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southcoastrgi

Now I'm wondering which beautiful lady likes gigs & her camper van ?

decogecko

Hi all

Just joined POF - not really done internet dating before and have a question.

If someone sends you a message and they're not suitable - live too far away or (sorry to sound brutal) you just don't fancy them - is it better to ignore the message or reply basically saying 'thanks but no thanks'

I appreciate someone has taken the time to send me a message (in the main, some messages have barely been coherent).

TIA

Ladyhawk

Som people say thanks but no thanks and some people don't. I actually don't like receiving those email - i'd prefer people to ignore me.

I also always thought that I might get abusive emails back asking why

SailorSam

After sitting down and writing i'd prefer a thanks-but-no thanks to being ignored. I think it's only good manners.

smudger1964

SailorSam wrote: »

After sitting down and writing i'd prefer a thanks-but-no thanks to being ignored. I think it's only good manners.

I used to do the thanks but no thank you good luck in your search replies until i got a really nasty reply to that along the lines of "how dare you dismiss me without getting to know me "email so now find the easiest way is to just not reply

SailorSam

I had yesterday what i thought was the best opening line of a first email yet .....
" You sound so lovely, shall we just get married and have done with it" !!!

MayBee

Hi all, do you mind if I join you? I'm thinking of signing up to POF, however I'm not sure quite what I want from it.
My marriage ended last year and I'm a bit fed up of being stuck in and not meeting anyone but I'm not sure if I would actually be brave enough to go out with anyone.
I'm also not very sure what to put, I'm still feeling a bit bruised and it's hard to sell yourself and sound upbeat, plus if I put I want some fun I don't want a load of bedroom offers.
If I created a profile whilst not being 100% about what I want do you think it would be unfair having banter or exchanging messages?

SailorSam

It depends what you want MayBee, if you think you'd like to meet someone where a relationship may grow i can't see the point of not being honest, and yet people do it even in 'real life'. Read other peoples profiles but just put you're not ready for anything heavy just looking for mates and you're not into one-night-stands

Ladyhawk

Hi Maybee,

I think it is really unfair to post a profile if you have no intention of ever meeting up with any of the people you chat with... Unless you make it really clear that you are just looking for friendship.

Instead of PoF would it not be better to try something like IVC, Spice or Meet Up which are more meeting new people to do fun stuff with (like walks, going to musuems etc).

southcoastrgi

Hi Maybee, welcome to the forum,

You can put on there that you are just looking for friends although be warned there are some wierdo's on there, if you put abit about yourself & what you are looking for you should be ok & you don't have to reply if you look at their profile & it's not what you are looking for, I guess just coming out of a marriage you aren't really looking to date but you never know just chatting or arranging to meet for a coffee & you may find the "one".

Best of luck & I hope it works out for you.