Mortified

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Well, it was an unsolicited and very personal comment: not very professional really.

If you feel it necessary, you could have a gentle word with the Head. I don't mean make a big fuss, but, if it is the nature of the woman to make personal remarks goodness only knows what she may say to the children (and at the puppy fat stage of life, that could have a real impact on a young child!)

As for how it has made *you* feel, about *yourself* - only you can do anything about that If you are comfortable and happy with your weight/self-image, then let it slide; but it sounds like you are not happy with your self-image (quite normal when you have a child under 1yo!). How you view yourself is far, far, far, more important than an inconsequential person with no tact who has no importance in your life.

Kaz2904

Honestly, she was probably as embarrassed as you were. She was probably trying to be friendly and it massively backfired. It's not like she turned around and said "Oh you're so fat" is it? I'm a slim size 10 and I regularly start to look like I'm pregnant. Just before I'm due on usually. My work uniforms make me look pregnant all the time though because the trousers come up so high. I often get patients patting my belly when I roll them. I don't get cross I just think "Yup, pot belly again".
Please don't take it to heart. I'm guessing that if you are so upset by the comment, it's because you want to lose weight anyway.
I agree though, don't wear the top again if it makes you look pregnant

missprice

reminds me of years ago i was umm 21 and preggers and visited a middle school/high school with my then sis inlaw
we wandered around with the other parents and then the head teacher came to talk to sis in law about her child going to that school
they chatted and the the head turned to me and said well do you like it ok to start in Sept?:eek:
was bloody funny but the head was completely beet red when she figured out i was just hand holding not going to be a student
i wouldnt mind but i was massive from day one in that pregnancy
and it was so obvious that i was in fact preggers and not fat.
but i did and somewhat still do have a baby face so even now at 41 i still get asked for id to buy beer and stuff

and if it ever happens again OP tell her to keep her nose out
or say yes triplets due in a week:)

Lily_The_Legend

The cheeky mare! That's the sort of time when afterwards you wish you'd said something really cutting in reply. I never think of them at the time!

djdido2

I am a size 8 and after having my son my belly was still wobbly for a good while afterwards. A girl offered to do some heavy lifting for me in my work and at the time I thought she was so kind helping me (she thought I was six months pregnant) I was mortified to say the least. I bet she could not wait for you to leave the room so she could cringe and squirm quietly. Take it in your stride, even skinny people get it x

fannyanna

I would never ask someone if they were pregnant (unless it's obvious that they're about to drop) as I'm terrified that I'll ask someone who is just carrying a little bit of excess weight around their tummy.

I would be mortified if I called someone pregnant when they weren't - mainly because I know how upset I'd be if someone asked me if I was pregnant (luckily for me I'm fat but fat all over so it's clear I'm fat and not pregnant lol)..

Nicki - love the bit about accepting seats on public transport lol.

dizziblonde

I've been asked by a kid before "is there a baby in your tummy" and just replied "nope, just cake" - at which point the TA listening in on the conversation collapsed into fits of laughter at my answer.

GemBlueTopaz1984

I've been on the other side of this and it is just mortifying, I was in a night club and bumped into an old friend and her partner, now looking at her she had slim face slim arms and being alot taller than her and looking down what looked to be a heavily pregnant belly, cue me putting my hand on her stomach and going "this is new" when she called me a cheeky cow and me stepping back and realising it wasn't a pregnancy belly at all, tried awkwardly to laughing it off, then making a bee line for the door. still to this day don't know if she realised I thought she was pregnant or just such a cow that I would but my hand on her stomach and say what could basically be construed as "you've gained weight" I don't know which would be worse.

Plans_all_plans

I've offered women seats on trains before thinking they were pregnant and them saying "no thanks, I don't need one". Hopefully they were actually pregnant (but stoic) rather than fat! It's still mortifying from the other side too.

wishicouldmakeitbetter

Just coming at it from another viewpoint. Could it be an awkwardly worded way of talking about the 11 month baby being a prospective pupil? I have a habit of thinking one thing only to find out people meant something completely different.
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