Is this legally/morally right?

Ziggazee

No need to duck from me clearingout......couldn't agree more :-)

gingin_2

I can't add much but I agree with the majority.

I thought Zumba classes were only 30 minutes. I've definitely left my son for a little longer than that when he was 10 and off school poorly so that I could pick up his sister. I made a judgement call based on how ill he was and knowing what contact he had with me and neighbours around. It was the right decision for us.

mishkanorman

gingin wrote: »

I can't add much but I agree with the majority.

I thought Zumba classes were only 30 minutes. I've definitely left my son for a little longer than that when he was 10 and off school poorly so that I could pick up his sister. I made a judgement call based on how ill he was and knowing what contact he had with me and neighbours around. It was the right decision for us.

most important line of the thread, sometimes its not always ideal but you have to weigh everything up in the grand scheme of things. Pick your battles

Tiddlywinks

Firstly, by all means support your partner in how he feels but are you sure you're not adding to the situation by climbing onboard the outrage bus yourself?

How was the girl ill? As others have said, she may be very nearly well.

She'd been ill for days yet it took a call from her to your OH to let him know she was ill - you say the ex should have let him know - well, he could have checked in from time to time and found out himself, couldn't he?

Scared to be alone? Children can be very cunning and know how to play parents off against each other - the daughter may be over-egging things to get daddy's sympathy vote or get back at mum for something or other.

Basically, all of the adults in this relationship should work together for the benefit of the child rather than look for opportunities to point the finger.

Finally, sending a text about something this important is just pathetic.

clearing_out_my_pockets

Someone (and it may even have been the OP) asked how the child would have been able to contact her mother if she was dancing and there was loud music. The zumba classes I've been to ALWAYS have a break between songs for people to get a drink of water. Me being me, I ALWAYS check my phone at that point. So there is a way. We also don't know how far away from the mum's house the zumba class is. There's a class my mum's thinking of going to that's right next to their house - a 30 second walk!

missprice

oh who loves kids and the things they do

i left my son at around 9 years ish cos he was just so darn sensible/lazy
if i said dont open the door heres the key if theres a fire get out
he would have done
however my daughter at 12 still could not be left alone as the first time i left her at 11 she opened the door to the postie i could have shot the poor girl. she was so excited because of what she said
'my mum is in the bath and she cant come down'

ahh bless thank goodness they are horrible teens now

so its not an age thing its a child thing

Kay_Peel

Would the child's father be asking whether it was legally/morally right to leave a child if the mother had had to

- collect a prescription
- collect other child(ren) from school and activities
- do some urgent shopping/errands

No, I don't suppose he would. It's the thought of the mother 'enjoying herself' at a Zumba class that's the main grievance.

You and your b/f must accept that a single mother has to get on with running a home and family (and often a job), even when a child is home ill unexpectedly. She knows the child better than you and that's how she arrived at the decision to leave her home alone one afternoon. Whether she went shopping, took the cat to the vets, went for a walk or went skydiving has rock all to do with you. Dad needs to get off his high horse and, if he's got a problem, then discuss it with his ex and offer a solution, rather than taking the coward's way out with an admonishing text.

Marisco

Well I've gone through this thread, in the vain hope that someone would have asked, but it seems you all know!! So, what the hell is a zumba class??????:D

Kay_Peel

Marisco wrote: »

Well I've gone through this thread, in the vain hope that someone would have asked, but it seems you all know!! So, what the hell is a zumba class??????:D

A newish Keep-Fit craze/class

jamespir

we was left at home alone once or twice if we was ill and mum went to shops but to a zumba class is a bit ridiculous