Social Worker Problems :'(

January20

Unbelievable!!!

ETA: Re point 4, does the inclusion officer realise how many young girls will leave home in the morning without any breakfast? I battle with my dd for years and never succeeded! It makes me wonder if she has a hidden agenda...

I think you need to complain strongly to SS but also the the higher powers at school. Don't be afraid to offend anybody because if you go for a softly-softly approach, they will not take you seriously. You need to show them that you will not take anymore c r a p from them or there will be consequences.

blue_monkey_2

I would have concerns over the inclusion officer too. And the school. I would just go to the governors and ask them for an explaination - failing that, the LEA.

All of this should never have happened. I wonder what sort of motive she has?

Did she apologise for trying to encourage your son to move out? I'd be placing a formal complaint about her as well.

Shocking but pleased this part is over and done with and you have found out why this happened. It must be a relief to know the case is closed.

looby75

StressedAndDepressed wrote: »

8. Inclusion attendance officer claims to have taken my son to one side to inform him that if he claimed EMA he could pay for his own place - the head of 6th form told the year as a whole about EMA grants no inclusion officer involved.

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EMA has been scrapped now, so someone doesn't have a clue what they are talking about and I would love to know how someone can house, feed and clothe themselves on £30 a week anyway.

I hope you get to the bottom of this ASAP OP, someone somewhere seems to be out to cause your family problems.

Spendless

So the Inclusion manager at your child's school claims your son is sleeping rough in a shop doorway, begs for food as he has no lunch (or breakfast), thinks he's 15 years old (when he's 17) and doesn't feel safe at home. I'm going to go back to what I suggested before have they got the right child or have they muddled him with someone with the same or similar name?

Re the neighbour, either she's reported that to your child's school or to SS otherwise why would all these things be linked? And it's bonkers anyway. My DH does the same if he goes out early. That's so I'm not disturbed by burglars! And surely you have a back door just like I have?

StressedAndDepressed

Spendless wrote: »

So the Inclusion manager at your child's school claims your son is sleeping rough in a shop doorway, begs for food as he has no lunch (or breakfast), thinks he's 15 years old (when he's 17) and doesn't feel safe at home. I'm going to go back to what I suggested before have they got the right child or have they muddled him with someone with the same or similar name?
That would be the only thing that makes sense, tbf if you see my son you would never believe he is 17, he looks very young and is quite short for his age (13/14 yr old clothes! :eek:.

Re the neighbour, either she's reported that to your child's school or to SS otherwise why would all these things be linked? And it's bonkers anyway. My DH does the same if he goes out early. That's so I'm not disturbed by burglars! And surely you have a back door just like I have?

Well the neighbour problems is a story in itself! The basics of it revolve around some very slanderous comments she made against both myself and my husband and certain things she has been doing that I reported to the council, the council involved the police and went to speak to her which is when she made the allegations regarding my son and they were then passed to ss.

No, we only have one door, it's on the side of the house and the door faces the neighbours door so any coming and goings she sees as she is normally standing on the doorstep smoking.
I think the fact that she tried to claim he was locking myself and the children in when she has seen us come and go alone when he is in work really annoyed me and I made sure to mention it quite loudly today as I left the house, the gormless look on her face when she realised I knew was a picture. Social services have recommended contacting the council and reporting it as harassment.

StressedAndDepressed

January20 wrote: »

Unbelievable!!!

ETA: Re point 4, does the inclusion officer realise how many young girls will leave home in the morning without any breakfast? I battle with my dd for years and never succeeded! It makes me wonder if she has a hidden agenda...

I think you need to complain strongly to SS but also the the higher powers at school. Don't be afraid to offend anybody because if you go for a softly-softly approach, they will not take you seriously. You need to show them that you will not take anymore c r a p from them or there will be consequences.

I will be complaining very strongly, for too long I have taken the softly softly approach as I do not like to cause a scene but it has gone to far when they are trying to cause all this trouble for no definable reason.

First thing Monday morning I will be contacting the school to arrange to speak to the board of governors and the LEA, the social worker has already stated she will provide me with a complete timeline of the "complaints" and full written details to put to the LEA and governors.

Next job is to look at whether there is another school & 6th form locally that can take both him and my other son as I am not hsppy leaving them in this school now.

StressedAndDepressed

blue_monkey wrote: »

I would have concerns over the inclusion officer too. And the school. I would just go to the governors and ask them for an explaination - failing that, the LEA.

All of this should never have happened. I wonder what sort of motive she has?

Did she apologise for trying to encourage your son to move out? I'd be placing a formal complaint about her as well.

Shocking but pleased this part is over and done with and you have found out why this happened. It must be a relief to know the case is closed.

It's a huge relief, I've barely slept or eaten for a week with the stress and worry .
She never apologised for anything she said to my son, so I pointed out that I am putting in a complaint with regards to her handling of the situation and if she felt there was no case in the first place why did she interview him twice and make appointments for every Wednesday.

Spendless

Yes, see what the school have to say. Is your 17yo in yr 12 or yr13? Yr 12 would probably be easier to move him if that's what you wish, yr 13 may be trickier.

StressedAndDepressed

Spendless wrote: »

Yes, see what the school have to say. Is your 17yo in yr 12 or yr13? Yr 12 would probably be easier to move him if that's what you wish, yr 13 may be trickier.

He's year 12 so hopefully it shouldn't be too hard if the school do not want to co-operate. Hopefully though this will all be sorted out and he can carry on there as normal.

clearingout

There are two possibly answers to this as I see it:
a) the Inclusion Officer is very inexperienced, has heard things, taken them out of context and joined the dots in the way she sees fit rather than logically. This makes her very dangerous - kids in real trouble may fall under the radar. I would be questioning her training, to be honest.

b) There is another child at the school experiencing these problems, either with a similar name or the same initials. He/she is being ignored whilst this his happening.

Anyway, I'm glad it's worked out OK for you. There are obviously some lose threads to tie up and hopefully you'll get answers to those which are satisfactory. I sincerely hope that no other child is suffering as a result of them hounding your family.