Would you lend your son money late pay day

victory

mrshaz wrote: »

but to be fair our dads dont issue the credit cards

True I don't see it as massive because the money is small, dad can afford i but the point is his 1st anniversary is not so important that he should be 'owing money' for it, sure if it was rent he owed or was on a red letter for his elec or he needed petrol for his car, those types of things yes, this can be postponed and he can then 2 weeks later than scheduled have his entire money and do as he pleases with it without owing a penny:D

mrshaz

were you never young and in love? i know i was, the guy really wasnt right for me and not who i ended up marrying but i would have gone to hell and back for him because i thought i loved him so much. its nice that your son respects your girlfriend and is happy. we all need to have a little happiness in our lives, he is young you havent specified but with his approach to thinks i'm thinking late teens? what we do when we are young is what defines us and shapes us into who we become.

it sounds like you have a fab young man who has a good heart and ajob!! i cant say that enough, there are so many kids out there who dont work, wont work, cant work, let him have a little fun when hes young, it will all change one day.

neverdespairgirl

I would lend him some money, but a reasonable amount, not a fortune.

victory

mrshaz wrote: »

were you never young and in love? i know i was, the guy really wasnt right for me and not who i ended up marrying but i would have gone to hell and back for him because i thought i loved him so much. its nice that your son respects your girlfriend and is happy. we all need to have a little happiness in our lives, he is young you havent specified but with his approach to thinks i'm thinking late teens? what we do when we are young is what defines us and shapes us into who we become.

it sounds like you have a fab young man who has a good heart and ajob!! i cant say that enough, there are so many kids out there who dont work, wont work, cant work, let him have a little fun when hes young, it will all change one day.

Sure I have been madly deeply head over heels in love and love that feeling it is lovely:j:j

Thanks:D

shegirl

I'd lend him the money without a second thought! It's not his fault he hasn't got paid and it's just a little treat they were looking forward to.I don't see what the big deal is.

victory

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I would lend him some money, but a reasonable amount, not a fortune.

No, true it was never going to be a fortune, OH is happy to it is just me I can't seem to get past the 'what is the point of teaching him the value of money that if you have it you can afford it and if you have not you can't' philosophy to life and then owe money for his first pay day.

I do see he is madly in love and wants the best for his gf, I suppose I just wish they could 'delay it until he can afford it' type answer:D

victory

shegirl wrote: »

I'd lend him the money without a second thought! It's not his fault he hasn't got paid and it's just a little treat they were looking forward to.I don't see what the big deal is.

No big deal not a huge big deal just wish he could see that if has not got the money he can't afford it but everyone is probably right he has got it through no fault of his own he just has to wait 2 more weeks for it, so I guess no harm but a shame he will owe before he gets paid.:D

JimmyTheWig

I'd lend it to him.
If he were wanting a loan against days not yet worked, or even against days worked but money not yet due, then I'd say no. But here he could have reasonably expected to have had this money by now.
A loan now won't make his next payday smaller as he'll get paid again in 2 weeks time.

It's almost like lending him the cash because it's not convenient for him to get to the cashpoint.

[Also, if you say "no" he might go to Wonga.]

newcook

Im 30 and although I manage my money quite well I know that if this sort of thing happened my mom and stepdad wouldnt think twice about lending me some money until my pay, which through no fault of my own, was delayed.

if he had already been paid and p!ssed it all up the wall then I would agree with you but this isnt his fault and if you have it to lend him then why not?!

im guessing this is the first time he has had an anniversary with a girlfriend and he wants to treat his girlfriend on the day of their anniversary - not 2 weeks later.

Kittendreich

Would you rather he borrowed the money 'in secret' from doorstop lenders, payday lendings, credit cards or the like....?

A small loan with a strict payback on the day he is paid will not do any harm to his financial ethic. Different if he wanted to 'borrow' money with no way to pay it back, but he should have had the money, made plans to spoil his girlfriend on a special date (to them) and his employer has let him down - I don't think one loan will spoil him for life if you have brought him up to respect & be sensible with money.