what are the best value dating sites?

LTL

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

I'm 25 and i've personallly found okcupid to be the best for me

OK thanks!

LTL = Long Time Lurker... read a lot on here but not posted

This thread gives some hope but sounds like you've got to trawl through a lot of people first!

Is it different/tougher for a guy on these sites (as in girls just sit & wait, or do they actively look also?)

lou--b

lou--b wrote: »

Another update from me!
Mondays date was changed to Wed, my fault, was busy Monday. Anyway turned up at agreed meeting place to find that his profile pic was at least 5yrs old lol. I would have walked right passed him if he hadnt seen me, looked nothing like his photo. Didnt want to be rude so thought Id have the coffee anyway. He had other plans...a trip to...B&Q!!!! How romantic! Needless to say it just went downhill from there, I made my excuses and left.
Onwards to Thursday
Arranged to meet halfway as we live quite a distance apart. Met at a beautiful wee beach (we both enjoy walks on the beach) He was there before me so had the chance to check him out as I parked the car lol. He was exactly as his pic. We walked and talked for ages, no awkward silences then went for a coffee. Could have sat there with him all night. He was lovely. Walked me to my car at the end of the date where we talked more, don't think any of us wanted it to end. Now as a dating virgin (Wed doesn't count!) I wasn't sure how to "say goodbye". Luckily for me, he was!! Got a lovely wee snog (he asked first!!) Been texting ever since, wants to take me somewhere nice on Monday. The best part...Im actually looking forward to it.
You may also remember my very first date cancelling on me as he had met someone IRL, well we became friends on facebook anyway and have been chatting on there a fair bit. He has given me lots of dating advice. He thinks its best to add someone on FB before meeting as you can check them out, make sure they're not married, check photos for the ring! Get a last name if not on fb and google them! keep a spare sim card so you are not giving out your real number. Still not met him IRL but as FB friends we get on like a house on fire. We are going for that drink next week (on a friends basis) so will keep you all posted. As far as Im concerned you can never have enough friends.
Good luck to everyone.


Well, things have kind of changed since I wrote this...We're going on a DATE tomorrow. Didn't work out with the girl he met. Im now worried that we've talked so much on FB we're gonna have nothing to talk about tomorrow lol.
still waiting on the 2nd date from walk on the beach guy, had to cancel due to family commitments. (me not him) Worried that he thinks Im not interested. still texting though so hopefully all ok.
Keep you all posted and thanks again for giving me the courage to join up.

Lou x

katherine04

Hi guys, I'm also a (female) and searching for the best dating sites. I'm 20 years old. Can you help me find a site that fits my age? LOL! thanks a lot

Mrs_Huggett

TO THE YOUNG WHIPPERSNAPPERS - LTL and katherine04...I reckon if you go to the 4 I mentioned above and have a look first, ie do a search for people in the age range you want then you can compare, there is nothing to stop you from using all 4, but you may get a snotty message from one or two people like "why are you on this site I thought you were on xxx site?" we have had a laugh with one person as he has only changed his username slightly, according to what he is looking for, and he has used a different 'searching for' criterion on each one, he can't decide whether he wants fun, activity, serious relationship..etc, etc. Of course he is free to do as he pleases, but as my friend has had contact with him he is not what he seems,we also have found men changing their age and forgetting what age they are supposed to be, and changing their location - by 100 miles in one case, it really doesn't take much effort to worm out the chancers, but then you may find people in your age range to be a bit more normal, and hopefully have less baggage

LTL

Thanks Mrs Huggett

I just needed some advice/a little push as I feel there is a stigma attached. I'm not one to go out to pubs/clubs all the time (and if I do I don't see it being the ideal time to get to know someone!) and it can be difficult to go elsewhere every day of the week now I work 40+ hours a week.

Oh and you calling us "YOUNG WHIPPERSNAPPERS" reminds me of a week or so ago getting called a "wee nipper"... I'm in my twenties! :rotfl:

sunny_d_2

What does everyone feel about dating someone who lives quite a bit away from them?

I spoke to one or two the other night that lived on the other side of the country, I got on really well with one guy but told him I wasn't sure about carrying on chatting as we live so far away from each other. It got quite intense and I know he wasn't happy I mentioned that

I'm thinking I would like to meet someone closer to home so we can have days/nights out more frequently. My ex husband used to work away from home alot and I think this contributed to us splitting up, so don't really want to go down that road again.

Gina_of_course!

Phew just caught up with the last 10 pages, the ups and downs of first/second/third dates....

Mrs_Huggett

LTL Loads of people use internet dating nowaday's there isn't a stigma attached to it at all, and if you don't feel comfy about telling people then don't, it is your own personal business and no one need know, the people you will hopefully meet will be in the same boat as you after all, so they may not want to tell thier friends and family either, there are loads of people your age who are single, so try not to worry about it, and good luck!!

Scotty1.7

Long time no posts folks.

Not been on a dating site of any sort for ages c- glad to see we are all still plugging away.

I've given up worrying about it and I'm just enjoying it and going along for the ride

zoesmummy_2006

well I have a date on sunday!!!! I got chatting to another guy on okcupid a couple of weeks back and we've been messaging most days, we added each other on fb etc and have been chatting loads on there. I have a few problems though, he lives a fair drive away and i dont drive, he works away all week, and i dont think hes been single long, maybe a few weeks/2 months if that. He also has 2 boys to see at a weekend, plays sports generally both days.

My main problem is he seems too keen, has told me loads that he thinks im fantastic from chatting to me, decided to watch a film that he knows i love so he could know what im on about, and is telling me he misses talking to me when im off doing stuff like seeing my mates or out at training and i find that a bit too full on straight away and its putting me off big time. Maybe im too independent now, but i like my own space and i dont know what to do. Im gonna give him a chance in person and go meet him on sunday, but im really not sure on this one.