Me and My Girls

tattycath

blue_monkey wrote: »

tattycath, the drs needs to be where they are accessible for the children - their medical history is there and no doubt they will not have any notes for moths while they go back and forth. This is why a court order needs to be in place to stop this happening, the father is the one that has moved, he should be putting himself out if this was the decision he made, not moving the child's gp without telling the mother. Clearly they must be in that area more often as they go to school in the area where they currently RESIDE. The mother get's child benefit so we can assume that unless he has a court order, their residence is with her and so she can choose the doctors the child goes to.

Scary that NR parents can go around changing schools and doctors without the permission of the resident parent.

Equally scary that mothers (a percentage of) can make big decisions excluding the father but when it's the other way around the father is flamed for it. Estranged couples across the board should be putting the children first-in all cases instead of trying to point score with one another and pursuing their own battles.

Flee_2

It is a joint decision between parents to make the changes that OP's ex has made. This can be argued out that a father has every right and a mother can be selfish and manipulative. This is not the case here.
OP's ex is wanting the kids to live with him full time, he has moved their doctors without telling OP and he wants them to move school. Everything is done to have control over the kids. I do not think this is right at all. Both parents have the decisions to make but OP's ex wants full control and is bullying OP.
Most people have been in a bullied relationship and it is an awful thing to be in.

princessdreamer

tattycath wrote: »

Equally scary that mothers (a percentage of) can make big decisions excluding the father but when it's the other way around the father is flamed for it. Estranged couples across the board should be putting the children first-in all cases instead of trying to point score with one another and pursuing their own battles.

I would and in the past have tried to consult my ex on decisions in the childrens lives. All I get is the GF either screaming or laughing at me. She is that bad that some imoportant documents came for ex and I sent a text telling him to pick them up, net result she phone the police claiming harassment. In the end the ex is facing a court case dealing with the issues around said documents which were nothing to do with the children or I.
Now I get on with life without consulting him.