Help !! before war breaks out in my house !!

janiebaby29

My 21 yr old daughter has been back with us since March , as she had to move out of her flat for non payment of rent ! she has since found a partime job and has been to loads of interviews and has high hopes of landing another one very soon .
before this job she did try a full time job at Stansted airport but it was impratical , due to timings and expensive fares

we did have a chat a while ago and she agreed to pay us 50 quid a week rent from this fulltime job , as she has a partime job now , she says its not pratical to pay this , which i kinda agree with .
she has said that once she ands another partime job she will pay 50 quid a week .

the probelm im having is my husband who is her stepdad feels that i am going back on my word and giving into her and is being a bit childish and isnt talking to me !!
any advice ??

BitterAndTwisted

If she's not working full-time then it's not reasonable to expect her to pay all of what you agreed.

Speak to your OH and have him tell you what he thinks is reasonable once he knows what your daughter's take-home pay is.

Lotus-eater

Sounds like she's trying hard to me. If she hasn't got the money, then she hasn't.

newcook

if it was going to be £50 for full time then ask (sorry, tell) her £25

she cannot expect to get a free ride especially if she is earning


as for OH, stick your tongue out at him and show him who the grown up is!!!

janiebaby29

Lotus-eater wrote: »

Sounds like she's trying hard to me. If she hasn't got the money, then she hasn't.

She is and he cant see it !! its so frustrating ! i know they dont get on at the best of times but even so !! grrr !! ive even brought up the fact that all my wages went on supporting us for 6 months this year until he found a job !!

scheming_gypsy

Simple.

If her take home pay from the Stanstead job would have been £200 a week and you were going to accept £50 a week for rent; then you were taking a quarter of her wage. If her part time job has a take home of £80 a week then you take £20 off her. So work out what percentage of her full time wage the £50 would be and she can pay that.

bestpud

How much does she actually earn?

And has she paid off the rent she owes to her ex-LL?

janiebaby29

scheming_gypsy wrote: »

Simple.

If her take home pay from the Stanstead job would have been £200 a week and you were going to accept £50 a week for rent; then you were taking a quarter of her wage. If her part time job has a take home of £80 a week then you take £20 off her. So work out what percentage of her full time wage the £50 would be and she can pay that.

which is what i have suggessted !!!
in short its my husband isnt it !!

janiebaby29

bestpud wrote: »

How much does she actually earn?

And has she paid off the rent she owes to her ex-LL?

well this week she earnt 88 quid for two days
and yes she has paid her rent , in fact she actuallly got a rebate back as they didnt pay her HB correctly last week , this is what got her evicted , she went through her bank statements and proved that the LHA was wrong .
with this rebate she is paying off what she owes people , which i think is right , but OH thinks her 50 quid rent should come out of this as well !
i disagree as its not earnt income and she is doing the right thing in paying peeps back

janiebaby29

So is it me in the wrong or the OH ??

Sambucus_Nigra

Suggest to him that if he isn't happy then you will have to support her by paying her rent like you supported him when he was on the dole; suggesting a good £400 a month, plus bills would probably give him a different viewpoint.

Or just tell him one more word or dirty look and you will stop taking any money off her altogether.