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Devils_Custard

LTL wrote: »

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The second message I sent was "Do you have a tree outside your bedroom window that I can sit in. I like to lick stamps." That didn't fly either.

LTL - that is a wonderful line. Fools! What were they thinking about, not replying to that? You've made my night (insert your own, slightly mucky, joke here).

lara_412

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Hellllllllllllllllllooooooooooooooo children, my friends date went very well yesterday, and they spent 6 hours together, they had no quiet moments in that time, and he did and said all the right things, until he dropped the bombshell that his ex is staying with him, she has the front room to use as her bedroom, etc, he did have a relationship with some one else which ended about 1 1/2 years ago and his ex ended up homeless,and coming back there, they split up about 8 years ago he has waited for her to sort herself out and leave,but she is still there, so he has got fed up with waiting to start dating again and that's how he has ended up on a site, me and my DH have said that she should give him the benefit of the doubt, let it ride for about a month, and see what transpires, but I can feel espionage coming on hehehe!! Reckon I might end up tailing him and hiding in my car etc........I have a gut feeling that he is genuine, but then I have been wrong about people, what do you lot reckon....seeing as you are probably a bit wiser than me, my brain is addled from too many of these blinkin sites Lol!!

Hi, I can't remember if you've posted earlier in this thread about this situation, but I don't think I could date a man who was still living with his ex. Obviously I don't know the fulls fact so I can't judge, but I would feel uncomfortable knowing they were living together.

lara_412

Hi girls and guys! I wanted to say thanks for any advice regarding a situation I posted about earlier this month. Fab advice and much appreciated!

I am enjoying this thread too. I think it's good to have a laugh about online dating.. you either laugh or cry they say!

I am in a bit of a pickle at the moment actually. I met a man via POF and at first he seemed lovely and really friendly. He still is, but I just don't feel a connection to him (and we haven't even met yet). We have chatted lots and at first I thought I was interested, and I guess I still am a little. It's just that we're completely different and he is 10 years older than me!

I really don't know how to tell him. He told me last night he was emotionally attached to me (yikes!) and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He does go on about a girl he dated who hurt him badly, so I don't want to hurt him even more.

I don't know whether to do it via email or text message. Eek.

Mrs_Huggett

lara_412 wrote: »

Hi, I can't remember if you've posted earlier in this thread about this situation, but I don't think I could date a man who was still living with his ex. Obviously I don't know the fulls fact so I can't judge, but I would feel uncomfortable knowing they were living together.

No, she only found out during their first date 'Sunday' , and she told me when she popped in this afternoon 'Monday' It is possible that this is the situation, after all there have been home make over programmes on TV where couples have been living like this, and I had a family member who had to endure it for nearly two years, I can't say I would be happy with it though, but I am a jealous so and so!!

LTL

Devils_Custard wrote: »

LTL - that is a wonderful line. Fools! What were they thinking about, not replying to that? You've made my night (insert your own, slightly mucky, joke here).

Something has come over me, meaning I don't think I'll really be on POF but I'll let you know if I get any responses to them. I sent it out to 5 people yesterday :rotfl:

lara_412 wrote: »

Hi girls and guys! I wanted to say thanks for any advice regarding a situation I posted about earlier this month. Fab advice and much appreciated!

I am enjoying this thread too. I think it's good to have a laugh about online dating.. you either laugh or cry they say!

I am in a bit of a pickle at the moment actually. I met a man via POF and at first he seemed lovely and really friendly. He still is, but I just don't feel a connection to him (and we haven't even met yet). We have chatted lots and at first I thought I was interested, and I guess I still am a little. It's just that we're completely different and he is 10 years older than me!

I really don't know how to tell him. He told me last night he was emotionally attached to me (yikes!) and I don't want to hurt his feelings. He does go on about a girl he dated who hurt him badly, so I don't want to hurt him even more.

I don't know whether to do it via email or text message. Eek.

Do it via the medium of dance.

Failing that just tell him to 0121.

Guys only tell you a story like that to put a sense of guilt/commitment on your behalf.

Mrs_Huggett

Cross posted with you lara_412 I would say send him an email, his prior hurt with another girl is not your fault, so try not to let him give you feelings of guilt, and if you haven't even met yet then I can't see a problem, there has been no kiss, no holding of hands, no hugs, so it will be easier now, all he will have is what MIGHT have been, not what HAS been.

lara_412

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Cross posted with you lara_412 I would say send him an email, his prior hurt with another girl is not your fault, so try not to let him give you feelings of guilt, and if you haven't even met yet then I can't see a problem, there has been no kiss, no holding of hands, no hugs, so it will be easier now, all he will have is what MIGHT have been, not what HAS been.

Thanks! I think I'll type an email and send it tomorrow. I do feel a little guilty but at least I am letting him down now and not after we've met.

I guess that's why I didn't respond to his text of asking me to meet.. oops!

lara_412

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

No, she only found out during their first date 'Sunday' , and she told me when she popped in this afternoon 'Monday' It is possible that this is the situation, after all there have been home make over programmes on TV where couples have been living like this, and I had a family member who had to endure it for nearly two years, I can't say I would be happy with it though, but I am a jealous so and so!!

Actually an aunt and uncle of mine live like that. They're seperated and have completely separate lives but live together under the same roof and they're both happy with it.

I don't think I'd be happy with a guy that I liked, living with his ex either and I can probably say it would be a deal-breaker for me.
I have read about some men just saying they're separated but living with the ex to trick the new woman into thinking he's really single. It's also a good get out clause for why the new woman can't come over etc.

I hope in your friend's situation it's not this and everything is perfectly genuine.

System

Ah.

I have to admit i live with my ex, there's a year left on the lease so i'm kind of stuck with him. Though to be fair we're really good friends and he's always at his gf's so i barely see him. I am a bit worried that if i start seeing someone they might have a problem with it but there's f.a i can do about it. *shrugs*

So..i may have pulled tonight :eek: Not sure where it will go ( he said he's not looking for a relationship, whereas i am) I'm a bad girl...

Li0nhead

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

Ah.

I have to admit i live with my ex, there's a year left on the lease so i'm kind of stuck with him. Though to be fair we're really good friends and he's always at his gf's so i barely see him. I am a bit worried that if i start seeing someone they might have a problem with it but there's f.a i can do about it. *shrugs*

So..i may have pulled tonight :eek: Not sure where it will go ( he said he's not looking for a relationship, whereas i am) I'm a bad girl...

Is it not a funny situation when the ex is in the house and you come back with a different guy every week?