it would all be great but............

Ames

BitterAndTwisted wrote: »

Bringing in her boyfriend and having sex with him whilst your son was in the house does sound like the actions of a !!!!!!. Or someone with a complete disregard for your son's feelings. However this does not necessarily make her a bad mother.

Other people do not have to live their lives according to your own code of conduct. And wishing they would is futile. Some of your comments do not put you in a terribly favourable light either.

How can you say that? The op hasn't given anywhere near enough info to come to any conclusion. It could be that she said it was over, had been asking him to leave for months, and finally had enough and realised that she had to get on with her own life for her own sanity, and to prove to him that she meant what she said.

zcrat41

Ames wrote: »

How can you say that? The op hasn't given anywhere near enough info to come to any conclusion. It could be that she said it was over, had been asking him to leave for months, and finally had enough and realised that she had to get on with her own life for her own sanity, and to prove to him that she meant what she said.

Even if the above is true you'd have hoped she'd have enough self respect not to shag someone whilst somone else can hear you. Have to say, that's not the action of a classy girl, however you dress it up!

newcook

zcrat41 wrote: »

Even if the above is true you'd have hoped she'd have enough self respect not to shag someone whilst somone else can hear you. Have to say, that's not the action of a classy girl, however you dress it up!

you'd have thought though that he would have had the self respect to have left when he was asked instead of hanging around like a bad smell

Dizzy_Ditzy

OP- 43 people have taken the time and effort to reply to this post, taking some considerable time to reply to your points individually.

I am assumung that what you have read is not what you want to hear. Even so, you could at least have thanked people for taking the time to reply and even to update us on whether things have changed, or what you are going to do in the future.

I do hope that the little boy in question is not suffering in any way here. After all, he's actually the most important factor here

3v3

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

OP- 43 people have taken the time and effort to reply to this post, taking some considerable time to reply to your points individually.

I am assumung that what you have read is not what you want to hear. Even so, you could at least have thanked people for taking the time to reply and even to update us on whether things have changed, or what you are going to do in the future.

I do hope that the little boy in question is not suffering in any way here. After all, he's actually the most important factor here

Of those 43 people who took the time to reply, how many gave positive advice? How many used it as an opportunity to rip into the OP? I can't help wondering if I would be "thanking" people for taking their time to be rude? :think: Would you?

Dizzy_Ditzy

3v3 wrote: »

Of those 43 people who took the time to reply, how many gave positive advice? How many used it as an opportunity to rip into the OP? I can't help wondering if I would be "thanking" people for taking their time to be rude? :think: Would you?

i completely see your point, but a lot of the posts have been constructive and helpful

PS - i wouldnt!

pearl123

oldtractor wrote: »

I just think my grandson is heavily disadvantaged by his mothers sluttishness.

It appears the your grandchild is disadvantaged by having a grandma who is not truely kind!
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OP - your bitter and backward way of thinking will never help anyone, especially not your grandson.

The stigma of not marrying and having children has long-gone for the vast majority of people.
Marriage is not a necessity. Love and kindness is!

3v3

queen_of_cheap wrote: »

.... a lot of the posts have been constructive and helpful ...

Yes, some have indeed been constructive and helpful

CH27

OP what is done is done & you cannot turn the clock back.

Your grandson needs you to be there to love him & support him.
For his sake please try to move past the sadness & bitterness you feel.

Life throws cr*p at us & we just have to deal with it with grace & strength.

Louise03

I think the op is perfectly entitled to air her feelings about wanting her grandson to have the traditional upbringing the rest of her family enjoy. So many people here have been hostile and used it as a venue to get on their soap boxes. It is possible to feel remorse about your family situation and reflect on how you would actually prefer it to be, this does not make her a terrible grandmother.