what are the best value dating sites?

LilChel

smudger1964 wrote: »

Sometimes the more contact you have the more messages back and forth for days or even weeks as some ladies insist,once you actually get them out on a date you both run out of things to say as you have pretty much said it all...
In my experience if you think there may be a spark dont mess about go out for a drink or a coffee and dont waste time messaging and texting..
You build up a picture in your mind of them and this often can be a letdown because they arent as you thought they would be..

Just my take on my experiences on pof..

Totally agree with Smudger1964 it is a let down when you can chat for a while but when the reality happens its all so very different.

From my own experiences, some good and some not so good, it was best to just meet up in real life, just for coffee...its not like you might end up spending the rest of your life with them (but maybe a little hoping so), then you can see if there is a spark with the real person and not the cyber one:)

One thing I learnt about internet dating is you definitely need to have a thick skin, way too many players around and the box ticked that says relationship means so very different ...... from my own experience it means fling, just wanting to see if they have still got it.....well if they have it sounds contagious and I don't want it lol:)

smudger1964

LilChel wrote: »

Totally agree with Smudger1964 it is a let down when you can chat for a while but when the reality happens its all so very different.

From my own experiences, some good and some not so good, it was best to just meet up in real life, just for coffee...its not like you might end up spending the rest of your life with them (but maybe a little hoping so), then you can see if there is a spark with the real person and not the cyber one:)

One thing I learnt about internet dating is you definitely need to have a thick skin, way too many players around and the box ticked that says relationship means so very different ...... from my own experience it means fling, just wanting to see if they have still got it.....well if they have it sounds contagious and I don't want it lol:)

Oh yes a very thick skin and the ability to put up with so many timewasters who cancel the date on the day sometimes because "they arent ready to meet anyone" then 10 minutes later you see them online again wasting someone elses time
Some people are serial daters who I think like the excitement of going on dates and are quite happy to sit on pof for years looking for "mr right" ..some of us just want to get the hell off there

marvin

I used many of the free ones (OK Cupid is part of the same company that owns Match BTW) never used a paid one for responses, registered for free with a few.

I eventually met a very nice lady who just happened to be from Russia and we were married earlier this year. (http://www.ourweddingphotoalbum.co.uk)

On the way I had dates and relationships with some very nice and some very weird ladies and had some very enjoyable chats with many from all over the world. I developed a rosta of FB's (no it does not refer to facebook) until I decided to leave that life behind and be a married man. yes I did leave it behind before forming the new relationship in any serious way and yes my new wife does know about it.

All in all do not go into it looking for anything serious if it is destined to be it will be.

Me and new wife have had to overcome a lot of obstacles to be married and I know it was worth it but it all started out as fun chat.

System

marvin wrote: »

I used many of the free ones (OK Cupid is part of the same company that owns Match BTW) never used a paid one for responses, registered for free with a few.

I eventually met a very nice lady who just happened to be from Russia and we were married earlier this year. (http://www.ourweddingphotoalbum.co.uk)

On the way I had dates and relationships with some very nice and some very weird ladies and had some very enjoyable chats with many from all over the world. I developed a rosta of FB's (no it does not refer to facebook) until I decided to leave that life behind and be a married man. yes I did leave it behind before forming the new relationship in any serious way and yes my new wife does know about it.

All in all do not go into it looking for anything serious if it is destined to be it will be.

Me and new wife have had to overcome a lot of obstacles to be married and I know it was worth it but it all started out as fun chat.

Congratulations to you and your wife :beer:

LilChel

smudger1964 wrote: »

Oh yes a very thick skin and the ability to put up with so many timewasters who cancel the date on the day sometimes because "they arent ready to meet anyone" then 10 minutes later you see them online again wasting someone elses time
Some people are serial daters who I think like the excitement of going on dates and are quite happy to sit on pof for years looking for "mr right" ..some of us just want to get the hell off there

I saw the light and got off those sites, and I'm actually a better person lol. Don't get me wrong it was nice to get the messages, but loads were like neon signs. All dates that I met have definitely made an impact on my life thats for sure, for good and opening my eyes up.

Think I'll take my chances in the real world and maybe check out a supermarket or something lol. I did return to a dating site recently, that I lasted 10 days, just wasn't for me, far too many people that are just wanting everything else than the box ticked "relationship"

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I prefer meeting someone ''naturally'' as well and found dating sites a waste of time and rather frustrating as things are never as they seem and it is hard to find someone ''normal'' on there

So me too , not in any hurry , if I happen to meet a normal , decent , nice guy out in the real world while simply getting on with my life then so be it and if not so be it too

maintenanceman

cazzza I really hope you the best and hope you meet the right guy for you.

samuelthomson240

em the dating game is a gamble dont want to be single all my life dazhe zenshini iz russia ya schitaio dolzhen budet prekrasno

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I gave up the dating sites too. From my experience i was looking for a relationship which i stated right from the start, all the men that contacted me said they were to, then after messaging said they wanted nothing heavy Friends With Benefits etc etc. Lots of timewasters who would say yes theyd like to meet me, then i wouldnt hear anything from them, then the ones i did meet werent for me at all and then there were younger men just splitting from their partners wanting fun, young men wanting older women, older men wanted younger women, liars, pictures of the men that were years out of date and married men (at least they were honest). I become very disolusioned, i think i was the only normal, stable, without baggage and in a good place in my life to date. The ones that i contacted and that contacted me were far from that stage in their lives. Ive met someone off line now.

samuelthomson240

I'm genuine best of luck too all the good people on the thread being love is great feeling