Stay at home mum needs job title!

Morty_007

Bennifred wrote:

Infuriating, isn't it?:mad: I was a SAHM for twenty years until my youngest started at secondary school,

Your youngest was at junior school for 20 years?!? :eek: Hope mine makes better progress than that!

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mh1923

'I'm running my own business out of my home' If they press, you can either say 'market research' (surveys) or mail order retailing (ebay).

Or just reply, in a tone that suggests how ridiculous you think the idea, 'Good heavens, why would I go back to work? I have far too many responsibilities.'

Gingham_Ribbon

On radio 4 the other day, there was something saying that according to Ernst and Young the economy is booming (more than the treasuring is saying) but people still aren't happy. Why? Because people are happier when they spend time doing what they want with the people they want to be with, not when they are spending or earning money.

Who wants to come home after a hard day and spend ages cleaning, cooking, getting chores done? When both of you are working, that's what happens, at the expense of family time. Children sometimes don't get picked up from nursery etc till 6 or later, then it's dinner, bedtime story/bath and bed every night. Then everyone misses out on that sade of things in a trade off for career or paying bills. Obviously sometimes there is no choice and sometims it's what the adults need as they are commited to their careers. And often parents can manage to juggle the childcare and work fewer hours so they have a bit longer with the children.

But in the main, if one stays home and gets the work done, the family time starts when the children are picked up at school and they have several hours together instead of rushed time getting on with everything else.

Staying home isn't for everyone. A lot of people really would get bored and are happy with the trade off of losing evening time getting work done. But why should anyone discredit your choice not to do that?

I tried various 'titles' at first. But if people were going to have a snooty response, they had it no matter what I said. Now I just say that I'm a housewife and I can't help feeling happy when I say it because I AM happy with that. So I smile and am ready for the comments. My son is only just 3 and I've been getting it since he was born (when are you going back to work?) Now I don't give 2 hoots. I LOVE my job. I have done several other jobs including bar work, tills, insurance underwriting and teaching. None have made me feel happy or content like this does.

Stand your ground and be proud. As for single parents. I just don't know how you do it. Whether you have paid work or not.

Ems*Honie

I found the same, lots of the girls I know are childless, or work with kids in full time childcare, they all had their own money and I felt a bit deflated by it. In the end I decided I want to stay at home, but I want to work too, so I researched a few computer and home based jobs, then trained at college for one night a week, whilst hubby put the kids to bed

I now have a pretty good job title, but only work occasionally. Its not for everyone, and I'm lucky to be in a position where I can do it, but it has really increased my confidence

Now I just need to increase my housework skills isn't Sunday meant to be a day of rest? lol

littlechezza

Mamashaz, can I just say good for you, I currently work part time and would love to stay at home but I don't think I could handle other peoples reaction, I think everything has come round full circle, my parents think I should work and I can see why their generation wanted to because their mothers stayed at home, but I am the generation that has seen their mums go to work and I would guess we don't want that for our children, you don't even have to think of a job title, just tell people to keep their noses out and concentrate on their own lives and enjoy spending the time with your children.

lottee

I take my hat off to you all that are SAHM/SAHD's. I couldn't do it! I go out to work part time (20 hours a week), & believe it or not I actually look forward to getting there! When I was pregnant, I said I wasn't going back to work, but TBH, I was ready by the time my maternity leave ended. (OH worked shifts, so we 'swapped' over if that makes sense) I think like other posters have said, if it suits your family & lifestyle, then great - & ignore what everyone else says. I have said this before, even though the bank balance doesn't show it at the end of each month, I believe what I do - working part time & looking after the needs of DS, OH, whilst keeping the house together etc, is worth far more than what my OH earns. And the same goes for you OP & any other SAHM/D's !

dora37

Just remember as well, that the people asking when you are going to get a job, probably couldn't/wouldn't be able to do what you do - so you have your own great skills - just not the same as theirs.

Just remember the look on your children's faces when you turn up for events at school, when you pick them up at home time and they are still full of enthusiasm to tell you about the days events (not 2 hrs later when they are too tired), when there is no panic trying to find childcare if your child has to stay home ill - and that they are looked after by their mum in their own comfy bed. No having to 'farm' them out during the 6 weeks summer holiday because you don't have enough leave. And finally just ask your children, what they would prefer.

I think there should be enough reasons there to be proud of what you do - be happy in your own skin and that you are doing it for the right reasons.

*No offence to any mums who work fulltime - however if people question SAHM they should expect a response*

beverleyhills

:A Homemaker.

quietheart

Gingham_Ribbon wrote:

On radio 4 the other day, there was something saying that according to Ernst and Young the economy is booming (more than the treasuring is saying) but people still aren't happy. Why? Because people are happier when they spend time doing what they want with the people they want to be with, not when they are spending or earning money.

Who wants to come home after a hard day and spend ages cleaning, cooking, getting chores done? When both of you are working, that's what happens, at the expense of family time. Children sometimes don't get picked up from nursery etc till 6 or later, then it's dinner, bedtime story/bath and bed every night. Then everyone misses out on that sade of things in a trade off for career or paying bills. Obviously sometimes there is no choice and sometims it's what the adults need as they are commited to their careers. And often parents can manage to juggle the childcare and work fewer hours so they have a bit longer with the children.

But in the main, if one stays home and gets the work done, the family time starts when the children are picked up at school and they have several hours together instead of rushed time getting on with everything else.

Staying home isn't for everyone. A lot of people really would get bored and are happy with the trade off of losing evening time getting work done. But why should anyone discredit your choice not to do that?

I tried various 'titles' at first. But if people were going to have a snooty response, they had it no matter what I said. Now I just say that I'm a housewife and I can't help feeling happy when I say it because I AM happy with that. So I smile and am ready for the comments. My son is only just 3 and I've been getting it since he was born (when are you going back to work?) Now I don't give 2 hoots. I LOVE my job. I have done several other jobs including bar work, tills, insurance underwriting and teaching. None have made me feel happy or content like this does.

Stand your ground and be proud. As for single parents. I just don't know how you do it. Whether you have paid work or not.

well put, that's the reason I don't want to go back to work in sept when ds starts school. life is currently pretty much stress-free, if i was working it would be very different. you've only got one life so you should do what makes you happy

crutches

at any one time we have up to 8 children from 2-21 in our house.The ones who aren't at home are usually on line emailing essays for help or phoning from the supermarket asking how to cook cheap cuts of meat!
The others need feeding,caring for etc.The youngest (2.5) has just started playgroup and people are asking me what i'll do with my time!!!!

(this is despite the fact i'm on crutches,on 3 voluntary commitees and like to sleep occasionally!;))