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VestanPance

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Cheers for looking all, if you have any advice on improvments please let me know cause I seem to have very few dates from there.

Hope everyone is doing well today.

Drop the negative stuff on your profile. It makes you sound like you lack confidence and most women will not find that an attractive trait. Men and women find confidence attractive.

You don't look like Brad Pitt, big deal neither will anyone else on the site. Stating that just makes you sound insecure about your looks. I'm funny but I'm not, also screams of lacking self belief.

Personally I'd suggest dropping food as an interest. If you have a passion for cooking reference that. If you enjoy eating out talk about that, or what types of cusines you enjoy. Give a bit of information on something you are passionate about. If you have a passion for something/anything it gives people a motive to discuss it with you, even if they don't share that particular interest.

Scotty1.7

cheers for the advice

Ladyhawk

Argh - what have I done?? I've just signed up for POF... I know, I know... but maybe this time it will work?

Scotty1.7

Good luck LadyHawk

There_Goes_Trouble

Scott the advice from VestanPance is similar to that which I got off the POF forum - remove the negativity. And I do think my profile reads much better now. It is a sales pitch to be blunt, if you look at any other form of advertising it's all positive stuff. And self confidence is an attractive feature so you need to be positive in order to convey self confidence.

There_Goes_Trouble

Good luck Ladyhawk, keep us updated with your progress!

*max*

With all due respect, the chap wasn't asking for a lesson on physical attraction, he only wanted a few pointers on his internet profile. We're all aware of what makes people "conventionally attractive" I think. Besides, I'm sure your style makeover wouldn't have worked quite so well if you looked like the back end of a bus to begin with, so it's rather easy to say "change the way you look" - some of us don't have an already lovely canvas to work on. I agree the way you present yourself is important - but it's much easier to put on a pair of spanx and a pretty dress than to completely alter your body shape.

I've pretty much always been overweight - that doesn't mean my boyfriends weren't "proud" of having me on their arm. And yes, btw, I did find your post quite insulting - even though I can see it was well-meaning. Maybe I'm just being super touchy though.

There_Goes_Trouble

I think runningwomans post is well meaning, but criticising someone's appearance/weight is always a touchy subject and often not well received.

Personally, I have several friends of larger build. I on the other hand am the perfect weight for my height and bmi, yet my friends are the ones who are happily married with families while I 'resort' to internet dating.

I personally think that the dating game is about meeting the right person at the right time regardless of anything else. Yes, of course changing your appearance might make a person more attractive to a wider range of people, but that doesn't automatically make those people 'right'.

VestanPance

In weight terms I'm one of lifes lucky gits. Naturally slim/athletic build, despite being able to eat you out of house and home.

As for Scott if he wants to lose weight then he should do so because he wants too, not just to attract someone. I also think attraction is a hard thing to measure and say any one aspect is going to be the clincher. I know lads that fall for any girl with large breasts no matter what dress size she is, lads that fall for girls as they have a certain colour of hair and even a bizarre case of one lad attracted to girls on a type of nose!

If Scott wanted to lose weight you're talking changing lifestyle, as diets fail the second you come off them. That would mean more exercise and or a change of diet. You also need to be careful not to become obsessed with it, as I've noticed an ever growing number of young lads with the "perfect" body that can't get dates as all they have to talk about is weight lifting and protein diets.

mackemdave

Why dont people enter into the internet dating areana with no preconceived objectives....Use it as a way of having fun,meeting possibly new friends and maybe more.To me each date is 2 hrs out of your life...sometimes nothing might come of it but what would you have been doing otherwise....sitting at home on your own watching TV????/.....

Be yourself,be relaxed,have a laugh and enjoy it....

Ive met a number of good friends while doing this ....and the nice people certainly outweigh the not so nice many times over.

Chill out and enjoy