what are the best value dating sites?

Souk08

I love this thread! Been reading but not posting as away with work at the mo and moving to a new city tomorrow! Will definitely be using POF to meet men there.
Like Runningwoman I don't want to do the settled bit but a bit of great chat and Fab s*x is not to be sneezed at. The secret is not to take it too seriously and have fun. Enjoy all x

Li0nhead

People to filter out:

People who after meeting once say i love you/lets marry/i want a baby/heres my cats/I have a cellar you know/Knives are my hobby/I feel unloved/I take Mondays off to go to the Witherspoons or 'Shut up will you! No not you. Them! I can hear them all'.

Is there anyone vaguely normal out there in the land of the internet?

mill1exx

Li0nhead wrote: »

Is there anyone vaguely normal out there in the land of the internet?

I am beginning to think the same. But then again I am guessing that I may be abnormal in the eyes of other people. Especially the ones that complain on their profile about exes, what they don't like ... and the 'normal' sentence of ..'if you are x,y or z then don't message me as i will not answer' ..... all a bit arrogant in my opinion.

M x

sapphireeye

I don't seem to be having much luck so far! I sent some guys some messages on Wed and every single one replied which was good and not just a rubbish reply and I sent proper replies back but since then I've only had another message back from one. I'm not the impatient type though so I'll just see what happens! In other news I've just had a message, 'Hi Kelly, how are you'..... My name's not Kelly!!! Woops!

There_Goes_Trouble

Has anyone got dates/meet ups tonight? I'm losing track of all the activity going on here....

Sapphireeye give it time, sometimes you get lucky quickly, other times you have to keep trying.

JennyP

No dates for me this weekend! Everyone seems to be busy. I'm making a curry and planning to watch Wallander! How pathetic is that!

My next date is Monday.

My friend's boyfriend told me last night that he did internet dating before he met her. He said 99% of people were either socially inept, not really available or playing the field and only 1% were looking for a genuine partner. He said I should bear that in mind when going on dates and then I won't get hurt so much and I won't take the rejection so personally!

krlyr

JennyP wrote: »

My friend's boyfriend told me last night that he did internet dating before he met her. He said 99% of people were either socially inept, not really available or playing the field and only 1% were looking for a genuine partner. He said I should bear that in mind when going on dates and then I won't get hurt so much and I won't take the rejection so personally!

I think that personally I've been chatted up by more socially inept/not-really-available or playing-the-field blokes I've met in person than when I did online dating! OK, the latter produced a few useless blokes but you soon learn what to watch out for and once you've made the odd mistake or two, you get more strict about it and stop wasting your time with the flattering, but not going anywhere, chat up lines.
I met OH online and we just hit off from the start, we exchanged a few messages then talked on MSN and the first thing he asked was about my dog (my MSN picture had one of them in it). Was a refreshing change to what knickers I was wearing :rotfl: and I had a good feeling about it as he took a genuine interest. Didn't take long before we were chatting daily, then met up, and we've been inseperable since really - he moved in 4 months after we met and now we're buying a house together!
I'd likely never have met him in person, we weren't hours away but neither of us would have really hung around in the same town or bumped into each other.
I think what really helped is that both of us were on there to see what happened but not too fussed if nothing came of it. I'd been on there before and been..well, not desperate, but lacking in much self-esteem (having not long moved out of the family home and been feeling very homesick/lonely didn't help either) and I realise now that I relied too much on the boost it was giving me to be chatted up, and my "idiot-radar" wasn't working very well because of it! I think that to be happy in a relationship you have to be happy out of one too, because if you're relying on a boyfriend or girlfriend to make you feel better about yourself then they will also have the power to make you feel terrible, and most of us would do anythng not to feel that way and that's when you start ignoring your gut feelings or compromising your views to keep a relationship going. Once I'd thrown myself into my own interests (joined the gym, got a dog, etc) I learnt to love myself and decided I deserved more than the idiots looking for a notch on their bedposts!

System

This has reminded me to check my okcupid profile, wonder if i have any messages?

hippychick1

Well I seem to be doing ok.....

I met a guy in the summer, and we still see each other most weekends, though it's not serious. Spent Friday evening having dinner at his. This week I have a date on Friday that I'm not really too fussed about, but he seems quite keen, just see how that one goes. Going to a pub for a few drinks.

I also have a date Wednesday night, with a guy who seems lovely, I'm very excited about this one but you never really know till you meet them in person do you?

There are most definitely some strange people on dating sites. I seem to have developed some sort of radar for them now, and manage to avoid engaging in conversation!!

Hope you're all out on fantastic dates tonight!!

There_Goes_Trouble

hippychick1 wrote: »

Hope you're all out on fantastic dates tonight!!

I should be so lucky....

Nope, just me and the dog tonight.

Good luck with your dates!