what are the best value dating sites?

Ladyhawk

Hey Becky - I think that there are far too many "ghost" profiles on match... I used it about 5 years ago and was going on dates every week and now... not so much as one date!

southcoastrgi

Ladyhawk wrote: »

Hey Becky - I think that there are far too many "ghost" profiles on match... I used it about 5 years ago and was going on dates every week and now... not so much as one date!

here you go as you are abit of a serial dater

JustKeepSwimming_2

Thought I'd drop in & say hi (as I've nowt else to do on a Friday night) & share my latest dating disaster with you all...

I gave up on internet dating some time ago, & oddly Mr Right has failed to show up now that I've stopped looking :rotfl: I decided I couldn't go through all the "excitement" of signing up again so when a friend said that a work colleage had expressed an interest in me she thought she'd help me out & arrange a date - nothing fancy, just a beer in a local pub with a few other work colleagues.

Sounded fine I thought, & got ready for what I hoped would be a fun evening - even put some make up & heels on which is pretty rare for me. Friend & I arrive & there are already many more bods from work than either of us were expecting, but then we work in a large school & word of nights out spread quickly.

Said man arrives with his friend (neither of whom I've ever spoken to), having already had a few at another pub. My friend & I are sat at a table with 2 spare chairs (she's good, my friend, I'll give her that ) & she gestures for them to join us, which they do. I'm nervous, but give them what I hope is a winning smile & say it's good to see them. Said man then looks shocked/amazed & turning to my friend says clearly (he is a teacher after all & we all know how to project) "Oh I didn't mean that X, I meant X from accounts, the pretty one ". They then left (thankfully).

As timing has never been on my side when it comes to dating, he managed to say it during a lull in the conversation at the adjoining table of work bods, so they all heard. If they hadn't known about my "date" before that point they all had by the end of the evening...

I thought my confidence couldn't get much lower after the fun of internet dating but I was quite wrong....

Ladyhawk wrote: »

I know... it's frustrating isn't it. And if one more person says "you'll meet him as soon as you stop looking" I will scream!

I even found myself checking out the ladies on PoF!Figuring that maybe I'll have better luck with them! Then I remembered that I'm not lesbian.

Sometimes I think it would be so much easier if I was :rotfl:

fordcortina wrote: »

... because I know as a "fellow sufferer" that you'll have to find your own way through the pain...

Fellow sufferer - I like that :T

On sending the thanks-but-no-thanks replies - I'd prefer to receive one myself (I have a fine collection) & always did try & send a polite message back to any men I wasn't interested in - but then I got a few very nasty replies back from men I'd replied to. One was vile & threatening, others were just plain rude so I wouldn't risk a thanks-but-no-thanks message again (even if it is bad manners).

Good luck everyone.

Nurseyjo_2

Hi
Have been reading back a few pages and note that there is a lot of info re PoF and Match. Has anyone had any experience of Uniform Dating? I was wondering if that would have any better or is it just another foil for scammers?!!!

Have always been put off dating sites because of men who portray themselves as someone they are not.

Thanks for any advice

FBaby

Oh my God JKW, however funny it was to read the account of your date, what a horrible experience. Just reading it made me want to smack the idiot (and I'm not a violent person ). How can believe anyone with a minimum of education could be so rude and show so little empathy as to say such a thing. Just curious, how did the friend react? Did HE at least had the decency to be embarrassed for his friend's appalling behaviour? I bet your friend won't be doing much many more match making from now on! I hope she gave you a big hug at least!

Good luck to you too. I met my husband to be (yes, can't believe we are actually about to get married) on datingdirect, 4 years and 3 months ago. I had my share of tales to tell too, but one day, I got lucky. It feels very odd now that we met that way, but we did and it was love at first sight.

FBaby

Nurseyjo wrote: »

Have always been put off dating sites because of men who portray themselves as someone they are not.

Yep, my man did that, but it was a blessing, his picture was dreadful, really put me off but we hit it off so well I wanted to meet him assuming that we could become friends. I hadn't expected him to look so handsome in the flesh. He did pick an exceptionally bad picture, but to be fair, he really isn't photogenic! Some people just aren't!

Nurseyjo_2

Oh bless. How funny. That's where it is true that getting to know a person rather than judging on looks only is important. :-)

PositiveAttitude

Found this forum by accident and I have found it very informative regarding Internet dating. I would like to thank everyone who has posted in this forum. I have really enjoyed reading all the posts and I now have a much better understanding of what to expect and how to get the most out of using this medium to find that special person.

I have enjoyed having the opportunity to share all your experiences, the good and the bad and I would like to wish everyone lots of luck in their search.

This forum has encouraged me to start again the search for that special person and to show that there are still gentlemen in this world that know how to behave and have manners. I will probably use POF to start with and perhaps later use Match.

I would like to post how I get on with Internet dating on this forum and perhaps ask you experts for some advice when I need it.

Once again many thanks.

jordygal

can the more "experienced" internet daters tell me, if you find someone who you find really attractive through their messages and photo and really click with when messaging each other, is a date almost guaranteed to go well? I'm terrified meeting said person will be a big let down

ali-t

jordygal wrote: »

can the more "experienced" internet daters tell me, if you find someone who you find really attractive through their messages and photo and really click with when messaging each other, is a date almost guaranteed to go well? I'm terrified meeting said person will be a big let down

Absolutely not! Some of the ones I have been least sure of are the ones I clicked most with and the ones that I thought were amazing via email turned out to be numpties!