Parents with GIRLS URGENT !!

Darlyd

Gillyx wrote: »

How can you be sure your daughter will always use condoms? You can tell your children things until you are blue in the face it doesn't mean they'l listen.

Because we know of the complications that can occur. Back in my day cervical cancer to me was not caused by having sex, as I was never told, it was never explained to me. Now I know I can educate her.

I am still undecided, she only gave me the letter/form 2 mins before I posted her, DH is asleep, My mother will be asleep and it's to late to visit our gp for advice. She told me it needs to be in by tomorrow. Just not long enough to come to a decision.

Gillyx

I understand where you're coming from, but I was also a teenage girl not long ago, and always had the attitude "oh it'l never happen to me, parents talk crap" etc.

I will also point out condoms don't always work, which is how I've found myself 18 weeks pregnant

peachyprice

darlyd wrote: »

Would she be safe If she always wore condoms until said man had tests, and to make sure she has regular smears,

Scary world.. I am just so cautious, I feel it's not been around long enough to risk my DD health. We can do other measures to protect her from the virus.. as above.. surly?

YOU can't do anything to protect her from the virus, you can't make her use condoms, you can't even be sure she would even tell you if she were active. All you can do is tell how to protect herself, whether she listens or not is a different matter. Young people ALWAYS think they know best

Only you know your daughter, do you trust her to tell you when she's active, do you think she would be responsible enough not to get carried away in the heat of young lust and not use condoms?

patchwork_cat

darlyd wrote: »

Because we know of the complications that can occur. Back in my day cervical cancer to me was not caused by having sex, as I was never told, it was never explained to me. Now I know I can educate her.

I am still undecided, she only gave me the letter/form 2 mins before I posted her, DH is asleep, My mother will be asleep and it's to late to visit our gp for advice. She told me it needs to be in by tomorrow. Just not long enough to come to a decision.

This is the problem, these things should not be rushed. You can say no to tomorrow and do some research and she can catch up later. The only really important thing with this is to do the research and make a descion one way or the other and not just leave it.

meritaten

Its an irreversible decision. Think very carefully before you make decisions for your daughter. You cannot assume she will be irresponsible, and if she thinks she is 'covered' by the vaccine it may be counter productive.

penelopedee_2

If I had a daughter I would like her to have the jab. It may or may not of helped me but when news of it came out my Dad was gutted it wasn't about when I was younger.

I am lucky in that mine was caught in time but for nearly 18 years I have had to go through 3 monthly tests, ops and treatments and it is always there lurking in the background of my life. And I was one of those daughters that listened and was careful.

I'm back in for testing next week, carefully trying to fit the appointment around work, a bit uptight because I know exactly whats going to happen, and sad cos I know my nearest and dearest worry about me too. Then there are a couple weeks of waiting before I get the results, probably followed by by more stress and worry and another hospital visit, more results .........

And I am very lucky cos I'm here writing this post

foreign_correspondent

darlyd wrote: »

Am sorry I have edited. Was in a rush to type it out..

I have been reading many reviews, and loads of bad ones about their child suffering from severe headaches, and joint problems since having the jabs, and the doctors dismissing them as a coincidence. Even death has been reported. YIKES!

I don't think I will let her have it done, I mean as long as she uses condoms when that time comes, she will be OK? And we will pay for private smears from the age of when she starts? (I had abnormal cells at age 19).

What are your thoughts?

The tragic death of a young girl after the jab turned out to be entirely unrelated, her death was caused by an advanced tumour in the girl's abdomen or chest, which just happened to become critical at about the same time as she had the jab...

If you had abnormal cells at 19, I think that's all the more reason to let her have it... after all, what teenager really uses condoms all the time...?

And even if they do, the HPV virus is passed by skin to skin contact, not just ejaculate... and so condoms arent all that effective against it.... 100% condom use only reduces the chances of HPV infection by about 70% IIRC...

I wish the jab had been about earlier... it would have saved some people I have known from dreadful suffering.

I wouldn't hesitate, to be honest

MX5huggy

The only thing wrong with the HPV vaccine is that they are not giving it to boys. If this is still the case in 12 years time I shall be paying for it privately for my DS. To protect his partners.

moomoomama27

This was a very difficult one for us to consider, we did alot of research on the subject, and decided not to go for the vaccine, my DD was informed of balanced research all the way through, and it was her decision also.

It's down to each family to decide. The school nurse tried to guilt trip us, and places we sought advice tried the opposite in scaring us not to have it. In the end we balanced it all and came to an informed decision.

Darlyd

Research I am trying to do, says that it only protects against 2 out of the 5 strains? And the female still needs to be careful, and also have smears etc, so that says to me that is won't be 100% effective?

I really need to do some more research into this.