14 year old son in a strop-again!

crazyguy

mrshappy wrote: »

His pocket money goes into his bank by DD on the first of the month (trying to teach him the monthly budgeting thing:money:)
and I totally agree about National Service-it would do him the world of good!

Sure would and many another teenagers could benefit from a stint of this to !

pigpen

Oh yeah.. the armed forces where STIs are rife and promiscuity is almost a requirement .. my brother couldnt keep up the notch count so left...

I wasnt comfortable with my 19 y/o staying here with his gf.. it just didnt sit right.. though I did let them. Both parties are underage though so I could not allow it either.

Gavin83

crazyguy wrote: »

Dock his pocket money until he gets out of his strop.

I say bring back National Service !

Now I think this is a massive over reaction. Although it depends on what the 'strop' is, if he's just choosing not to talk to his parents then I don't see why he should lose his pocket money for this. It really isn't fair to punish your child because they don't agree with your decision and choose not to talk to you for a while.

milliebear00001

I think I would allow her to stay, but I would want to talk with her parents first.

If she was my daughter of that age, I would be pretty annoyed that a boy's parents had allowed her to stay without talking to me first - she could be telling them anything.

Amanda65

Another vote here for your house, your rules!

I think the problem I would have is setting a precedent. They may only be friends but what if, in a few months, it's someone else and the 'but you let X stay so don't see the problem'. DS, aged 15 (youngest of three with two older sisters) has a GF and I am very strict with them (as I was with my girls). They do spend time in his room but we have a strict 'open door' policy and I seem to need to sort the airing cupboard / bathroom / my room a lot when she is round :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:. She has a bit of a problem with it but hey - I've got broad shoulders

bluenoseam

thinking back to my 14 year old self would be enough to give me my answer - not a snowballs chance!

VfM4meplse

mrshappy wrote: »

thanks everyone for your quick replies, she has gone home-probably couldn't be bothered with him in a grump, lol. I feel a bit mean, she is a nice girl, but this isn't the first time I have had this conversation with him, he wanted to stay at hers recently and was told no then as well.

I think you have done the right thing. There are enough unplanned teenage conceptions in this country - the highest rate in Europe in fact - so you are right to be responsible. Innocent intentions can have a way of being undermined at that age...

milliebear00001 wrote: »

I think I would allow her to stay, but I would want to talk with her parents first.

I would speak to her parents and communicate your concerns about stay-overs, they should thank you for it and maintain a consistent line.

[Deleted User]

I would think something could happen day or night... Does not matter what time it is, maybe when you pop out...
I'm 22 and that's what we did haha

[Deleted User]

o and had dd at 18/19.

jess1974

Awwww how cute, i have a 14 year old boy so i feel your pain..................