Friends falling out

victory

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thunderbird

I don't blame her for doing that - there may some misunderstanding that they can sort out between themselves in person. You don't just throw away a 30 year old friendship like that.

Let her get on with it.

victory

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thunderbird

She sounds like a determined lady - I'm sure she'll find out the answer one way or another. Even if it's not what she wants to hear, at least she will know and can let it rest.

mico62

I had a similar situation with a friend. We were introduced by mutual friends when we were both going through messy divorces, we went on holiday with our children and were more like sisters han friends for many years.

Things became strained when I got engaged even though she had a new partner, the daily phone calls stopped, the spontaneous invitations for coffee on a day off stopped. As much as I love hubby to bits I missed her friendship.

We met on neutral territory for lunch and chatted and met a few more times but things fizzled out again, I was waiting for her to make contact and maybe she was doing the same so I swallowed my pride and arranged another lunch date. We chatted politely but it was more like bumping into a former colleague or neighbour. I went home feeling relieved. I'll probably never see her again but I'd accepted our friendship had run its course and served its purpose but we're both different people now.

As americans would say "I got closure" and I think that's what your friend needs.

rachbc

Not sure what advise to offer - your friend is a grown woman and a free agent and perfectly allowed to do what she wants even if its not what others think she should do. What will happen will happen when she gets there and nothing you can do either way - just be there for your friend if it 'goes wrong'.

Kay_Peel

I can't see what the problem is. She deserves an answer to why her friend of 30 years is upset with her and she deserves a chance to put it right.

bestpud

I'm in a similar situation at the moment, although the friendship isn't that long!

It's difficult as I'm wondering if I've done something wrong or if it would be resolved if I just went to see her.

Oddly enough, my other friend says to let it go and accept she just isn't interested in being friends any more!

I don't know the answer but I will watch this thread with interest!

victory

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McKneff

jayII wrote: »

Does anyone else know the friend?

Maybe something has happened to her and she is not able to answer.

Just what I was thinking.:o

victory

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