Contact with child whilst on holiday

princessdreamer

gRoberts wrote: »

Your point being?

As for CSA, I'm glad you brought that up. From the day we split up, I OFFERED and we mutually agreed to a monthly amount. This was maintained for almost a year until the ex decided to call the CSA and make it official. Still to this date, I have paid on time, each month.

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Thought so

Thought so what? You pay what you are supposed to well done. I pay my taxes should I get a medal no.
You have provided no evidence that ex has done anything wrong, yet you are banging on about going to court, getting this and that.

Rikki

I never take my phone abroad. My two boys were eight and two when I first took them abroad on my own and they didn't have any contact with their father during this time and the same when they went on holiday him.

Personally I don't think she is being selfish I think she is just enjoying a relaxing holiday with her two children. They will be back before you know it.

gRoberts

PrincessDreamer and Rikki,

Suffice to say, you have little or no respect for your children's relationship with their father.

My ex took time to inform the other father that she isn't taking her mobile, yet despite seeing me the day before leaving (since I picked up the kids to stay over before going on holiday), she failed to mention it to me.

Then, to make matters worse, she contacted my mother via facebook (which I cannot contact my ex via, PrincessDreamer), even though she could have contacted me directly via email.

Either way. I'll keep this in mind for future.

Finally... PrincessDreamer. On the matter of court and no evidence. I've got plenty, of which I won't divulge on a public forum.

Rikki

gRoberts wrote: »

PrincessDreamer and Rikki,

Suffice to say, you have little or no respect for your children's relationship with their father.

...and what did we do before we all had mobile phones?


It has nothing to do with respect for a child's relationship with their father. A week without contact won't kill you. You seem to need something to find fault with your ex to cause tension and an argument.

There are many families that have husbands working away from home and those in the forces don't have weekly phone calls with their children.

I never take my mobile on holiday abroad.

gRoberts

Being a forces brat, I'd know that more than you! Of course, unless you've been in a similar situation, which I doubt. Prior to mobile phones, people used phone boxes and called once to let people know they arrived OK and if need be, called regularly.

When I started this post, I mentioned that I may be overreacting. Maybe I am. But I bet it'd be different had it of been the other way around.

Maybe I should just follow your advice and in future, leave my mobile at home. That way, the kids can have 100% daddy time.

liney

Rikki wrote: »

...and what did we do before we all had mobile phones?

We tried to speak Spanish to people in shops and eventually bought phone cards. We then realised we didn't know the International Dialing code for the UK, went back to said Spanish man and eventually got through using a phone box!

OP, I think your Ex is at the very least inconsiderate of not only yours, but of her children's feelings. I don't know any small children who wouldn't have asked to telephone their absent Father or Mother who they have regular contact with during a weeks holiday. Poor show.

At least you and the other Father can communicate though.

liney

gRoberts wrote: »

Being a forces brat, I'd know that more than you! Of course, unless you've been in a similar situation, which I doubt. Prior to mobile phones, people used phone boxes and called once to let people know they arrived OK and if need be, called regularly.

When I started this post, I mentioned that I may be overreacting. Maybe I am. But I bet it'd be different had it of been the other way around.

Maybe I should just follow your advice and in future, leave my mobile at home. That way, the kids can have 100% daddy time.

Cross post!
If your phone was in the hotel/low on battery/only used at the children's request then I wouldn't blame you.

pimento

What did we all do before Facebook and mobile phones?

gRoberts

Thank you Liney,

Who cares what we done before Facebook or Mobile phones. That was then, this is now. So there's little or no excuse for it. If I didn't take a mobile phone, as Liney said, I'd take a piece of paper with numbers on and buy the kids a phone card.

Again. My point still stands. If my ex took the time to inform my sons biological father, what reason does she have for not informing me?

I understand that they may want to go on holiday and leave a mobile at home. That's fine, so long as they tell me prior to leaving so I don't assume something is wrong.

princessdreamer

gRoberts wrote: »

PrincessDreamer and Rikki,

Suffice to say, you have little or no respect for your children's relationship with their father.

Nope my children have no respect or time for their father. They have no interest in speaking to him ever again which I think is very sad but he brought it on himself. He turned his children against him with his hatred and lies.