rant..moan..school..bullying.

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OP is this your son?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ePI3v8zjYEY

Plans_all_plans

fedupnow wrote: »

So, if all the kis 'hit back' all bullying would stop?

Okay, I wonder why the schools don't just do that ... that would be a new and novel anti-bullying policy ... 'Everybody just hit them!'

Yeah, I can't think why they haven't thought of that.

Might do them the world of good to know they'll get a battering from everyone if they carry on bullying!

One thing I do know is that if you rely on the school to sort out bullying, it won't happen in the vast majority of cases.

Lotus-eater

fedupnow wrote: »

I think it would be nice to worry about others a little bit too, don't you think? How far do you only worry about your own?

Enough that I'm going to do it my way and not argue about it.
You do what you want with your kids.

fedupnow

Plans_all_plans wrote: »

Might do them the world of good to know they'll get a battering from everyone if they carry on bullying!

One thing I do know is that if you rely on the school to sort out bullying, it won't happen in the vast majority of cases.

Okay. But kid 'A' is bullied by kid 'B' so Kid 'A' gives kid 'B' a poke in the eye. Kid 'C' says to kid 'A' 'That's my mate you just bullied' and gives kid A a good hiding. Parents of kid 'B' and 'C' say, 'Serves that kid 'A' right, he got just what he deserved.'

fedupnow

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Enough that I'm going to do it my way and not argue about it.
You do what you want with your kids.

You're nice to know.

Lotus-eater

fedupnow wrote: »

You're nice to know.

I was bullied at school and was told not to hit back, so I didn't. It did me good though. Years of hell good.
So yes, I am nice to know and I'm damn sure my kids are going to be able to protect themselves and have my backup when they do.

Reggie_Rebel

fedupnow wrote: »

So, if all the kis 'hit back' all bullying would stop?

Okay, I wonder why the schools don't just do that ... that would be a new and novel anti-bullying policy ... 'Everybody just hit them!'

Yeah, I can't think why they haven't thought of that.

In this case they don't appear to have an effective anti-bullying policy at all.

What would you suggest?

fedupnow

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I was bullied at school and was told not to hit back, so I didn't. It did me good though. Years of hell good.
So yes, I am nice to know and I'm damn sure my kids are going to be able to protect themselves and have my backup when they do.

Does it never occur to you she may get hurt?

What happens, when as a teenager with a reputation for being a fighter, she gets beaten up by two or three others and nobody sees her as a victim but somebody who has been a 'fighter' since she was a nipper?

fedupnow

Reggie_Rebel wrote: »

In this case they don't appear to have an effective anti-bullying policy at all.

What would you suggest?

Making lots of noise and forcing the school to take responsibility. They have to have an anti-bullying policy. They have a duty of care. Failing that, I'd remove him from the school.

I'm not saying it's easy. I removed my child from school. Personally I think hitting back is simply the easiest, short term option, but it carries an element of risk, both to their safety and their reputation.

Reggie_Rebel

fedupnow wrote: »

Making lots of noise and forcing the school to take responsibility. They have to have an anti-bullying policy. They have a duty of care. Failing that, I'd remove him from the school.

I'm not saying it's easy. I removed my child from school. Personally I think hitting back is simply the easiest, short term option, but it carries an element of risk, both to their safety and their reputation.

The OP's made the noise, the school will not take responsibility.

Removing the child potentially causes more harm both emotionally and educationally.