Contact with child whilst on holiday

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princessdreamer wrote: »

No but I know quite a few who ignore their kids, slate the ex and play the victim. If you spent an hour with my ex you would believe he tried to call the kids, came to see them only to be turned away. The list of lies goes on and on.

Well maybe you mix in unpleasant circles.
I know no men who behave like that.

gRoberts

Exactly. I can't force my ex to take her mobile, as she can't force me. I do out of a) common sense, b) common decency and c) it's my third limb. Had I of decided not to take my mobile, I would have been asked "what if I want to speak to the kids" or "what is the kids want to speak to me"?

I wasn't given the option. Period.

gRoberts

loubeedoo wrote: »

gRoberts wrote: »

Now, this is better. Yes, you have a point to raise, but instead of making me out to sound like a utter !!!!!! ... you've done it nicely. So thank you, really.

Erm, you're welcome, I think

All you can do is do right by your kids, if that means biting your tongue and biding your time, then so be it. I've had to do it with my youngest, who has had his heart broken twice. (Long story, but now court sanctioned no contact with his father).

Like some have said on here, you will have to smile and suck it up, then when they are old enough to see for themselves and comprehend all her actions, then they can decide what is right for them.

But having said that, I don't know all the circumstances. She may have issues with you (again I'm going to duck and hide in my bomb shelter:o, especially as I'm a woman:D).

I agree splitting them up is not right, and if you feel that is the way forward then I wish you the very best of luck. If only my sons fathers had an ounce of the feelings you have for your child.

Maybe you and your sons father can move in together to keep the kids together, like the 2 dads did in the story on the Daily Mail (I know, not the best paper to read :rotfl:).

Anyway good luck

No need to duck and cover.

My son's father lives rather close, but we're not that friendly with each other. We have something in common

gRoberts

Anyhoo, I think the context of this post has gone outside of what I had originally created it for.

Thanks again to all that posted. I'm sorry if I upset anyone.

rachbc

My ex never expects me to call when he takes our son away and neither do I expect him to call me when we go away. The exception to this will be this year when he is away over christmas and I'll skype him to say happy christmas

nickyhutch

princessdreamer wrote: »

No but I know quite a few who ignore their kids, slate the ex and play the victim. If you spent an hour with my ex you would believe he tried to call the kids, came to see them only to be turned away. The list of lies goes on and on.

And I know a heck of a lot more who do the right thing. They aren't all like your ex.

neverdespairgirl

OP, I'd have been very upset if I'd been you. My OH took our son, then 5, to Israel for 5 days just before Christmas last year, and I spoke to my son every day. We're not separated, but I don't see that as the point.

flutterby_lil

I didn't mean to offend anybody when I said depends how far you are willing to go.

The court order works perfectly for us and mother has never taken child on holiday in our weekends and does it when she has the kids, and she has 2 to 2 different dads. She has never said the said child has a party, doesn't want to come etc so in our eyes it is worth the paper it is written on. My OH didn't have PR but has now gained it in court.

Marisco

TBH, I think this is a bit of a molehill/mountain situation!! If my ex took my kids on holiday, I wouldn't be phoning them every day. Why would I? They would be perfectly safe with ex, hopefully enjoying themselves, and if they really wanted to speak to me, they could phone themselves. The same in reverse. Yes, she possibly should have told you she wasn't taking the mobile, but she did contact your mam, and as someone said, in the rush of packing etc, she could have forgotten, and as she told the other dad, she might have thought she told you as well. I often tell someone something, and thought I'd told someone else IYSWIM. And when I say, "well, I told you that" they say no, I remember it was someone else I'd mentioned it to!!! It's only for a week anyway!!!