you ever had to pull an allnighter getting things ready for a holiday? Have you experienced grocery shopping at 3:30 am? Juggling work with ensuring that everything your kids need is provided in terms of time? I know, I know....you've pulled all nighters with sick or sleepless children....but so have working mums, and then had to get ready and go to work the next day, or use a day of their vacation to stay at home with the child.

To stay at home now is a choice - and while I've been both a SAHM and a working mum - my children have never gone without at any time, whether it be their physical or emotional needs.

The financial contributions that should be coming your way - would be by way of your husband's income surely? or do you seriously think that all the working couples who do not have children, should be supporting you to stay at home? Sorry - that's a choice you and your husband make - and one that you should make based on your ability to financially support yourselves.

AnxiousMum

OP - now that the child is 5, surely your wife can find some part time employment whilst the child is in school? Being granted her ILR, I'm sure that any work restrictions are removed and she's free to seek employment?

shegirl

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.
Working mums get help for childcare, so why not something for stay at home mums too?

Why on earth should a stay at home mum be given an allowance by the government?Pathetic.

And no,you probably don't put in more hours in bringing up the family than working mums,working mums are doing a fully round job-providing for their own kids by working,setting a good example by working,working hard during the day then coming home to look after the house and look after the kids.In my experience stay at home mums tend to spend quite a bit of their day doing what THEY want to do (tv,gossiping with friends etc etc)

rachelhen

If I could thank Shegirl a million times I would and Anxiousmum

MamaMoo_2

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.
Working mums get help for childcare, so why not something for stay at home mums too?

Woking mums get help for childcare because they are contributing to society, paying taxes etc.
They are not working for 8 hours a day then finishing, either. They're going home to do chores etc in the remaining 16 hours what you have 24 whole hours to do. So working moms do your job and theirs in the same timescale.

Why get paid to raise your own child? If you're choosing to pop one out, then surely the current benefits available are enough. If not, there's always getting a real job.
I'm a SAHM and I'm supported by my husband. The TC's, CB and HB are an added bonus that I'm eternally grateful for, but I sure as hell don't expect a personal allowance for raising my child. Raising my son is something I have an obligation to do for bringing him into the world, and a task I'm more than happy to do.
Seeing his first steps, teaching him to speak, knowing that every little bit of developmental progress is because I've taught him well is priceless. Raising your child should be seen as a privilege, not a chore!

AnxiousMum

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.
Working mums get help for childcare, so why not something for stay at home mums too?

Wow.....just read this part in your post - raising your child is 'thankless'? I've always thought that the raising of my children has been the most rewarding, not in financial terms, but in every other way - choice I could make. Seriously.....the only 'reward' reuired for being a mum is the look in those eyes, and that smile that just says 'I love you'......I'm sorry you feel it is thankless.

rachelhen

I rarely feel cross but gemstargirl seems to be deliberately annoying/naive/immature/grasping etc she clearly has no idea what it is to have to work and provide for herself and her children and/or partner I may be wrong.
I love my children and therefore have provided materially emotionally spiritually and without any resentment of them. I brought them into the world and will always have them as my first priority no matter hhow old I/They are .

Cherry_Bomb

gemstargirl wrote: »

I know it will never happen, but I firmly believe that a mum that stays at home to bring a family up should be paid an allowance by the government. It is a thankless task, but a worthy one.

Get a grip

gemstargirl wrote: »

I probably put more hours in bringing up the family than most working mums work.

Possibly the dumbest thing I have ever read