rant..moan..school..bullying.

Sambucus_Nigra

fedupnow wrote: »

Does it never occur to you she may get hurt?

What happens, when as a teenager with a reputation for being a fighter, she gets beaten up by two or three others and nobody sees her as a victim but somebody who has been a 'fighter' since she was a nipper?

Good grief. She hit back someone who punched her; the end.

Get a grip eh?

fedupnow

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

The OP's made the noise, the school will not take responsibility.

Removing the child potentially causes more harm both emotionally and educationally.

The school has to. They have a duty of care. The law is on her side, it may not feel like it, but it is. We need strong parents to take the authorities on and insist they do their job. These are our children!!


And I disagree with the second comment. Going into a school which ignores bullying is far more damaging emotionally than staying home. And I question how much he is learning while having to watch his back all the time.

fedupnow

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Good grief. She hit back someone who punched her; the end.

Get a grip eh?

Well, maybe it is the end, maybe it's not.

Sambucus_Nigra

fedupnow wrote: »

Well, maybe it is the end, maybe it's not.

I imagine it probably is.

FATBALLZ

Estateprincess wrote: »

I do not think violence is right but sometimes it can shock bullies into realising that what they are doing is wrong.

It does nothing of the sort, it merely makes the bullies scared of their target and causes them to move on to somebody weaker.

Hitting back is the best thing the OPs kids could have done, most teachers these days can barely manage to teach, let alone protect vulnerable kids from bullies. If no other remedy proves effective teaching your kids to stand up for themselves is the best thing to do.

moomoomama27

Lotus-eater wrote: »

When my DD started school, I told her if anyone hit her on purpose, to hit straight back, don't even think about it.
Some little thug whacked her on purpose, so she punched him straight back on the nose (I'd taught her how to punch so she could hold a proper fist). Guess what? No more problems and that was 2.5 years ago.

I would stand up to the school up to the highest authority, to have to right to stand up for yourself.

Wahhh that's awful!

I am all for anti bullying, but to tell your child to use physical violence against another is not on! It will not solve anything in the long term other than your child (and you) getting a reputation among the teachers!

There are plenty of ways of teaching a child how to deal with bullying, and believe me I've been there with 2 of mine, punching, and actually showing them how to punch for the best result, is not IMHO anyway to go about it.

Sambucus_Nigra

moomoomama27 wrote: »

Wahhh that's awful!

I am all for anti bullying, but to tell your child to use physical violence against another is not on! It will not solve anything in the long term other than your child (and you) getting a reputation among the teachers!

There are plenty of ways of teaching a child how to deal with bullying, and believe me I've been there with 2 of mine, punching, and actually showing them how to punch for the best result, is not IMHO anyway to go about it.

Go on then - what's the best way to go about it 'in your humble opinion'?

moomoomama27

Sambucus_Nigra wrote: »

Go on then - what's the best way to go about it 'in your humble opinion'?

First approach the teacher, if you get nowhere approach the head of year or head teacher. IMO violence is never the answer.

When my daughter was being bullied at primary school, I spoke to the class teacher didn't really change things much, so arranged a meeting with the head teacher who got the children involved to have a meeting to discuss things between themselves, and try and iron it out. Then the parents were called in to be told about the situation and how is was being dealt with. They then had an anti bullying monitor (a child in the upper years of the school) take charge in the playground to make sure all ran smoothly, and this lasted several weeks.

It was solved with the support of the school and the parents. No need to be teaching our children to punch each other.

Sambucus_Nigra

moomoomama27 wrote: »

First approach the teacher, if you get nowhere approach the head of year or head teacher.

Is that it? Genius.

FATBALLZ

moomoomama27 wrote: »

IMO violence is never the answer.

Some history lessons are in order. (and I don't mean the kids).