Boyfriend Constantly Oggling....

Alias_Omega

Are you sure your the only woman? You both live apart, seperate lives.

Maybe your just friends with benefits, and he has many friends with benefits. Maybe he was checking out any additions he would like to add to the collection.


I would recommend some dark sunglasses for him, it might help..

Roslin8

It started out as just dating and I was just seeing how it all went, he became very interested very early in, to the question of is there anyone else, I don't believe there is but I have never talked of exclusivity, it is a loving fun relationship which we are taking easy.

I think as our feelings are getting stronger I have decided that this is something I will confront him about when it happens again, I just don't really know how to go about it!! Have a fiery walk off next time? slap him lightheartedly but let him know it's not on or how it makes me think of him? Or just put it down to someone he is and something I won't accept and cut my losses..! I will be gutted/heartbroken but I would rather do that now than another year down the line..

Thank you all for the comments some of which have really made me smile!

Lotus-eater

I really would talk to him about it before he does it again. Honestly, it's definitely the best way to go.

DUTR

Lotus-eater wrote: »

I really would talk to him about it before he does it again. Honestly, it's definitely the best way to go.

I don't think it is the best way, although agree it is an idea

basscadette

I went out with a Greek for some years and he was like this actually. I tried to brush it off thinking the problem was with me and when I did go mad about it, that's pretty much what he insinuated. Like in your case, he was very attentive to me, loved me to bits etc etc. In fact it just caused so much built up resentment and i couldn't live with it and finally broke up with him (multiple times). He was devastated and just couldn't understand it but it became clear he just wasn;t my type. Now, Greek men are typically like this anyway. I am now happily married to an English gent and I can safely say the problem did not lie with me, he was just a creep - I have never had this problem since!

Honestly, he would have to change surely for there to be a long term relationship. And some men just can;t. WIth this Greek, it was reallyobvious when he was trying ot suppress it - now that's not normal. Got to the point where I didn;t want to go to bars and restaurants with him, it made me feel like rubbish and probably had a few ladies feeling sorry for me and wondering why I was putting up with it. Glad I'm rid now.

Errata

Why 'confront' him? Why not wait until the next time he does it and ask him why he does it? That seems a perfectly normal question to me - no need to be confrontational about it.

scheming_gypsy

Just tell him that you've always fancied a threesome and would he like to ask her if she fancies joining in

Gavin83

To be honest I think it's as likely the OP is misreading it or exaggerating it as her fella is a potential rapist. I've been accused of staring before when I've genuinely been daydreaming, you sure he isn't just doing this?

To be honest I don't see a problem with 'checking out' other people. In fact I'd consider it abnormal not to do so. Just because a partner has a quick glance at someone they find attractive it doesn't mean they're a cheater or in any way weird. Prolonged staring is clearly a bit weird and if he is genuinely doing this then I'd question his sanity to be honest. This is such a personal thing only you can really decide what to do. Just be clear he's staring before you take it any further.

diable

By now you must have worked out that you need to be tough with him and show him who wears the trousers in the relationship ;o))

londoner1998

flutterby_lil wrote: »

Could he have been watching the tv screen on the plane?

Looking at somebody outside whilst in the cafe? or earwigging, I do that.

I think you sound very insecure despite you not thinking so.

I once was chatted up by a man who started doing the same within five minutes of the conversation. I was in a bookshop and he started conversation about a magazine. Then it moved on to advice about my line of work (related to the magazine). He was a very polite, perfectly nice guy (I have a partner so I was completely unconcerned about a man starting a conversation in a bookshop- I have had many interesting, completely innocent ones more than once). He then followed on to 'would you like to go for a coffee?' and when I politely declined saying I had to go, went on to 'how about dinner later?' While he was doing this, I noticed he blatanly looked at a couple of girls that passed by. Three times , and in a very, very strange way. I found it incredibly odd and not a little disturbing and the OP's boyfriend's behaviour just reminded me of that episode.
I don't think she is insecure, I think he has a problem somewhere and as it is making the OP uncomfortable , she needs to speak to him about it. It is disrespectful, to say the least...