what are the best value dating sites?

VestanPance

Not wanting to be harsh, but depending if he gets a lot of interest on the site he may not even remember your friend. Maybe he was just being nosey. On a dating site I'd say him contacting her would be a point of interest. Him viewing her profile which most likely generates the automatic e-mail telling her that her profile has been viewed I wouldn't take as someone showing interest.

I don't think any of the pay dating sites actually inform users that the person is no longer active either (they certainly didn't when I did some tech work for them a few years back), which is a marketing con as you could spend all day contacting people that are no longer signed up or active with absolutely no knowledge of that.

As for abuse, people can and will take things personally. If you state you dislike x, y or z no matter what they be the chances are someone take it to heart and if they are that way inclined may lash out with some abuse.

sunny_d_2

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

Just a bit sus though Vestanpance, especially when he had sent a message saying "Sorry I don't think I'm the right person for you, but good luck with your search" lol!!! Why does this particular person then decide 24 hours after the expiration of her months subscription to pop back up with the same format,

Just a thought...maybe he had an interest in someone else at that time and then it didn't work out, so decided to contact your friend after all? If I was chatting to someone I liked, I may decide to click the 'sorry, your not my type' button as I don't like to completely ignore someone without clicking some reason for not wanting contact.

I can't really criticise you though for being wary because I must be the most suspicious person in the world! lol

Edited to add: I personally would not take on another membership period for the reason this one man decided to get in touch though. I believe if your friends membership has ended now then fate is saying he's not right for her anyway?!

Good luck to your friend.

System

Ooooh

I potentially have a date tomorrow (well i will if he texts me back....) :j

Have been messaging him for a week or two on okcupid, and we'd kind of got to the point of suggesting meeting up. Then last night i was a little tipsy..and somehow found the courage to actually ask him if he wanted to go out tomorrow...well he said yes and we were texting till 5am.

First proper date in 4 years :eek: i'm so out of practice!! will let you know (if and) how it goes!

edit: he texted back we're meeting tomorrow and going to see a film/have a coffee.....oh god what do i wear???!!!

Mrs_Huggett

Sunny-d You are quite right about not investing in another months worth, to be honest it was pretty rubbish even though it is supposed to be designed for people looking for the racial demographics that my friend is interested in, she does seem to have had more luck, (if you can call it that) from the free sites, we are at the moment hoping for the best for one person who seems very nice and very suited to her, they are meeting next Sunday afternoon for coffee, his suggestion, and I think that is nice and sensible, we have other chaps who are at the wanting her phone No stage too, AND she has had only 1 nude pic so far! loooool!!

Mrs_Huggett

Sorry forgot to say to vestanpance that she has not replied to any individual regarding her preference on race, but that she has included it in her profile, though I do wonder how many men actually read them, or is that just the ones only interested in a leg over???

sunny_d_2

Mrs_Huggett wrote: »

her profile, though I do wonder how many men actually read them, or is that just the ones only interested in a leg over???

I'm finding there are waaay too many looking a 'leg over' lol

Spoke with a guy on Sunday who seemed quite nice, (had previously said hello and a quick chat once before that) but during the chat he said he'd met one woman online who only wanted sex, I said well that's fine for her and at least she was honest but I wouldn't be interested in that type of thing myself, although I did say I wasn't sure what I was looking for. He said he had sex with her but was really looking for a lasting relationship.

Said he'd been single before that for 18 months and therefore hadn't had sex in that time. (Didn't want to tell him how long I'd not had sex for, which is much longer than 18 months! and I wouldn't just sleep with someone for the sake of it anyway!)

We had a laugh and joke about it, I sent him a pic, he said I was pretty etc and he really wanted to chat again. Didn't see him online on Monday, went online last night, he wasn't there at first so I received a message from someone who I started to chat with. While I was chatting with the other guy, the first guy came on, removed me from his list and blocked me! How confusing :rotfl:

Anyways...the guy last night spoke mostly about himself, didn't ask about me at all. He doesn't know my name or what I look like but said the next time we're on we can make arrangements when to meet!!?

So, guy 1 was testing the water? and guy 2 has his speedos on and is ready to dive from the top board!?

You really have to laugh at the antics of some people, and infact I think this is all I'm going to get for the time being on these websites

Mrs_Huggett

Don't give up hope sunny_d there are normal blokes on there, but there is a lot of people with baggage, issues, and atitude, and some of the ahem..ladies do not do themselves any favours with their photos etc :eek: (a pvc dress from Ann summers is not de rigueur, when you are A. the wrong side of 55 and B. trying to attract a half decent man) We are currently using POF, which has gone quiet, Freedating, which is slow during busy times, Smooch, we are just getting used to that one, like the way the mail is sorted though, with a pass or a fail for each person sending you messages, depending on your filter settings, and Ok Cupid, which has not had many men that my friend has liked but has had the one she is getting on with ever so well. She is going to continue with these four and not spend any more money for now.

System

Soooo..the date (i think..and hope) went well. He was lovely and we seemed to hit it off. Talking to him on fb now But i'm not counting my chickens before they're hatched this time (or making my last mistake again!!)

LTL

Are these sites good for young(ish) people (early twenties)? If so, what's best?

Thanks in advance

System

LTL wrote: »

Are these sites good for young(ish) people (early twenties)? If so, what's best?

Thanks in advance

I'm 25 and i've personallly found okcupid to be the best for me