XH(KH) gone a step too far now.. (UPDATED again)

halibut2209

lost interest after "moron's house"

adamantine

i wouldnt be allowing him to go back in all honesty. DS doesnt want to go and he is old enough to decide so id give him the choice.

kazwookie

Pigpen

Blimey you have enough on your plate atm

!!!!!! that KH is a total idiot IMO, he needs a good xxxx up the xxxx, either from the nurse / solicitor etc

But thanks godness your son is ok.

I would also be questioning the 'not allowed' bit as well.............

Beetlemama

halibut2209 wrote: »

lost interest after "moron's house"

Maybe though if you'd read it you would see why she's so angry


Anyway PP, he's a SH and that first word isn't shoot. I'd be so mad....omg I read some of it out to DH and he's so angry with him he'd like to come over there himself and sort it out, he said do you have a brother? lol.

Keep the kids safe and carry on doing what you're doing (except the raging angry part, that's not so good for your blood) I'd stop them going if he is putting them at risk, and if they don't want to go, well, then maybe he can come take them out to dinner on a saturday night instead of actually having to be responsible for them for any period of time (or not responsible, as the case may be...).

xx

pigpen

Pollycat wrote: »

I can see why you're so angry and I'm pleased that your son's OK.

It was this bit of your first post that caught my eye:

"not been allowed"?
This sounds like it wasn't an omission i.e. it was forgotten but something much more serious and deliberate by not allowing your lad to have the snacks he medically needs.

Are you absolutely sure that that is what happened?

I asked what he meant by not allowed and DS said he asked his dad what he should have for a snack and his dad said nothing he could wait until dinner time..

I have spoke to the nurse this morning.. it is pointless me ringing him because he will ignore the phone which is usual.. or if he does answer it will devolve into a slanging match (him not me, I just hang up when he starts) and that is not productive. I asked the nurse if she woud be kind enough to ring and see how he got on with the weekend as it was the first he has stayed there since Dx and how he got on etc and offer some more support/advice. Hopefully he will accept it and DS will be fine.. She was pretty horrified when I said he had a reading of 29.5 after bread and jam for breakfast!!!!

The problem with the older ones not going being he gives them grief about it the next time they do go which is really unfair. They hate going but feel they have to go and go just to keep the peace, he isnt known for him calm nature. They book sleepovers with friends just to get out of going... very sad for him not having the relationship a dad should have with his children.

Pollycat

pigpen wrote: »

I asked what he meant by not allowed and DS said he asked his dad what he should have for a snack and his dad said nothing he could wait until dinner time..

That is just so not acceptable.

I think you mentioned that he's not unaware of the problems associated with diabetes.

Why would he do such a thing?

Did your son go with specific instructions about his snacks and blood tests?
(Sorry, I'm not familiar with Asperger's and don't know how old your son is and if he is able to explain things.)

pigpen wrote: »

I have spoke to the nurse this morning.. it is pointless me ringing him because he will ignore the phone which is usual.. or if he does answer it will devolve into a slanging match (him not me, I just hang up when he starts) and that is not productive. I asked the nurse if she woud be kind enough to ring and see how he got on with the weekend as it was the first he has stayed there since Dx and how he got on etc and offer some more support/advice. Hopefully he will accept it and DS will be fine.. She was pretty horrified when I said he had a reading of 29.5 after bread and jam for breakfast!!!!

The problem with the older ones not going being he gives them grief about it the next time they do go which is really unfair. They hate going but feel they have to go and go just to keep the peace, he isnt known for him calm nature. They book sleepovers with friends just to get out of going... very sad for him not having the relationship a dad should have with his children.

I hope the nurse will have more success with educating him.

It's clear that there is a degree of animosity between you both but I'd not be happy sending my son to someone who clearly doesn't have a clue about his welfare and health - I think you're right not to let him go.

gratefulforhelp_2

Kay_Peel wrote: »

By failing to ensure that your child has the prescribed medical treatment and care, he put the child at risk of 'significant harm' through neglect.

Does he fully understand what is expected of him as a parent or has he recklessly disregarded the care instructions? It's the sort of question that a Child protection team and a court would ask of him.

You have my sympathy piggers.

You and OH have two little girls now? Congrats :j:j:j

It is clearly unsafe for DS to be at KH's until he has received thorough training in managing DS's condition and proved that he has absorbed it.

I think if I was your solicitor, I would be writing words to that effect.

System

I note that you don't appear to have tried to get the other side of the story and are believing 100% what the 12 y/o is saying.

Might it not be a good idea to actually TALK to him instead of vilifying him on the say so of a child?

pigpen

He was present both times I saw the nurse so was told exactly the same as I was so I know he has all the info. I sent ds with the info folder so if he was unsure he had a point of reference and as the contact numbers for everyone dealing with DS at the hospital.

The only animosity from me is the way he treats the children and he frequency he decides everything else is more important than seeing them.. He is just a bully and thinks screaming, yelling and threatening get you what you want.. I would love a nice grown up civil relationship where the children were number 1 in both our priorities.. sadly that wont happen for the foreseeable future.

Hopefully he will accept further advice and all will be well

willow_loulou

Re the medi bracelets I cant always wear jewellery so I have a card in my purse with my details and contact number on, maybe DS could carry something similar in his blazer/schoo jacket or stuck on his phone maybe if he is not keen to wear the medi things.