what are the best value dating sites?

SailorSam

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

Sort of agree threre hippychick

I'm on POF, Oasis and OKCupid and there not doing well

There are a lot on PoF from the Manchester area, i have on my profile i wish to meet people within 10mls, but the Manchester ones still pop up.
I don't know how they measure that.

Scotty1.7

there maybe loads, but try getting them to talk or reply decently

hippychick1

Scotty1.7 wrote: »

there maybe loads, but try getting them to talk or reply decently

I find this. There are so many men on POF, but there's only so many times someone can message "hi how r u hun?" before I want to scream. Why can no one string a sentence together anymore? Am I asking for too much?

Scotty1.7

hippychick1 wrote: »

I find this. There are so many men on POF, but there's only so many times someone can message "hi how r u hun?" before I want to scream. Why can no one string a sentence together anymore? Am I asking for too much?

no not at all- just so annoying, cause I actually want to get to know someone when I message them

mackemdave

hippychick1 wrote: »

I find this. There are so many men on POF, but there's only so many times someone can message "hi how r u hun?" before I want to scream. Why can no one string a sentence together anymore? Am I asking for too much?

Its difficult to start the email process on POF because there are so many people that dont reply...So it can be a waste of time composing long initial emails if for 90% of the time they are going to be ignored...Some women are frightened off if you compose longish initial emails so most men resort to the single line email.....But its a start isnt it?????

There_Goes_Trouble

Originally Posted by hippychick1
I find this. There are so many men on POF, but there's only so many times someone can message "hi how r u hun?" before I want to scream. Why can no one string a sentence together anymore? Am I asking for too much?

mackemdave wrote: »

Its difficult to start the email process on POF because there are so many people that dont reply...So it can be a waste of time composing long initial emails if for 90% of the time they are going to be ignored...Some women are frightened off if you compose longish initial emails so most men resort to the single line email.....But its a start isnt it?????

Now that's interesting, because I'm with Hippychick on this one. If I get a one line message (usually text-speak which I hate, or poor spelling/grammar which annoys me) I generally don't reply because I feel that if a guy can't be bothered to send me a proper message, why should I bother to reply? I know he's sent that same message to loads of women in the hope a few reply, but he probably hasn't even looked at my profile. It doesn't make me feel special knowing I'm one of maybe 20 or 30 people to have received that message. I'm not expecting a long message, but about a paragraph, and maybe picking something out of my profile to comment on. It just gives the impression of having put a little effort into it.

That's what I do anyway if I send a first message. I find something in their profile we have in common and I comment on it, then I find something we don't have in common and I might ask a question about it. But, I would never send loads of messages in one go. I only ever send one at a time, and only to someone who looks like a good match for me on paper. Not just someone I like the look of but who I have things in common with too.

Hadn't thought about it from the other perspective though.

There_Goes_Trouble

SailorSam wrote: »

There are a lot on PoF from the Manchester area, i have on my profile i wish to meet people within 10mls, but the Manchester ones still pop up.
I don't know how they measure that.

I know. I just looked in 'my matches' and clicked on a guy. He lives in a town 2 1/2 hours drive from me.... I'm sure that doesn't fit into the 25 mile radius I stipulated!!

newcook

hippychick1 wrote: »

People seem to be making progress on this thread :j

Which dating sites are you using guys? I'm currently on POF and OKCupid. Had some luck on OKCupid and am seeing a guy from there, but it's nothing serious, so back to looking. I think POF is a waste of time.

Ok , Im going to be completely honest and admit I am on several sites (girls gotta keep her options open!) Im on:
POF
Smooch
Okcupid
Oasis (where I have met the guy I have a date with)
Freedating.com
Evow

I used to be on girls date for free but despite turning off all the auto message things and the ‘chat’ people would still message me saying I had sent a message and they would still pop up on chat saying I had initiated a conversation. From what I can see from google, it’s a common complaint with this site to try and keep guys interested and paying membership fees.

I also hate the 1 line messages (and being called hun by a total stranger). My profile has lots of things to make conversation about such as films, music etc but no, they ask ‘hows u hun’ – normally I reply to all messages even if it’s a thanks but no thanks but 1 liners don’t even get that!

coin_operated_girl

Ok, I have a question for you fellow online daters. I've been talking to a couple of people on POF who seem nice enough, not sure if anything will come of it but you never know. Anyway I have an illness which I would say majorily affects my life. Whilst I don't need a carer or anything I haven't been able to work for the past 3 years because of it. My condition is improving a bit and I'm actually waiting to start a job, but it is highly unlikely that I'll ever be able to work full time. When does everyone think I should mention about this? I sort of feel like I'm stringing the guys along a bit because I'm probably always going to be financially dependant on a partner and the type of guy I am looking for is someone who wants to settle down, get a mortgage, have kids etc which will probably be a bit of a struggle as it's unlikely I'm ever going to earn much.

On the other hand, I don't really want to mention about the illness on my profile because I think no one who has actually read my profile would message me. Also, I don't actually have the one characteristic symptom which everybody associates with my condition- but I don't want to write in great lengths about how my condition affects me on my profile either. I think also because of my age (early-mid 20's) that will put guys of a similar age off, because who wants to be stuck with someone with health problems in their early-mid 20's if they can just move onto the next profile?

Maybe I am being cynical. I've had two partners since getting ill and it hasn't put either of them off, but I knew both of them in the real world first, so its not the same thing. One of the people I have been messaging is in a wheelchair. That doesn't bother me at all- he told me straight away and I admired his honesty and now I feel like I am sort of lying to him. So when would be the best time to mention about my illness? Should I put it on my profile, or mention it after a couple of messages or wait until I have met the person face-to-face (if I ever do)?

Opinions welcome

SailorSam

Coin Girl, i'd mention it as soon as they asked. After one or two messages you'll no doubt get asked 'what do you do'. Without going into all in the outs just say you're not working at the moment 'cos you're poorly sick, but have got one or two irons in the fire and hope to start work again soon, at least part time.
Don't make an issue out of it and if you go on to meet you can explain more when you have more time.