My situation .. What can I do?

crazy_gooner

RedSky wrote: »

I agree with crazy gooner. Given a choice my ideal scenario would be to raise a child within a family unit but when this is not an option I can see there are limited alternatives. If an NRP is to start parenting without even a healthy relationship with either the other parent or child then sometimes the lesser of two evils is to not be a parent at all rather than end up doing it badly.

Precisely how I feel. I will not damange a child by going in and out when I do not wish too. If I have to I will pay my way, if not I will stay away anyway.

A question I have, I'm doing as much research as other people,

I know one child is 15% and two is 20%, or the woman who you do not live with will get less from the NRP, but what would it be if you had 2 children from 2 different mothers and you lived with neither?

Would it be 10% each, or more to the first child?

Generally wondered, because if the latter, that is seriously flawed. It should be half and half.

DUTR

crazy_gooner wrote: »

Precisely how I feel. I will not damange a child by going in and out when I do not wish too. If I have to I will pay my way, if not I will stay away anyway.

A question I have, I'm doing as much research as other people,

I know one child is 15% and two is 20%, or the woman who you do not live with will get less from the NRP, but what would it be if you had 2 children from 2 different mothers and you lived with neither?

Would it be 10% each, or more to the first child?

Generally wondered, because if the latter, that is seriously flawed. It should be half and half.

It would be 10% each.

System

Re paying for the DNA test Crazy Gooner...I don't know if this is still the case but this info comes from 'families need fathers' site

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Even if a man disputes paternity, if he has been named by the mother as the father of her child, he will have to pay child maintenance until DNA tests prove otherwise. The alleged father will initially have to pay for a DNA test (arranged by the CSA) and continue to pay maintenance, all of which will be refunded if the paternity test comes back negative. "

DUTR

Purbeck wrote: »

Re paying for the DNA test Crazy Gooner...I don't know if this is still the case but this info comes from 'families need fathers' site

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Even if a man disputes paternity, if he has been named by the mother as the father of her child, he will have to pay child maintenance until DNA tests prove otherwise. The alleged father will initially have to pay for a DNA test (arranged by the CSA) and continue to pay maintenance, all of which will be refunded if the paternity test comes back negative. "

I can tell you from my own experience that, the NRP does not have to pay CS until a positive DNA result (although the arrears will be from the effective date until the schedule arrives) .

crazy_gooner

Thanks.

That's the bit that worries me. I do not want arrears. so again, arrears would only build up from the day they contact me not the day she contacts them? because until im proven as the dad how can they put you in debt?

putting someone in a year ot more arrears for something they don't know.about and only assumption surely is against the law and human rights?

System

Sorry It was really only the cost of the DNA test being refunded if result negative that I meant to quote, just in case OP didn't know.

DUTR

crazy_gooner wrote: »

Thanks.

That's the bit that worries me. I do not want arrears. so again, arrears would only build up from the day they contact me not the day she contacts them? because until im proven as the dad how can they put you in debt?

putting someone in a year ot more arrears for something they don't know.about and only assumption surely is against the law and human rights?

You won't be in a year of debt, fr instance a brown envelope arrives addressed to you tomorrow morning, the date is probably last monday, you fill in the form and tick the appropriate boxes, you return the form (with proof of postage of course) , then you get an invite to participate in the DNA test, so does the PWC, when the results are proven (which could be a few weeks) then you will recieve a schedule with a start date of a few weeks ahead but a liabilty date of the 1st dated letter, but during that time you put aside 15% net pay, you can pay the arrears up to date or have them spread (up to 2yrs) on the schedule.

crazy_gooner

thanks mate! so only arrears are from the date they send the brown.envelope?

DUTR

crazy_gooner wrote: »

thanks mate! so only arrears are from the date they send the brown.envelope?

Indeed
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DeeLasVegas

crazy_gooner wrote: »

I had a tarot reading done by 2 highly regarded people, both said a child is in distance, but it isn't mine.

Ever consider that the baby your current Mrs is pregnant with could be this child??

A 'child in the distance' could more than likely be one not yet born.....not one already here.