Mortified

sassyblue

The correct response is: 'No, l'm just fat.... like your mouth'

I've never had the nerve to use it myself.... :rotfl:

moomoomama27

I've put my foot in it a couple of times. I've learned the hard way that even if someone looks pregnant, they might be, and to take their lead!

coolcait

Same thing happened to me when my youngest was about the same age.

It was summer, I was wearing a baggy top, and two of my older co-workers asked me outright if I was pregnant.

I just laughed and - like Benazir Bhutto once did - said "No, I'm just fat!" - with a big smile and a shrug.

I felt quite sorry for them because they looked horribly embarrassed - and a bit disappointed. I think they'd have enjoyed having an 'office baby'.

I also understood why they'd have thought I was pregnant - and I can't blame it entirely on the top :rotfl::rotfl: (although it didn't help!).

For me, it has always been a "you'll never guess what happened to me" type of funny story. It was never a cue for beating myself up about my weight, or for holding it against my colleagues.

And I wore the top again, regularly. It was lovely and cool, and perfect for summer.

If you're happy with yourself, then I'd recommend taking the laidback approach to one off-the-cuff comment, which might not have had any malice behind it.

If you're not happy with yourself, that might be part of the reason why this has upset you so much. So, you could use it as a starting point to work out what you could do to make yourself feel happier about yourself.

Kay_Peel

I was having my legs waxed when the assistant asked me when was the baby due. Ok, so I was wearing my old 'fat pants' for the messy waxing procedure and I possibly wasn't looking my best, but ooooh I still felt crushed.

'Sorry, love, no baby here - it's just the way I'm sitting', I replied :rotfl:

I've never seen anyone squirm and redden so quickly and I felt sorry for her so I followed this up with the first thing that came into my head - 'Are you going anywhere nice on your holidays this year?'

And that made things worse - she thought I was taking the pee. I wasn't. Apart from the odd 'ouch' the rest of the waxing session passed in silence.

bestpud

I assumed someone was pregnant once - I even asked how long they had until maternity leave! It was a genuine mistake and I was mortified!!!

I'm not sure why you'd complain about it....

It was an innocent comment from someone making conversation. You feel upset but you've also said you can see why she may have assumed you were pregnant.

Leave it at that or you will cause yourself even more embarrassment!

gratefulforhelp_2

dizziblonde wrote: »

I've been asked by a kid before "is there a baby in your tummy" and just replied "nope, just cake" - at which point the TA listening in on the conversation collapsed into fits of laughter at my answer.

Same here:rotfl:

OP it's jolly rude of her. A lesson in not making personal comments to people we don't know very well.

Person_one

bestpud wrote: »

I assumed someone was pregnant once - I even asked how long they had until maternity leave! It was a genuine mistake and I was mortified!!!

I'm not sure why you'd complain about it....

It was an innocent comment from someone making conversation. You feel upset but you've also said you can see why she may have assumed you were pregnant.

Basic rule of etiquette: Never assume a woman is pregnant unless you can actually see the baby coming out of her.

Why do people need to comment anyway?

heretolearn_2

Don't worry about it. I was at a christening last weekend and a little old lady came over, absolutely beaming smiles and looking all excited, and asked me when mine was due.

My son was born 20-odd years ago...

I was mortified but it's motivating me on my diet! She didn't mean any harm though.

divorcingjack

I've done this at work.

"oh, you should sit down"
"WHY?" cue rabid look and quick realisation from me ..
"Oh errrr, because you're.... going toooooo....... show me how you would do this on your PC" (ah HA!!)

She was not fooled.

As a comedian said once, possibly Billy Connelly "Id rather see a pregnant woman standing than a fat one sitting down crying"

Bennifred

I've been on a course of drugs that have made me bloat up - I look 8 months pregnant! BUT I am at an age where it would be very unusual to actually be pregnant, so I haven't had any comments (to my face, anyway!:p) from adults in the school where I work.

I have had some questions from very interested Yr 7 students, though......bless 'em......:rotfl: