My son's 18th birthday wish list

dirtysexymonkey

victory wrote: »

I wouldn't go as far as to say I am a bad parent, my son has very good qualities and very bad ones and the bad ones are trying to be someone else, richer, flashier, more I want without trying to contribute to it, more showy off our back, we as parents never created that, try being at school and not spending one day without another kid there showing off what he has, taunting what he will get for his birthday, gloating about what his xmas presents are going to be, I am sure my son was not dragged up, he was raised to be polite etc but is needy more than my generation or any other because everyone else has got what he does not have.

:rotfl:you wouldnt know it from all the posts you make about him. you routinely assassinate his character! all while making yourself out to be the poor little downtrodden martyr who does her best. you made him this way, and you're the one always slagging him off. how do you think he'd feel if he read all the things you write about him? he'd be ashamed of you. you should be ashamed of yourself. honestly, you make suicide bombers look like amateur martyrs!

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*max*

victory wrote: »

I never made his life like this, teenagers did, consumerism did, you have to have all this stuff to be the cool one did.

It is no way sympathy it is a fact of life, all the kids out there these days wants better, designer, the latest, the best, the most expensive, well, son off you go and work for it and you can have whatever you want, I was never after all these things because in my day there was never all this need to be better than the other kids, I had a great life.

I'm sorry, but this is bullcrap. You have to take responsibility for the person you created. Society did not create him, you did. It was your responsibilty to bring him up with those values you so readily assume as your own now. Kids don't suddenly turn into money-grabbing psychopaths at 13. If they had learned respect - for everything - before they turned into the seemingly unmanageable free-spirits they do when they hit teenage time, then they would not be "twonks" for life. Only for a few years. I'm afraid you're looking at your own failure here - not "society's".

victory

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victory

*max* wrote: »

I'm sorry, but this is bullcrap. You have to take responsibility for the person you created. Society did not create him, you did. It was your responsibilty to bring him up with those values you so readily assume as your own now. Kids don't suddenly turn into money-grabbing psychopaths at 13. If they had learned respect - for everything - before they turned into the seemingly unmanageable free-spirits they do when they hit teenage time, then they would not be "twonks" for life. Only for a few years. I'm afraid you're looking at your own failure here - not "society's".

Society took over more influencial than a parent when they get to secondry school, much more, I brought him up to have the values etc he has not being a money grabber myself he could not havegot that off me, having a 3/4 year old phone he did not get it off me he hasto have the latest blackberry, not having designer trainers or clothes myself he did not get it off me that he needs to have all that, I wear primark, car boot sales, charity shops and sales clothes, always have done.

My son will be a difficult person for a few years not for life, when he can see he is being daft expecting and hoping and wishing for the impossible unless he goes out and earns loads and gets it himself he will not get it off me.

victory

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dirtysexymonkey

victory wrote: »

It is harsh what you say , I guess that is your intention and will not be drawn into it, you know if you have any intelligence that apart from my selfish son there are many many more like him who are driving their parents crazy with the I wants, not least some of the parents that have already come on this thread and said so, I am not the only parent in the land dealing with a son that is over demanding and unbereable about what he thinks he deserves, needs and wants to look cool infront of his other friends who are also in their respective houses doing exactly the same to their parents. They all see what each othe has and feed off that.

they arent the majority. most people are brought up properly. and not by people who always blame something else when they have messed up.

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dirtysexymonkey

victory wrote: »

Society took over more influencial than a parent when they get to secondry school, much more, I brought him up to have the values etc he has not being a money grabber myself he could not havegot that off me, having a 3/4 year old phone he did not get it off me he hasto have the latest blackberry, not having designer trainers or clothes myself he did not get it off me that he needs to have all that, I wear primark, car boot sales, charity shops and sales clothes, always have done.

My son will be a difficult person for a few years not for life, when he can see he is being daft expecting and hoping and wishing for the impossible unless he goes out and earns loads and gets it himself he will not get it off me.

rubbish! why isnt every teen like your son then? a minority are, but thats it. you just sound like someone who cant accept that you messed up and you think its everyone elses fault. just like your son thinks everyone else should get everything for him. you cant even see the similarities.

i hope your son does see what you really think of him. because then you might grasp what you have done to him and you will suffer the consequences.