Stay at home mum needs job title!

mamashaz

By choice I am a stay at home mum. We have two children aged 6 and 4. We feel so lucky after trying to have our own birth children for 11 years we were lucky enough to be able to adopt two, a boy and girl. When they were not at school it seemed (to the outside world) that it was fine for me to stay at home but since the youngest started school in September I have been constantly asked when I am going to get a job.

I am contributing to the family in a significant way as I do most of the domestic chores during the daytime when OH is at work (OH's health is not great at the moment so I am supporting him too). I also sell our unwanted stuff on eBay and do surveys etc. to make a bit of extra money.l am also a voluntary treasurer for two charities which takes up a lot of time.

It is really starting to affect me and I feel a bit depressed about it tbh. It suits our family situation at the moment but I keep thinking I must be wrong.

Can anyone give any advice on this - maybe think of things I can say to boost my self esteem when I am asked?

Thanks,
Mamashaz

susieb

They are just jealous!!! Stay at home and enjoy it, you are there for the school run, there when they are ill, there after school, you have a job title!!! MUM

Threadhead

Its nothing to do with anyone else. You are contributing to society by raising your kids. Well done!

pollys

Hi

I am in exactly the same situation, my youngest (of 4) started school in September too. I actually thought I would have some "me time" not a chance! I am as busy as ever. Don't worry about people who ask what you are going to do, the same happens to me, I'm doing what I've done for the last 15 years and thats to be a mum, it doesn't stop once they start school.

Lady_E

Domestic Engineer.....Social Secretary....Fountain of Knowledge

Dont you dare feel guilty for staying at home and doing what is a really important job. You are a part of society as much as any high flyer with ££££ at the end of the month.

Good luck to you and your family and ignore any little comments that come your way , people are just jealous .

Gabriel-Ernest

President & Executive Director of Domestic Planning and Services.

daphne_descends

Of course you're not wrong - I think it's very rude of people to constantly ask you that, firstly it's none of their business and secondly it implies that just because the children are in school you have nothing to do all day!

If it's working well for you and your family then do not question yourself and just enjoy it - it certainly doesn't sound like you have a lack of things to do

I remember once when I was about 7 or 8 complaining to my mum that I was tired after a day at school and she said she was too - I replied 'why are you tired you've just been sat at home all day'!!!! she was not happy Never said it again mind!

pavlovs_dog

i was going to suggest home executive, but i like gabriel's suggest better

Mumstheword

I'm a Research Associate in the field of Child Development and Human Relations.




I have a continuing program of research, in the laboratory and in the field and am also responsible for personnel management, purchasing and transport. I'm working for my Masters, and already have three credits, (all sons). Of course, the job is one of the most demanding in the humanities, and I often work 14 hours a day. But the job is more challenging than most run-of-the-mill careers and the rewards are more of a satisfaction rather than just money.
I have three lab assistants - ages 10, 6 and 4. The 4 year old is the most recent, experimental model in the child-development program, testing out new vocal patterns.
Motherhood...What a glorious career

seven-day-weekend

You are doing the best and most important of all possible jobs - caring for and bringing up the next generation. Hold your head up high and don't you DARE feel guilty. It is no-one else's business and you don't have to justify to anyone what you do in the daytime.

I was a SAHM for five years and then went to college p/t and then was a lollipop lady for years so I could be there for my son. I didn't go back to work full-time until he was nearly 16. This is how me and my husband wanted it. No-one else's business.

How about Family, Home and Garden Domestic Operative?

Slapps

lets here it for all us SAHM/SAHD who are on call 24/7 with no holiday/sick days allowed and those that are single parents on beneifts getting under the min hourly rate the gov set. it is the hardest job and most rewarding so never feel guilty cos without us mum's and dad's where would the world be. personally i'm gonna stay @ home 2 raise my children as no1 else bar me knows how i want them raised, not saying that working mum's are not good @ bringing up their children it's just this is how i WANT 2 bring up mine!